How to be more successful without stressing

Hello BSL buddies!!

Today i will be sharing how to be more successful without stressing.  It’s going to be a very informal post. I’ve found myself enjoying when i publish these kind of posts where I can be authentic, straight forward and provide good tips to help you all on your journey.

Within these past few months I’ve noticed I have been slightly stressing a lot and getting overwhelmed with succeeding and being impatient with achieving my goals. When you don’t get the recognition you deserve and everything that comes with being a blogger like sponsors, brand deals, and other things in that aspect it becomes very stressful. Although as a blogger i know it takes time and patience, but still at times I have it bad wanting things to happen much quicker. I always ask myself why i just can’t be that boss woman already that I see myself being in my head, be successful and making 24/7 income so I can travel the world. Sounds a little over the top right? 



Sometimes i talk to myself, and honestly i don’t care lol. I honestly feel that if we don’t get the right advice from someone else then we have to be our own motivation, inspiration, and all the above.

I tend to ask myself, Seqouia? Why are you so in the rush? Why do you want everything to be so easy? If it was just that simple we would have more successful people.

Like what Michelle Obama said ” The only way you succeed is by failing”. That is so true. We will fail, and it is totally fine because failing is only a test, and it just helps you figure out what you aren’t doing right and eventually you will prosper in your business. What you should know is that you have to put out quality and informative content to even reach your target audience in order to be relevant.

I am a very hard worker, and i am very determined to continue achieving my goals. I take (brownsugarlifestyle) very serious because i am not using my platform as just an blog, it’s also a brand. I put in the time, the work, the long nights/early morning, the stress, and i always try to make sure i am consistent with my blogs by posting twice a week or once a week, or more. Do i still need to improve and educate myself? Yes! Yes! Yes!


Staying focus should always be your main priority. When you apply the principle you will get better results everyday. When you wake up and getting ready to start work, use that day as a new start. Focus on that particular day instead of having all that confusion. Daily task are important, i always say having a notebook or an daily planner is needed more than people think. 

Believe in yourself. You have to have self confidence to even succeed in anything. You don’t want to think negative all the time, because the outcome will turn out to be exactly how you think. You have to believe in your abilities and what you are capable of. Success is a process and you have to be ready for whatever that comes towards you. Tell your self, okay it’s hard but down the line it will pay off. There will be people that will not believe in your vision and those are the people you don’t need in your inner circle, keep them on the outside. You should be on focus mode everyday of the week, and how ever long it take to make it through out your journey. 

I enjoy giving out these kind of motivational blogs, because I educate myself everyday so I can be wiser and more wiser. All my blogs are to encourage you all that anything is possible and to not let anything stop you! Don’t let the hype discourage you from moving forward, sometimes everything you see on social media isn’t what it’s cooked up to be. Be patient, be consistent, be determined, be wiser. I will always share my journeys, challenges, and my ups and downs because I don’t always want to be just someone to motivate my audience, I want to grow with you all as well. I am still learning and building myself just as much as others, so I’m very opened to share my challenges i have been and going through.

I wish you all nothing but the best in your success, and i hope you all continue to constantly give me a visit. I also hope that my blogs are very helpful and an eye opener as well. 

Feel free to comment, email me, or message me on my social media i am always available :).

       XoXo -SeqouiaB

5 Ways to Orgasm That you may know

I know it is a high percentage of women who have a hard time having a orgasm in sex. It’s becoming more of a topic now days, and men are starting to realize that some of us women are not getting pleasure out of sex really. So I am intrigued now that our culture is finally starting to embrace the female orgasm and acknowledge the fact that women feel, and need pleasure too. But these type of talks are very much needed because it can put more pressure on how to reach an orgasm, whether if they haven’t had one, only know of one way to, or only can have one by themselves.

So for the advancement of your sex life (because we crave a warming erotic & arousing feeling) , here are 5 ways to orgasm that you may or might not know.

1. Talk about sex: Discussing the sex topic outside the bedroom can encourage you towards a healthier sex life. Having these conversations with friends, or just acquaintances is a interesting way to normalize sex and provides a space to ask serial questions and hear about other experiences as well. The more you talk about sex, the more opened you will feel when it’s time to get into it.It’s nothing wrong hearing how others have orgasms, because mayvbe that will open you & your partner mind to spice things up.

2. Fantasize: There are many ways to get the brain stimulating, because sex is physical and mental, so to even feel aroused, sex has to already have been on your mind. Fantasizing can help you discover your sexuality and find multiple ways to feel pleasure, rather than getting caught up in achieving an orgasm and the worrisome performance anxiety. But we are lucky now days because there are plenty of ways to fantasize like, listening to something seductive, watching pornography, reading explicit books, etc. Also, taking the time to gently ease your mind + body into a sexual mental state through sensual activities, and rose pedal baths with candles.

3. Try a list of new things by (researching): If you’re still not climaxing, it might be because you need to try something new. Or if you are doing the samething your definitely missing out on other intense ways on how to climax. You can go on amazon or hit up a sex store and look at variety of sex toys and lube. It is more to our bodies that can stimulate us to orgasm, we just have to figure it out. Try new things whether it’s toys, sex positions, & finding new spots on the body. All for the sake of pleasure, enjoyment, and getting to know your body better. An orgasm will just be the ending goal.

4. Masturbation is the new self-care: Exploring your own pleasure defnitely can be fun. Don’t feel embarrased about it! Mastubating actually has a few good benefits, like changing your mood, or even easing some pain. Making masturbation part of your self-care can help you learn your body with comfort and confidence.

5. Study your flowing juices: Which toy turned you on more? Which position made you climax? Tap into your sexual energy and pay attention on what get your juices flowing and dripping down your thighs. It’s always good to know what turns you on the most. Listening to your body plays a huge part of any kind of sexual activity.

How to find space to express yourself? (For women)

As a woman I get it. Our space should always be confidential. I mean sometimes it’s for our own good. Because exposing too much of our private life might set us up to be either judged or teased. Also, women need space to express ourselves because we can’t always vent to family and friends. And that is ok.

One thing I dislike now is expressing emotions on social media. Social media shouldn’t know your personal emotions. Because that platform isn’t a diary. You shouldn’t never be that opened to let everyone know when you are having any kind of situation or feelings. Good or bad.

It’s a new year to try handling things differently such as being more in tuned with your inner-soul. Trust yourself more. Find your hidden creativity skills.

  1. Acknowledging your emotions: Some of us do not know how to safely express our emotions. Which will make it hard for others to understand you. Emotions can be challenging, because many of us hide them, feel embarrassed, or ashamed of letting people know how we truly feel. But it’s okay to have emotions, it’s okay to get upset, it’s okay to have feelings, we are normal. It happens. Getting closer to your emotions will get you more in touch with who you really are, and will help with reducing so much build up stress.
  2. Journal your feelings: Start keeping track of your emotions by writing your feelings down in a journal. For some people expressing yourself by pen might be a huge relief. Write down how you react when it comes to your emotions and why. This will help you start to become more connected to how you really feel deeply inside, instead of just putting your emotions aside.
  3. Create a collage: Make a collage of all the things that you like or want to do. Like for example, I like to travel. I made a collage of all the places I haven’t been to and using this collage as a manifestation of travel spots I want to visit. Or you can find pictures that resonate with how you feel and what you want to express.
  4. Play music + vibe: Honestly, music can be very therapeutic, and something you can relate to. Listen to some dope artist that you might can relate to. For me I love listening to Jhene Aiko & Tems. Both lovely ladies music brings me so much peace and I can relate to some of their music in so many ways.
  5. Practice coping with your emotions: Exploring your true self and learning to express yourself is not easy at all. But, living authentically, and validating your feelings every time, will give you confidence to be more opened to yourself. Instead of boxing in the emotions or acting out the emotions with hostility this will help you cope.

XoXo Brown Sugar Lifestyle.

How to grow, heal, and take self criticism

I remember when I first got to the point in my life when I realize I am really growing and that no one no longer serves me. And yes, I feared the thought of losing people I felt so close to. But it was just this weird feeling that suddenly just came to me that I couldn’t get rid of. My body, my soul, needed nurturing, healing, growth…. I’ve been isolating myself mentally, it’s like when I am around certain people I go home and feel so drained. That’s when I knew it’s time for change, it’s time for growth…

On the other hand…

It is essential that we never forget who we are and to never fault ourselves. Because we are still learning everyday, we are still growing.

Mistakes will happen, it’s just lessons we have learned. Pave the way to put your soul at peace and stop dwelling on what you can not do. You will never show up to be the “most perfect” person in the world, because it’s no such thing. But we all have some imperfections that could be undesirable to us. What’s done is done, because as long as you love whom you see in the mirror that should always remind you to feel valued.

Me, my self always show empathy to others because I know how it feels to not align with myself, I know how it feels to never feel that nothing is never enough. But I have gotten tired of living in pain and always feeling unpleasant to others. It’s not about anyone, It’s about you. Start choosing you, be self-fish with you.

Take time to acknowledge where your insecurities are coming from, and step back and figure out why are you blaming yourself for things you can’t control. Stop letting the world of hypocrites make you feel like you need to change something about yourself, because remember it’s not about them, it’s about you.

live in alignment and find your true self…. I promise all your worries will go away…. XoXo Seqouia….

How I learned to move on from negative thinking

I am not quite sure if dealing with so much on your plate bothers you or not, but if it does your definitely not alone. I’ve been their before, and man it’s traumatizing. First foremost, let’s get into how dramatic I am ha! I have always been a person who always overthinks just about anything. Of course my anxiety plays a part of it, but honestly it’s a lot of my overthinking as well.

When I use to get in certain situations, I would literally get to the point where I just give up. I didn’t even use to try. And not having faith is a huge sign of needing to find self-love.

Sometimes we are battling ourselves, because truthfully we do not know who we are and why things aren’t going how we expect it to. Then we get in the habit of feeling like we are failing all the time. But lets take out time to figure out who we are and why can’t we shake these personal feelings.

Remember we think about situations we put ourselves in either prior or after, so it’s definitely a mind thing. But we have to learn how to over power our minds. Time to turn all negatives into positives aspects.

But… how?

Here are the steps I took to move on from negative thinking:

  1. Cut off all negative people from having easy access to you. Don’t listen to the saying “watch the company you keep” instantly remove them. You know when someone isn’t good for you. Having someone negative around you drains your energy 100%. And also, can run other good people away from you.
  2. Turn your negative thinking into positive thinking. Negative thinking is pretty common now days. I’m sure everyone has thought negative before. Maybe not as often, but I know it have occurred at some point. But when that time comes, try replacing those thoughts with positivity. For an example: “I know I need to lose weight, but then again I am still beautiful inside and out.”
  3. Be happy. I know this is the obvious but let’s be realistic, for some people being happy can be a little bit difficult mainly because their upbringing. But honestly, why aren’t you happy? what’s bothering you so much for you to never be in the mood? We let the smallest things make us so annoyed when we really can brush them off. Being happy isn’t hard at all, we make it hard. Find what keeps you in a more happy mood. I am not saying to just smile all day, but really what’s the reason to always be upset for? And this is coming from a person who was always irritable at some point. Being happy attracts the right people, being happy gets things done because you will always be in the mood.

Stay tuned for part 2 ……