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Expressive Writing, how to, Relationships

How to keep your relationship healthy: Part1

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First off, relationships will always have ups and downs. Their is no way to having a perfect relationship. Perhaps some relationships are really good and have small issues plus+ they some how can compromise more then others. Everyone is different and everyone has different personalities+rules. But see….the things is, a lot of relationships seem to not see eye to eye. Sometimes it can be pride, being stubborn, lack of communication, temperament issues, cheating issues, lying issues, and so on….

When both partners have the opposite flaws, their personalities begin to clash. I say this because it’s either your partner don’t like to be mushy all day, and the other partner wants to be mushy all day, which makes it hard. One partner is 100% authentic and the other partner lies about everything that comes out there mouth. One partner likes to have sex everyday, the other partner doesn’t. 

 

First of all, here is a few tips relationships need to stay healthy:

  • Communication: Without knowing how to talk to one another it will not work at all. Lack of communications brings frustration, trust issues, toxic arguments, & lose of interest. When you are irritated even if it’s not with your significant other, let them know, explain to them why you are feeling the way you are. When you feel like your significant other is changing, or acting a certain way they normally don’t act, address it, don’t be petty and give in to there energy. All that will do is spark up another fight you two don’t need!

 

  • Go on dates: Going on dates are definitely important. You have to spice up your relationship. It doesn’t matter if it’s a weekly movie date, dinner date, or whatever you guys decide to do. Just make sure you try new things and explore places together. 

 

  • Travel: Yes! Traveling together is very meaningful to me. Why not go experience new countries/states together. Who wouldn’t enjoy a nice cocktail at Cancun with bae?!.. or somewhere on a island looking at the beautiful view getting massages together. Take that into consideration. It helps. Some people use the excuse “we don’t have money”, please don’t be the excuse type. As a team you both can save up money together for a nice trip to get some “bae time” 

 

  • Romance: Some people think romance is corny, it’s definitely not. Romance brings that hot, sexy, fulfilling, uniqueness, and spontaneous vibes to to your relationship. Romance will make you two sex life so much better. Light some candles, have flowers laid out, buy a nice gift, do a surprise date, get a room even if ya’ll have a place together, ladies go buy lingerie and some sexy heels! look at one another in the eyes and express how good you been feeling about one another. It’s totally okay to act as if you two just meant all over again.

 

  • Compliment: In relationships, a lot of issues start to occur because of insecurities. Once you stop complimenting your significant other like you did before, they start to not feel the same. Trust me i know. I definitely been there. You have to make sure you always tell your woman she’s beautiful and tell your man he looks good or handsome. That will make your significant other feel good, and show them that you still pay attention to them. Mostly women are the ones who usually go through this, we love for a man to just make us feel and look good. 

 

 

Like i said in the beginning, relationships aren’t perfect. But it’s not hard making sacrifices, and fighting for your relationship. Don’t include people like friends+family in whatever you have going on with your significant other. All it does is sparks up confusion, and starts drama. Sometimes keeping a private relationship is the best. Everyone is so into “Couple Goals”, and not knowing that two smiley faces and kissing pictures aren’t want they seem behind close doors. Focus more on building, instead of being the couple everyone wants together.

I hope that these tips are helpful, if you have any questions about this post feel free to contact me.

                   

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Expressive Writing, My thoughts, Self-love

The past made me stronger

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Hey you!….

I remember just not to long ago I wasn’t happy, I was insecure, always depressed, emotional, angry, and it was the worst to ever go through. Although I knew I had depression/anxiety, I know that wasn’t the reason why I was so unhappy. I just always been a confused person. I never really had support, or never knew the feeling of someone caring for me. I was a negative thinker. I would think everyone was against me and always wanted to compete with me for some odd reason. Like growing up it felt like when I did progress in something someone always wanted to top me… and I never knew why. And I was never confident to feel that people were jealous or wanted what I had because I never really had much honestly.

I felt like I’ve never seen eye to eye with people and sometimes I would put on an act as if I agreed with them because people use to always say I’m a disagreeable person. Which is very true, I was. I just was always the outsider. I thought extremely different from others and no matter how much I tried to stay in with the new I know that I’m the person that’s always in with the old. When family come over I would be anti-social and stay in my room the entire time. It’s not because I’m not talkative because I actually talk entirely to much, but it’s because I just never felt a vibe with my family. But why? Why would I need to vibe with my family when it shouldn’t matter? But I can’t never answer the question because I definitely don’t have the answer to that. Now i do know that family is important, but honestly i still feel the same. Maybe i just don’t click with them i guess…

Now, I can truly say I can wake up with a smile on my face. No matter if I’m broke, going through a struggle, having relationship issues, or whatever I got going on in my personal life. I came to a conclusion that I wasn’t happy, and I haven’t been happy in a very long time. So I started doing things that I know that would make me happy.

For an example:

•Go out for drinks

•Travel

•Write my thoughts

•Meditation

•Go to the movies

•Read a good novel

•Do a good cleaning

 

It’s the small things that can brighten your day. We all have our issues and we all have times where we might be lost and need time to find our way. It’s okay. Coming from my perspective I feel like anyone can get through pain, confusion, and anything else they are going through. Figure out what makes you happy, and what makes you feel comfortable. You have to stay positive at all times and believe in change. When you do that, you will definitely see a big change in your life. Knowing the truth and admitting to your flaws is the #1 step to moving forward. You have to be honest with yourself before you be honest with any else first. I realize I didn’t put myself first, I would put everybody before me. That got me no where. Now that I put myself first “Not to sound selfish”, i feel more dominant and open to be more happy with others around me. My past made me stronger today!

 

All & All keep working and building on loving yourself. Don’t use your past as a regret, use it as a lesson learned. It’s your time to put your health first.

 

 

Hope I was able to inspire others with this blog, it was definitely my whole purpose to show others that they can get through the toughest storms. Even if they don’t know exactly what is wrong with them, but they just know they aren’t there selves. I want others to continue to win, lead, and succeed. 2019 is OUR YEAR!

 

 

XoXo -SeqouaiB

Expressive Writing

The struggles i been through over time

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Hello you guys! Today I wrote this blog because I decided to be a little more expressive about my life, and be more open to all my readers :). I wanted to talk about how my life been up and down The past couple years. So let’s see, not just 2018, the past couple years has been a tough journey. I can’t even put on an act as if i am the happiest woman alive because i admit i am not. The struggles, the stress, the pain, depression, anxiety, loses, going broke, struggling, in debt, weight gain, and i can go on.

At first i didn’t believe in failure, and i definitely wasn’t a firm believer. I was the type of person that always thought negative and didn’t believe in happiness. I was angry, i was bitter, i was miserable, and i didn’t want to believe in myself. I’m not sure if it was relationship problems, family problems, or the people i associate and be around that made me such a wreck but i do know that life itself put you through multiple challenges. We are getting challenged everyday, but i failed to realize that. I felt that everything was suppose to be right at all times, and if it wasn’t right and i fail, i would be hurt. But that’s not how it suppose to go or how it suppose to be. Of course i knew that, but like i said i wasn’t a believer. I should of trusted the process i have worked so hard to get through.

As the year start moving so fast, i started to question myself on my actions.

“Why am angry?” “Am i going to continue to live this way?” “Why am i still stuck in the past?” “Why am i in this dark hole?”

Then i began to start expressive writing again. When i say expressive writing, i pretty much mean i’m expressing myself by writing it out. When i write out my problems and my issues it use to always make me feel better, so i decided to do it again. Did it work? Yes indeed, may not be 100% that it worked all the way but i can truly say that at that time writing helped me be a much positive thinker and believer about 80% of the time.

So, i slowed down blogging for a really good reason, I STUDIED BLOGGING. For two months straight i did my research on blogging. I got all the details, learned about different topics, got ideas on having a niche from other bloggers, read up on a lot of “how to’s”, bought books and guides on blogging, and so much more. When i started back blogging i decided to spice my blog life up a little better. I made a really good article that had over 8,000 views, man i was thrilled. From there, i just kept writing good blogs, and began to start receiving a lot of emails from my readers and companies. So now that i had my blogging down pack, something was still off. I had no SUPPORT. Yes, no support at all. No one reached out to me and asked if i wanted them to share any of my blogs, and also never got a quick question on what i blog about, it was like no one showed me no kind of support or interest.

Far as me blogging, 8 months ago my blogs were “OK”, but now i grew so much as a blogger/writer it makes me want to cry. I remember i couldn’t get not 1 view, now i am getting more views, and getting noticed by more people. That has been a blessing, and i still have a long way to go, and still need a lot more people to visit me. It was times i would publish blogs once a month because i started losing faith in my writing as well, I started to feel that maybe writing was just best being private no matter how much i enjoy it. It takes hard work in dedication to stay positive in your line of interest, and me? i was losing interest.

“Sometimes I feel free, sometimes I feel trapped, sometimes I feel lost, sometimes I feel wrapped, but as the day go by I still realized that I am blessed and now I know that. All the pain I have endured, and all the sick/lost nights, I still fight to be the best woman I never thought I can be. Belief is what is important. Trust your instincts and don’t act on them just move forward, and I did.”-SeqouiaB

I can’t use the saying “When i smile i cover up my pain”, i actually showed my pain. I use to always be frowned up you can see the pain in my face. I was a very angry person, and i am definitely glad that i am becoming strong enough to focus on my happiness, and work on “ME”. I can say today at this moment, I am in a happier place then ever. I still have my moments, but i am doing much better with coping with my personal issues, and not showing them when i am going through things.

I just want to let everyone know if you are going through any kind of issues, it’s going to be fine. Find something you enjoy doing and that makes you happy. Sometimes we need to just block out our problems and do something that keeps your mind on a much positive level. Don’t let nothing interfere in nothing positive you are trying to do for yourself. Find your self love, work on your energy you bring around others, accept your past, and know that CHANGE is possible and BELIEVE in it!

I definitely recommend, expressive writing to any of my readers who suffer from any kind of pain, and mental health. Writing cures the mind, body, and soul, and make you feel so much better. Sometimes venting by writing is much better than venting to people, because you never know who might judge you or say any negative feedback. Express through writing, and later down the line you can see the change in your mental health, and how much better you have got from stressing and being happy.

Anyways my loves, wrapping this blog up. Enjoyed this blog? more expressive writing is coming. Hope all is well….. Please contact me for any concerns. Follow me on my social media which you can find on my page.

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XOXO -SEQOUIAB