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How to keep your relationship healthy: Part1

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First off, relationships will always have ups and downs. Their is no way to having a perfect relationship. Perhaps some relationships are really good and have small issues plus+ they some how can compromise more then others. Everyone is different and everyone has different personalities+rules. But see….the things is, a lot of relationships seem to not see eye to eye. Sometimes it can be pride, being stubborn, lack of communication, temperament issues, cheating issues, lying issues, and so on….

When both partners have the opposite flaws, their personalities begin to clash. I say this because it’s either your partner don’t like to be mushy all day, and the other partner wants to be mushy all day, which makes it hard. One partner is 100% authentic and the other partner lies about everything that comes out there mouth. One partner likes to have sex everyday, the other partner doesn’t. 

 

First of all, here is a few tips relationships need to stay healthy:

  • Communication: Without knowing how to talk to one another it will not work at all. Lack of communications brings frustration, trust issues, toxic arguments, & lose of interest. When you are irritated even if it’s not with your significant other, let them know, explain to them why you are feeling the way you are. When you feel like your significant other is changing, or acting a certain way they normally don’t act, address it, don’t be petty and give in to there energy. All that will do is spark up another fight you two don’t need!

 

  • Go on dates: Going on dates are definitely important. You have to spice up your relationship. It doesn’t matter if it’s a weekly movie date, dinner date, or whatever you guys decide to do. Just make sure you try new things and explore places together. 

 

  • Travel: Yes! Traveling together is very meaningful to me. Why not go experience new countries/states together. Who wouldn’t enjoy a nice cocktail at Cancun with bae?!.. or somewhere on a island looking at the beautiful view getting massages together. Take that into consideration. It helps. Some people use the excuse “we don’t have money”, please don’t be the excuse type. As a team you both can save up money together for a nice trip to get some “bae time” 

 

  • Romance: Some people think romance is corny, it’s definitely not. Romance brings that hot, sexy, fulfilling, uniqueness, and spontaneous vibes to to your relationship. Romance will make you two sex life so much better. Light some candles, have flowers laid out, buy a nice gift, do a surprise date, get a room even if ya’ll have a place together, ladies go buy lingerie and some sexy heels! look at one another in the eyes and express how good you been feeling about one another. It’s totally okay to act as if you two just meant all over again.

 

  • Compliment: In relationships, a lot of issues start to occur because of insecurities. Once you stop complimenting your significant other like you did before, they start to not feel the same. Trust me i know. I definitely been there. You have to make sure you always tell your woman she’s beautiful and tell your man he looks good or handsome. That will make your significant other feel good, and show them that you still pay attention to them. Mostly women are the ones who usually go through this, we love for a man to just make us feel and look good. 

 

 

Like i said in the beginning, relationships aren’t perfect. But it’s not hard making sacrifices, and fighting for your relationship. Don’t include people like friends+family in whatever you have going on with your significant other. All it does is sparks up confusion, and starts drama. Sometimes keeping a private relationship is the best. Everyone is so into “Couple Goals”, and not knowing that two smiley faces and kissing pictures aren’t want they seem behind close doors. Focus more on building, instead of being the couple everyone wants together.

I hope that these tips are helpful, if you have any questions about this post feel free to contact me.

                   

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Girl Boss, how to, Lifestyle, Motivation and Growth

HOW TO BE A GIRL BOSS |11 HABITS

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Hey everyone! Hey Girl-Bosses!

I am so excited and thrilled to write my first blog post on being a girl boss, that will inspire and empower the ladies to move on up to a higher level on building a career on their own..

First of all, Girl bosses aren’t suppose to be 100% perfect, rich, and have everything on point right away. It takes time! A lot of us ladies, haven’t got it all figured out, we make mistakes. We get discouraged. We get stressed. We get overwhelmed. BUT we aren’t going to let these problems define who we are anymore.

Success is a long journey, it’s not going to be easy, but once you pull through, the light will show how many bumpy roads you been through to get to where you at now.…but girl bosses are ready for anything that comes there way, and ready to see what life has to offer. So to all my soon to be girl bosses out there, here are 10 Tips on becoming a girl Boss….

#1 BRAINSTORM + PLAN

To be a boss you have to have a plan. A lot of people just jump right into being something they aren’t yet and more than likely they begin to fall off. So we can’t let that happen right?…. brainstorm on all your plans and stick to it. Make sure that on your daily work days, you have something planned out already. That means you need to get a lot of beauty rest so you can wake up and get ready to start your business/boss day. As women we like to be in control, it’s okay to admit to it, because it’s the truth. Everyday is a new opportunity, take advantage of that, not focus on what’s going on, on the other side. Be confidence in this process.

#2 ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS


Be confident. Feel good about yourself and what you’re doing. You already a girl boss even if you haven’t started your business yet. BUT the fact you already planning, researching, and studying to be a girl boss, you accomplished something.

#3 BE FEARLESS

No hesitation, just go for what you know and want. Give in all the hard work you can! Think about your future from now, do you see yourself making no mistakes? or do you just feel everything is going to be perfectly fine and not make any? NOT! please don’t be that sure, you will have a lot of challenges you have to battle. It’s okay to be confident because all girl bosses suppose to. BUT understand to be an entrepreneur it’s not an easy walk in the park. Don’t live with the “What ifs” and the “I give up”, I rather live with the “I can” “Lets do it” “Lets try” “OH WELL” “NEXT TIME”. I say this because you have to believe in failure, and failure will come just to test you TRUST! Nothing is more better than knowing how feisty, strong, and down to earth you are!

#4 ACCEPT FAILURE “CAUSE IT WILL HAPPEN”

I have made plenty of post discussing failure because most of us can’t accept it, or couldn’t at the time. If you are trying to be a girl boss i can tell you now that you have to accept failure. Failure isn’t a bad thing at all, perhaps it’s actually a good thing. I’m sure you heard the old school saying you will “LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES”. It’s definitely true. Failure is actually GOOD. It makes success so much worth fighting for. Easy is lame, and for people who want a hand out, BOOOO!!!! Remember you aren’t alone at all, there is women out there that is dealing with the same thing right now at this minute!

#5 TALK TO PEOPLE

To be a girl boss you have to be a people person, and if you aren’t you have to work on being one. It’s good to network with others, and associate with people who are in the same line of business you are. Also, it’s good to meet people ahead of you because they can be a lot of help and teach you some things you may not know. Holding your own in intellectual conversations is an A+ in your success. Drive people out of there heads to realize how smart and intelligent you are. You never know what open doors of opportunities might be coming your way. I’m just saying….

#6 LEARN. READ. STUDY

Learning is a life long process, so it’s always good to be talkative and willing to explore.

READ – Make sure you read a lot. If you aren’t a reader then guess what sis it’s time to get in them BOOKS! Learn and read as much as you can. There is so many ways and tips on you becoming a girl boss. Every girl boss should educate her self on how to make money in their line of business, and what can they do, or what do they need to get prepared. Their are books out there just for that.

STUDY – Make sure you study. Take all the notes you  can, take all the screen shots you can, just  make sure you are putting more knowledge in your head day by day. You have to be a master mind or train yourself to be one. Being  smart and showing it off is a A+! Know your SHIT!

#7 EARLY BIRD

Your determined to be in the entrepreneur field now, so you definitely need rest. Especially if you suffer from insomnia like me which is hard to go to sleep early. Now i am working on my sleeping schedule. Go to sleep more early, wake up early and get things done. Also, even though when you are your own boss your working towards being self employed, you have to make sure your mind/body is ready for early meetings, and any other important things that have to be done business hours. If you wake up early, you have to eat a good healthy breakfast, time to do a quick work out, time to make your morning coffee instead of late in the night so much.

#8 HEALTH

Your health is important. Who am i to talk? Yea i know… at first i didn’t take my health seriously, and actually it kind of made me lose hope in furthering my dreams because i started to get really lazy. Now that i know health is important, i am on it! If you are always getting ill then the best thing for you to do is stay on your vitamins, healthy drinks, healthy foods, veggies, fruit and much more. We need vitamins in our body, and we have to keep our immune system in good health. What if your business require traveling? so keeping up with your health is so important. Work out a couple times out the week. I work out a couple times of week due to my mental health issues, i suffer from depression and anxiety so when i work out it definitely makes me feel much better.

#9 MAKE OFFICE SPACE IN YOUR HOME

I feel that making an office space in your place of living is perfect and convenient. Having your own office space just looks so much professional and legit. Especially if you work from home, and you need your own little space for your notes, computer/laptop, and whatever else. It makes your girl boss attitude 10X confident. Also, when you walk into your office space you know automatically it’s time to work and get things done. I promise it will make your life way more organized.

#10 MAKE TIME FOR YOUR SELF

Making time out for yourself is important. Like reading a book, watching your favorite t.v. shows you haven’t watched in a while, cooking your favorite dish, going out to the movies, or even leaving town for a couple days. With me working a regular job and still building a business from scratch sometimes is very stressful, so when i get overwhelmed i just shut down. I will go two months without talking to people like that, and just staying to myself trying to get my mind together. Pampering yourself is important but i definitely recommend to just pick 1 day out the week to pamper yourself while you are still building or working on your business. Your physical and mental health is so important.

#11 HAVE A ROUTINE/SCHEDULE

Having a routine is definitely needed. You have to make sure you plan out things you need to get done, Self discipline will keep you from having a brain that is scattered everywhere. Organized comes with being a girl boss. Make sure you have a schedule and a list of all your weekly plans in your planner so you can stay on top of all your work and priorities.

Being an entrepreneur isn’t easy at all. Sometimes, it’s not set up for everyone neither. You have to be prepared of the do’s and don’t, and what can everything turn out to be later down the line. It takes hard work, long nights/early mornings, to be whoever that you got set in your mind to be. It’s going to be difficult, and no matter how defeated you are don’t think that failure isn’t possible, because it is. I have gave up so many times, i have fell off so many times, i even been through the stage where i just felt like i was at my ending point and i just can’t do it any more. I had to let go of the negative and stay more on the positive side, and learned how to believe in myself more. Trust the process. Keep picking yourself up every time you fall, giving up should never be an option or a thought. You have to know your worth before anybody else knows it.

Well that is it, i hope this blog was really helpful out there to all the beautiful strong driven ladies. I wish you nothing but the best in your success. Drop a comment, or personally contact me if you have any concerns.

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HOW TO MAKE TIME FOR THIS THE SEASON

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It has been a crazy week for me, preparing for school and dealing with all the late christmas shopping and trying to please my little girl. First off, hope you all enjoyed your holiday! As much as I love this cold season, let’s be honest it’s kind of depressing. Well you know what? not kind of, it is stressful.

My thoughts and emotions have been over the place this past week with trying to type up as much blogs as i can, writing this book, trying to land my first client with http://www.allthingsbysb.com, thinking about my goals for 2019 and what the new year holds for, figuring out new areas of growth for “Theonlyseqouiab” Blogs, and also having to deal with the slacking of not being consistent with building a business.

Personally, I am someone who likes to plan, brainstorm, and do a lot of research. I am very proactive, I even talk out my plans in my head, yeah so what lol! And so when I feel like I don’t have things going right, or feel uncertain about things like the new year.

I’ve had to repeatedly tell myself that ‘girl, it’s ok, just relax and stay positive, your time is coming. I’ve had to constantly tell myself you can’t have EVERYTHING your WAY! No one does, honestly. You have to keep faith each day. I found it hard with trying to cope with everything i got going on in my life. I always felt it would be helpful to share my thoughts on how to make time out for yourself during the holidays though because i feel it gives a big relief expressing your feelings and someone can be going through the same thing.

Yes, it’s amazing seeing family and friends, going out, having drunks nights, clubs, but sometimes all this can be overwhelming and completely stressing. You don’t want to look back at this time and wish you made out more time for yourself and backtrack when you will need time to rest, time to reflect, time to sit in think out on what this past year has been like for you.

So, with that being said, here are some ways to make out time for yourself this season!

 

1. PLAN OUT YOUR TIME

The first thing I would suggest is planning out your week ahead of time. Write down everything you need to take care of in your planner and the day it needs to be done by. First thing first, don’t forget about giving yourself time. You could treat yourself or just spend quality time doing what you love. It could be a couple of days or half a day. But, make sure you are doing this regularly though, you’ll be overly thrilled by the results.

#2: LEARN TO STOP ALWAYS SAYING YES

For me honestly it’s hard to say no, and i mean its hard! But sometimes, you’ve got be selfish with your time and patience. It come to a time when you need to put yourself first. There’s only so much you can give to others . If you are not feeling something, you don’t have to do it! Don’t force yourself to do things you don’t have no time for. Can’t make it for a birthday party? not your fault. Don’t have the funds to go out to an event with your friends? Not your fault! Use this time to evaluate and rethink about everything that you been dealing with and be ready to throw it all in the past!

#3: LIFE CLEANSE!

YES! I said it, life cleanse. What i mean by this you need to cut away everything that distracts you, stressing you out, pressure, and whatever else that is giving you a big headache right now. Ok for an example, Social media. Social media can be very good for your sources and yes that is where the money is at, but sometimes you need a break! We don’t realize how much we are addicted to social media and we need to take time to just put down our phones and let it just be in it’s on world sometimes. Relationships: Boy! can i tell you, that sometimes a relationship can be a distraction when it’s not on good terms. Well if you need to take time out to take a small break like a 2 day vacation just to focus on you do it! that don’t mean you have to break up but sometimes being to yourself for a while is needed. Your phone it self also can be tiresome, sometimes we tend to text a lot, and sit and stare on our phone even when it’s dry. It’s okay to sit your phone down for a couple hours just to read or take a quick 2 hour nap, remember your health is more important. So, treat your health like you should. I know we like to constantly update the world with our news but sometimes, we have to ask ourselves if it is necessary; we have to check our motives and priorities.

P h o t o of M E 💛

I really hope you guys like the tips I put up with this blog. Something fast but very explanatory. Remember to keep your mind, body, and soul 100% healthy. Focus on YOU!

Drop some comments, dm me on my socials, or gone head and share this blog 🤗. Hope you will be waiting on my next blog to be published stay tuned 😘!

XOXO -SEQOUIAB