Category Archives: Self-love







You read that title, YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. I know we all have our days when we are down and we don’t feel as accomplished like others, but don’t never doubt who you are. The world is in your hands remember that. Believe in yourself, believe that you are capable and blessed to be you, and to do whatever you desire. The key to success begins in the mind and heart. On that note demand yourself to turn your ambitions into reality. You dream big, aim high and are determined to translate those ambitions into actions.

I have been so insecure in myself countless of times. I didn’t need no one to put in my mind how i am because when i was insecure it was something I told myself already. I felt like i lived beyond my expectations. I started to really go days and nights just figuring it all out which led me to here Life changing i must say. Write affirmations to make you feel better, this is what I do, whenever I feel some low self-esteem kicking in, I write notes to myself. “Seqouia you can do it” “Seqouia you are going to be okay” “Seqouia you are winning”. Trust me it works.

 Talk to someone who is skilled, and able to read your body/mind and actually mentally help you. It can be a therapist, counselor, coach, or you can just simply do it. Develop the skills on your own and practice self-care/self-love. The ultimate key to success or believing in yourself starts in the mind. Once you run with that, you will be unstoppable, and thats a fact! No matter what when you dream big, reach high you will be determined to change those goals into actions. Sometimes, just seeing yourself achieve the results you want is living proof that you are good enough, and that you can do whatever you want if you put your mind into it.


When you look in the mirror work on building your confidence up. Don’t be so unsure in yourself. You never know what greatness you have hidden behind that pain. Sometimes we just need a boost and a little push for us to realize our worth, to realize our happiness, and how we should really be feeling. We have to give ourselves guidance and be determined to believe in who we are and how we “NEED” to love who we are without doubting our love we have for ourselves. Being fearless is the best way to be, don’t be afraid to find out where you stand. Don’t be fearless to learn and go through different changes. Weigh out your options and know your WORTH.


Hey my loves hope you enjoyed this blog, and i hope this helps. You are more then welcome to comment your opinions and how you feel about this post, or just your past or recent experience. I enjoy reading other people thoughts or compliments :). My main focus is to uplift others and be able to motivate and empower also.


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The past made me stronger


Hey you!….

I remember just not to long ago I wasn’t happy, I was insecure, always depressed, emotional, angry, and it was the worst to ever go through. Although I knew I had depression/anxiety, I know that wasn’t the reason why I was so unhappy. I just always been a confused person. I never really had support, or never knew the feeling of someone caring for me. I was a negative thinker. I would think everyone was against me and always wanted to compete with me for some odd reason. Like growing up it felt like when I did progress in something someone always wanted to top me… and I never knew why. And I was never confident to feel that people were jealous or wanted what I had because I never really had much honestly.

I felt like I’ve never seen eye to eye with people and sometimes I would put on an act as if I agreed with them because people use to always say I’m a disagreeable person. Which is very true, I was. I just was always the outsider. I thought extremely different from others and no matter how much I tried to stay in with the new I know that I’m the person that’s always in with the old. When family come over I would be anti-social and stay in my room the entire time. It’s not because I’m not talkative because I actually talk entirely to much, but it’s because I just never felt a vibe with my family. But why? Why would I need to vibe with my family when it shouldn’t matter? But I can’t never answer the question because I definitely don’t have the answer to that. Now i do know that family is important, but honestly i still feel the same. Maybe i just don’t click with them i guess…

Now, I can truly say I can wake up with a smile on my face. No matter if I’m broke, going through a struggle, having relationship issues, or whatever I got going on in my personal life. I came to a conclusion that I wasn’t happy, and I haven’t been happy in a very long time. So I started doing things that I know that would make me happy.

For an example:

•Go out for drinks


•Write my thoughts


•Go to the movies

•Read a good novel

•Do a good cleaning


It’s the small things that can brighten your day. We all have our issues and we all have times where we might be lost and need time to find our way. It’s okay. Coming from my perspective I feel like anyone can get through pain, confusion, and anything else they are going through. Figure out what makes you happy, and what makes you feel comfortable. You have to stay positive at all times and believe in change. When you do that, you will definitely see a big change in your life. Knowing the truth and admitting to your flaws is the #1 step to moving forward. You have to be honest with yourself before you be honest with any else first. I realize I didn’t put myself first, I would put everybody before me. That got me no where. Now that I put myself first “Not to sound selfish”, i feel more dominant and open to be more happy with others around me. My past made me stronger today!


All & All keep working and building on loving yourself. Don’t use your past as a regret, use it as a lesson learned. It’s your time to put your health first.



Hope I was able to inspire others with this blog, it was definitely my whole purpose to show others that they can get through the toughest storms. Even if they don’t know exactly what is wrong with them, but they just know they aren’t there selves. I want others to continue to win, lead, and succeed. 2019 is OUR YEAR!



XoXo -SeqouaiB

Why do we suffer from self-love?

Happy BlogTober my loves, I am back with another blog on self love. Which is and always will be one of my favorite topics :).

The best part of my life so far is learning how to love myself and be more accepting. Some people like me don’t realize that i didn’t have self love until i start realizing the way i react, the negativity, the disrespect, and the way how i go head over hills for other people besides myself. At times i felt not worthy, i felt like i was going to just shut down and give up on everything. The pain i endured, the pain i suffered from, was the most horrific time in my life. I would look in the mirror and see different from others. It’s totally normal to go through this stage. A lot of people suffer from not having self love/depression because their past, relationship, weight gain/loss, family issues, etc. I have two known facts explaining in detail why we suffer from self love issues.


                                               Let me start with.….


Relationships are so lovely, but then again relationships can be so depressing. Things can go so good and i mean good, then boom you turn around and feelings don’t be mutual any more. Wait, let me fix that, your feelings are there, but your significant other feelings isn’t, and it shows. Most of time it’s majority of women that suffer from this issue. As women we do love hard, and when we tend to feel that the person we are in love with don’t show the same love anymore we start to blame ourselves for a lot of different reasons. We start to question ourselves and doubt who we are now. The insecurities start to flow in, depression turns into anxiety, and now you start doing everything in your might to keep the person that you love, you end up forgetting to do things for yourself, you began to love them more than you love you, and thats when you start seeing that you don’t have self love anymore. 


Weight gain/loss:

Weight issues play a big part of self love. When you gain a certain amount of weight that you never expected and it’s hard to get rid of that weight, your whole confidence shuts down. You don’t feel the same, look the same, and don’t even move the same anymore. You began to call yourself fat and all type of other names. You start to not feel sexually active anymore because the thought of looking at your body compared to how your old body looked, can apparently be terrifying. When you lose weight, it’s the same feelings it’s just that now you see that you are way too skinny compared to your normal size. Transitioning to having confidence vs losing confidence is a big change. Not only will people notice the difference of who you now became, you will to. 


               Don’t never feel ashamed of any problems you go through. Sometimes we get put through the toughest times just to change our lives around. Everything happens for a reason. Although we might not act on our problems right away, eventually we will. Everyone has there own time to change, there own time to move on to better. When you are ready to reevaluate yourself and be the better version of yourself you will. The thing is we have to start believing in who we aren’t and who we are, and look at our past as a lesson learned. 


  If you are reading this, i definitely will love to tell you that you are amazingly handsome/beautiful. You are smart, you are talented, you are a winner. Never lose your courage no matter how many steps back you took. Life itself is going to always be a challenge, but it’s up to you to accept failure, brush it off, and not give up. Change is good, even if you have to dismiss certain energy out your life. Your health, and loving yourself first need and always should come first. 

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                  XoXo -SEQOUIAB 

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