Honestly I suffer from insomnia and been dealing with it for a while. So transitioning into being a morning person was definitely a challenge. I can say that I mostly don’t like mornings when I have to get up for work or to handle things super early because I would be sluggish. But now that I am accustomed to mornings, I do realize that the mornings are much productive, healthier, and much easier to maintain your daily lifestyle. When you get up early, you can start your to-do-list off right like, cooking breakfast, running errands, doing laundry, handle things for your business etc. So it’s definitely a good thing being an early bird. But in order for me to get use to this new early bird lifestyle I had to get rid of these 5 toxic morning habits.
Waking up late: Wake up early so you can get prepared for a much successful day. But make your first hour your self-care time. The first hour after waking up must be specifically for nurturing yourself. Your growth, your happiness and mental health all plays part of fresh start.
Checking social media first thing in the morning: This is an epic fail! I had this problem bad. My phone was the first thing i thought about when i woke up, and i had to fix that issue asap! You must never start your day checking your phone and scrolling through Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. And truthfully this small habit affects our mood and our entire day if you think about it. That’s how much social media has an affect on us. Social media is a big distraction and can have you out here missing out on the importance things of life. When i’m distracted i feel like i have an heavy burdened on me & it’s definitely not a good feeling. Try turning your phone off before bed and not powering it back on.No excuses!
Not getting natural light & fresh air flowing: Get some natural light and air after waking up. We are human beings, so nature is us 100 %. Also, once all the windows are opened and it’s fresh air & light coming into your home, you began to start feeling energized. Wake up & open up!
Not drinking your herbal teas: Drink some good ole organic green tea every morning. Green tea is good for the body. Green tea improves brain function & protects the brain from aging & more.
Not sitting in peace: Stop having morning chats, use your mornings on focusing purely only on you. Having those talks in the am only stall out time then you will look out & your morning has been wasted.
Fear is something that will hold you back from a lot. But all of us have experienced fear at some point in our lives, & sadly to say it’s people that still do today. Fear can you stop you from leveling up, growth, and being successful.
Do not let fear hold you back forever. Because there are several ways to overcome fear, here are my top 6:
1. Speak positivity to your inner-self: It takes little of nothing to speak positive things on a regular. Turn your cheerful moments into a normal thing for you. Remind yourself everyday that you are worthy.
2. Be confident: Confidence plays a big part in us conquering our fears. Confidence will get you that job! Confidence will get you that business! Make sure you read my other blog about confidence ⤵️:
3. Practice journaling your thoughts: I always encourage people to write in a journal, because journaling about your problems or whatever is bothering you really can help shift the mind into more on the positive side and can lead to you overcoming your fears. Also, writing relieve whatever you had bottled up inside. Now you’re feeling signs of relief.
4. Don’t try to be perfect: Most people try to perfect things or be in competition and that isn’t needed. Definitely doesn’t make anything better because in life we are going to make mistakes, I had to plant that in my head. Because at a point of time, this was my mentality. But after a while I had to understand that taking my time & paying attention will get me way further.
5. Stop living in the past & live in reality: I can admit I definitely was a victim of living in the past. It use to be so hard to let things go that you wouldn’t even agree to today. We have a slick way of using our past as an excuse for everything. And at this big age, we should know more than better. Don’t let what happened in the past out fear in you to not want to love forward and deal with reality.
6. Identifyit: You have to be honest with yourself every time you’re afraid. If you don’t admit to your fears, look for the points in your life where you’re afraid, and see them as opportunities to learn to deal with fear. And see how things get more easier for you.
Please keep that in mind that these are just my experiences from the past. I’m not sure if these will help in any kind of way, which I hope it should. But this is a place to start. And here on & out don’t let fear hold you back from reaching your goals and your becoming you highest self this year!
I always say that your brand is so much more than your vision. But your vision always has to be aligned with your business foundation. Also, your brand will have that authentic feel when the main outcome is your business strategy and your identity.
Now here is when I get a little more detailed:
In this blog, you’ll learn how to build a brand that represents you perfectly that will help you drive the right message to your audience.
What is a brand?
A brand is the process of creating a business name, qualities, and the personality. Your brand is what represents you in whole.
How to build a brand that makes you feel relatable to target your audience?
Define your target audience by outlining their characteristics. For an example.
Those are characteristics that you can use.
Choose the top adjectives that describe your brand
Think about your creative business value proposition.You can manage research on your customersresearchbecause it can help you better understand what your customers needs & want. Think about how you can pin 📌 point your company with a more clear image.
3 main personality traits that will more than likely catch customers attention to your brand
Customers are more likely to purchase a brand if it’s personality is similar to their own personalities, if they see a vision in your brand, & if your business seems trust worthy.
Get to know your target audience
Stay on your brand at all times by monitoring it consistently
Incorporate your personality into your main brand strategy
Pay attention to things you know you need to avoid
Let your customers become advertisers for your brand
CREATE A BUSINESS PLAN + CREATE A BUSINESS PLAN
If you fail to plan, the plan will not elevate. Once you have an idea in place, you need to ask yourself surreal of questions.
What is the purpose of your business?
What’s your budget plan?
What’s your niche?
Make sure your passionate about asking yourself these questions. Because that passion will come through your designs, your smile, your personality.
We can’t talk about the biggest image of our lives without discussing our values. A value is an on going set of actions that represents who you want to be. The fun fact about most people is that we are a goal-directed community. We praise each other & celebrate our achievements.
In your life today, what do you want to represent? What do you want to be? How do you want people to view you?
Let’s mix up some encouraging words that holds common value about myself..
Trusting ✅ Respectful ✅
Beautiful ✅ Positive ✅
Loyal ✅ Peaceful ✅
Sufficient ✅ Compassionate ✅
So you can cement your values in many ways, what i do is pick up a note book to make me some notes. I like to go somewhere that helps me feel inspired, like a cafe shop. Then i write my notes down.
Write out things that you value and write why do you value those things.
For example 📌:
What value do you place on personal growth?Learning to better control my emotions and negative thoughts. That’s growth!
Personal growth will help you grow emotionally and psychologically to become a more loving & positive person.
I hope you enjoyed reading this blog and hopefully it helps encourage you to start writing more about things you value. And just opening up the mind more.
Hey everyone one. Let me reintroduced myself. My name is Seqouia. I am a mother of 1 to a beautiful girl. I’ve been blogging for about 4 years, and still going to continue my journey doing what i love. Blogging has been such a peaceful & healing help for my aura. I first started this blog when i was going through a mental health crisis. I use to write in a diary because it use to help me cope with my problems. But one night i was up late, and i came across a young woman who started a blog specifically because of the same reasoning of why i did. It inspired me. So i did my research on blogging and seen that it’s so many other people who blogs about there lifestyle and share their stories all the time. I finally realize that i was never alone with my paranoia & anxiety that i was dealing with. I then started learning the concept of blogging, & what are the tools i needed to learn so i can become successful at it. I learned the tools, but didn’t really push myself like i should’ve. I watched so many videos, been up long nights listening to podcast, taking down notes etc. I began too lose patience. I began to lose hope in my creativity. I began to just give up on all the hard work i’ve done to even write a blog. I didn’t feel like i was going to ever get more then 20 likes, or comments, or any kind of attention too my blog. And it bothered me so much. So then i started to wonder that the things i’ve written may can bore people or just simply not be good enough. I just couldn’t pin 📌 point it because I knew in my heart, I was good at what i do. & The things i written bout was definitely motivating, knowledgeable, & lastly uplifting. I had to realize that putting myself down will not do anything to help me get my blog the attention it deserves.
So let’s fast forward. At first, I had made a decision to just give up on blogging. But something stopped me. I got this feeling that i shouldn’t give up, & that i should continue my journey because i have a chance on building my blog & finally getting the attention it deserves. So i kept it. And of course i haven’t been as consistent with my blog, but for someone who doesn’t really get the attention on here i still decided to keep pushing myself.
The moral of the story is, don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t lose yourself by putting your own self down because things aren’t going the way you want it to right then & there. We are all creative humans, that have so many chances & nothing but time in our life to shine. Keep patient. be positive. Believe in your positivity. Don’t lose hope. Because i’m not!
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Mental health is real. I really wish people would take it more serious and stop trying to brush it up under the rug. Instead of acknowledging mental health “awareness” one month out of the year, normalize acknowledging mental health all year long. It’s people out here who are suffering everyday without saying a word :(. And it’s always people out there who are crying for help. Don’t ignore them signs. Check on your people.
Mental health will have your mind playing tricks on you but when you surround yourself around people who put you at ease I promise it’s distracting. And if your not a people person find something that brings you joy, or that makes you feel safe.
I use to let mental health take a toll of me until I couldn’t take it anymore. Also being a mother plays a big part of my thinking process as well. I had to think for her, I had to focus on being a happy mother for her. Our kids feed off our energy especially if they are much younger. Kids don’t like seeing their parents hurt and it’s up to us as parents to never fail them 💯.
Anyways, you got this. Everything will fall into place and better days will come!
Honestly forget that damn question! It doesn’t matter who said it! First of all, no one can tell you anything about yourself but you. So we are going to let that go over our heads!
We deal with people in this world who some how always bring their bad energy on the most crucified ways. Antagonizing us by saying cruel things to lower our confidence. For some people it works because sadly some of us aren’t 100% happy within ourselves so we take in the things people say and run with it. But as of today we are going to stop!
Stop letting negativity ruin your blessings+achievements, we have so much more to fight for then to lose I promise. Can’t no one break you unless you allow them to, can’t no way play you for a dummy unless you literally prove to them that are one!
We have way too much going on in the world to feed ourselves with other people energies that aren’t good for our pure souls. It’s okay to love someone from a distance. It’s okay to let go of bonds that are unrepairable, it’s okay to focus on you & you only! Just know it’s okay!
Be fearless…. Be bold…. Be open to surrounding yourself around people who is going to actually support you and be on your team. But lastly be your OWN TEAM PLAYER! Go hard for you! The way how people see how you go all in for yourself, drives them to you!
If you personally know me, or have read my blogs in the past. Then you definitely know my history of having anxiety. First I was very discreet when it came to having anxiety. Why? I have no clue! But once I noticed that suffering from anxiety was basically the new “norm” because it’s so many others who suffer from it to. I became more comfortable with sharing my issues. I also had to realize that stress plays a big part of anxiety. Learning to identify what anxiety actually is, was very helpful for me.
Here are some things I love to do to help ease my mind or return to a sense of calm:
1. The most important thing to do when I am having a bad day or just feeling anxiety is to literally say in my mind or to silently to myself “This is totally normal. It is absolutely fine for me to be feeling this way or having these feelings. I just need to be light on myself today.” It is normal for emotions to flow naturally and embracing this makes you feel so good. Allowing yourself to feel it all and having empathy for yourself will get you through…
2. When I wake up and can tell right away that I am feeling anxious I will usually rearrange my day to be a tad bit more slow paced then usual. If I have anything important to do I try rescheduling for another day. Usually when I put everything on pause it instantly makes me feel more calm. And me being this way when it comes to not being able to make it somewhere due to personal issues makes me more understanding when someone has to cancel plans or reschedule on me, especially knowing it might make their day feel a lot easier.
3. Doing my hobbies before bed has been amazing and relaxing for my mind. I’m an big over thinker and at night my mind races with situations I’ve been through or wondering what others are thinking. Getting all cozy, making my kid’s snacks, reading a book, listening to a relaxing podcast, bullet journal, looking up business ideas, anything! It is so mindless and I have been able to have such fulfilling nights which leads to better sleep for me.
These are the three things that keeps me calm when my anxiety is kicking in…. What keeps you calm? Let me know I would love to hear yours!
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So I have discovered gifts about myself. And it’s honestly crazy because i kind of noticed little things about me, but i never really got into my own spirituality until last year during Covid. With this gift i noticed that i am very Intuitive, and that allows me to read people before they even open up there mouth. It’s scary sometimes, because normally what i predict about that person it always becomes true. That right there would always leave me lost for words, because it’s like wow girl how did you even figure this person out?! Also, i’m like a energy detector. Someone can walk in the room, and it’s like whether the energy is good or bad, I soak it in and i can feel it strongly. If it’s bad, I will more than likely be quiet and not say too many words. One thing about me, if I don’t like your vibe or feel like your not good energy i will not fake it at all. My silence pretty much will sum up everything. If i love your energy, you get the best out of me.
I can truly say it’s a blessing to be able to be intuitive, because it’s protecting myself, and sparing my feelings. Even with dating, I can tell if someone is being genuine or they are completely no good for my soul. So yes, being intuitive is definitely a gift. And i am more than certain it’s others out there with the same gift as me.
Okay, now with this gift i realized a lot of people love venting to me. And when they vent to me, it’s like i already knew how a situation they were in was going to turn out or i was semi close to knowing. How? I don’t have an idea. So it’s like i instantly connect with them, and i give them really good advice. I noticed that the advice i give is always valid, and I make people feel really secure and i love it. Healing those, who needs to be healed always makes me rewind back to me crying out for help and wishing people could’ve done the same for me, or maybe i just didn’t connect to people like how they connected with me i’m not sure. But these two gifts i’ve noticed i have, is changing a lot about myself. All though i might step back into my ways but suddenly i been more on the positive side then anything. And positive is always good.
That is all, felt like sharing this because it’s important to me. And whom ever reads my blogs are also important to me. So sharing this definitely made me feel so much more relieved. If you have a gift please share it, I would love to see some of you’ll gifts you discovered. Don’t let anyone make you feel as if your making things up or it’s not true, only you know the real and know what goes on within yourself. But anyways, see you soon on the next blog!
Now days self-love has been mentioned a lot more. But let’s admit that learning to love yourself is one of the most powerful and important things you can do in life. While it’s also important to love yourself, we tend to find that area of self-love a mental block. When you practice self-love, we cultivate a healthy personal bond with ourselves and become our own bestfriend.
Here are 4ways you can start practicing habits of choosing self-love:
When was the last time have you acknowledged your strengths? When was was the last time have you looked at yourself in the mirror and said things you like about yourself? Make a list of those things, write it down, read it daily until it permanently sticks to your brain. Treat this list like it’s your own personal daily reminder.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR NEEDS
What are your needs? Write down a list of your needs and take action. Sometimes we are quick to help others with there needs and not put ours first. It’s ok, you just have a heart of gold. But it’s ok to take time out for yourself and start telling people no.
END THE HABIT OF HATING WHO YOU ARE
Remember confidence is key. You tearing yourself down is what’s stopping you from prospering. Have confidence in yourself in every aspect. Let’s work on loving the thought of who you are because no matter what there is no one in this world like you and that’s what makes you unique.
MAKE YOUR BODY HAPPY
When learning to love ourselves we focus plenty of time and attention on our bodies. And how we feel inside our bodies affects how we feel outside of our bodies. You definitely want your body to feel loved and not disconnected. So it’s very important that part of your self-love routine you do things that make you feel great internally.
Sometimes relationships can take a toll on you. Trust me i know. It has with me, and when i say it has broke me down to the point where ill cry everyday of the week, every night before bed, and it drove me to numerous headaches. So i definitely can relate to a lot of women out there who is suffering or suffered from heart break. And of course there will be people telling you “It’s going to be okay, don’t cry” “Forget him” “You deserve better”. Sometimes we don’t take there advice right away because we don’t feel it’s enough.
I remember i use to always say i’m done, and will wake up feeling so different and relieved, but deep down it’s this little piece of me that some how kept me thinking of him. That’s when i knew i wasn’t officially over him. And it’s a feeling that was there for so long that i didn’t even know how to get rid of it. That’s the most fucked up feeling ever!
When i realized that nothing wasn’t enough, I knew right then and there that i had to figure out how to get out, like “literally” “GET THE HELL OUT!”….
I’m sure there is a lot of other women out there that has these same feelings as me or had them. But what’s so cold is that, women now days don’t uplift or support one another any more. So many women are in competition and always want to tease other women for getting played or hurt. WHY?!…. I can’t even answer that but if you have the answer to it please let me know!
Honestly i can admit, that a lot of women in my generation is becoming more and more weak. It sounds mean, but i am just being honest. Women are selling their body, talking down on themselves, not knowing their worth, giving up on their careers, cutting off there friends & families, and doing so much all for MEN!. Now i am not speaking for every woman, but it is a lot of women that are doing this. It breaks my heart because men take advantage of this and sometimes we don’t see it because we are blinded by love, and that’s not even really love. We think we are in love, but we are really just trapped at the moment and can’t find our way out because we can’t see ourselves without them or don’t want no one else to have them. The world is pretty fucked! and everyday it is becoming worse.
But something has to be done. Women need to fight for there strength. It’s time to strive more harder to be stronger and to never experience the feeling of pain again. Yea… it sounds typical, and definitely sounds too good to be true. But how much longer are we going to continue to let men put us through heart break? How much longer will we continue to let men take our woman hood away, and our pride?
Some women like myself always thought revenge was the best route, and hurting them back. I realize that’s not worth it. You can make them hurt more in so many other ways then being cruel & revengeful.
Here are 6 tips that may can help you with beating heartbreak:
#1 FIND THE PROBLEM (Write it down)
Figure out why exactly you can’t get over that person. What is holding you back? Why do you feel you can’t let go? Write down these questions down and answer them. That will kind of get you an outlook on everything.
#2 PROS VS CONS
Write the good, and the bad. If their are more cons, then you should know what needs to be done. Every time the bad outweigh the good then it’s NO GOOD! That’s already a red light that your relationship is pretty much done.
When you kill someone off with silence, that get to them more than anything. Sometimes you have to ignore your way out of the problem because once it’s already toxic, it is unrepairable. I’m not saying that some toxic relationships don’t change, but the ones that don’t change can not be FIXED! And a lot of people fail to realize that. You want to show someone better than you can tell them after all the months/years you been crying for there help, love, and sorrow? Go straight mute on that ass!
#4 FIND HAPPINESS
Find what makes you happy. Sometimes you don’t realize what brings happiness to your life anymore because you focus more on making your significant other who isn’t making you happy at all. Experience new things, try things you have always wanted to do but haven’t. Stop holding back and see what’s out there besides an relationship that can fulfill your needs.
#5 TRY THERAPY
Therapy can possibly help. Sometimes you need someone to dig deep through the mind and can really tell you your problem. It’s a therapist job to heal your mind & soul, and help you look at life differently. I have tried therapy before, and i wish i never stopped. Definitely on my list to start back going again. I can tell you i am a lot more stronger now then i was in the past. So yes, it can help you.
#6 ONE LAST LETTER (Release all the pain)
This is another way i feel that is really helpful. You don’t want to physically talk to that person because if you do, either they will ignore you or cut you off? Well write they ass a letter! Sometimes writing can really ease the pain because you don’t have to worry about talking to that person and feel like your talking to casper. Men have away of making women feel (DUMB), and that get to us badly. What i mean is, men will ignore you, put on there earphones while you are talking to them, walk away, and so much other rude shit! So some way some how they have to see how you feel right? That’s why i said write it out, seal it up, and either mail it to them, or drop it off them. When your done writing your letter, go to a quiet place, and let it out! Cry, scream, shout, and just release all the negative & bad energy out your body/soul. Let that be your last!
Hello :)! Hope you all are having a wonderful day!
Need a good ole spiritual uplift? These spiritual affirmations help support you in acknowledging your true divine self. When exhaling these affirmations into your daily spiritual practice, they help you develop your skills in staying in tune with your spirituality soul. Affirmations also help you replace negative thought patterns with positive ones. As you continuously work with them, they help change your thinking & understanding which is something we all need.
1. Now is the time for my good.
2. I excel at the perfect living of Life.
3. I put my life in the hands of Infinite Love and Divine Wisdom.
4. I see nothing but me.
5. I am now surrounded by the divine, embraced and cherished, nurtured and protected.
6. I am perfectly blessed and I am a perfect blessing for the world.
7. I trust and respect my body’s wisdom.
8. I put myself, my health, and healing above everything. I strive to live a good life.
9. I am in charge of my pain and understand the needs of my body.
10. Happiness is the music of my body.
11. I am filled with positive energy.
12. I am accepting and know how to take care of myself.
13. I have opened my heart to love again.
14. Love is my priority, not hate.
15. No matter how hard life gets, I’m going to still prosper.
16. My choice is to happy.
17. I breathe in peaceful energy, I breathe out unwanted energy.
18. I voice my truth.
19. I voice my intuitions.
20. I have a purpose, so I need to fulfill it.
21. I was created to be uniquely and I see it every day.
22. I love everything who made me who I am today.
23. My soul is cheerful.
24. I am gifted to heal others.
25. I am gifted with the universes love, strength, & wholeness.
In this world of pain, stress, and tensions the power of healing is unmatched. We as humans deal with so much on our universe. We encounter situations when our emotions, anxiety, & curiosity fill our minds. To receive that inner peace through those challenges, using healing statements is definitely the main importance that can help. Utilizing these affirmations to pin point our self conscious minds, is to act on by experiencing the peace that we need in our lives.