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What’s going on with me? How To Feel Better When You Don’t Know Why You’re Sad

Honestly, I know a lot of people are guilty of this just as much as i am.

Have you ever just start randomly feeling sad?
Well this weekend i definitely witnessed it.

I felt sad for no reason and I couldn’t help but wonder “what’s wrong with me?”.

This problem can be confusing for a lot of people so i decided to write this article to help you if you don’t know why you’re sad.

I hope it helps you get out of your worries.

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WHAT POSSIBLY HAPPENED?

It is a reason why your sadness came about in the first place. But it can be tricky because their are various reasons on what triggered you to be sad, especially if your always all over the place.

Look back over the last week and see if there were any changes or any situations that led up to feeling sad.

Is something off in your relationship?

Did you have a stressful time at work?

Was there anything different about the last few days that could be a factor as of today?

Are you having some financial issues going on?

My best advice to you, is if you can’t figure it out then don’t stress about it all. Because if it’s not actually broke, then why fix it?

We are human, we are made to have a range of emotions and to feel off sometimes. Don’t judge yourself for feeling sad, it happens. The last thing you want is to make a small problem out of nothing.

 

 

 

SELF-TALK TIME

I’ve had to work really hard on my self-talk. Having self-talks has became a priority for me. I’m not naturally a positive person, so I don’t want to make it seem that way. But I do believe that i have to live in my truth.

If you are always telling yourself that life is hard and unfair that is going to feel like the truth for you. Sometimes we have to change our narratives we say about ourselves.

Changing my narratives and self-talks has been so helpful for my overall happiness and mental-health.

Whenever I’m feeling sad or don’t know what’s wrong I make a big promise/change to myself to let go of any negative thoughts & complaints. When you nag/complain all it does is make you feel low and less productive.

Take time out and have self-talks so you can be able to find the solution & fix it.

 

 

 

                      HEAL YOUR BODY/SOUL

Healing your body can be done in various ways.

  • Exercise
  • Meditate
  • Eat more healthy
  • Yoga
  • Explore nature for fresh air
  • Hit a spa
  • Light some candles & unwind with no devices

Sometimes healing your body can help relieve stress & put you in a much happier space.

When I’m sad and let myself sit around it can end up making me feel even worse. So i rather do things i know to prevent that.

Going outside usually helps me when I don’t know what’s wrong with me, I love taking walks and enjoying our nature. Plus you’re taking care of yourself physically & mentally too. So it’s a win-win.

 

 

As long as you are doing what you believe is the best thing for you then you are on the right path to a much healthier lifestyle.

Do know that it’s completely normal to go through these complicated times in life.

Truth be told, there are other ways that can help, but these three are definitely important and it helped me. I hope it helps you as well.

 

 

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on getting better. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took there time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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43 Journal Prompts for personal growth

Wow i can’t believe that it’s fall and we almost in October! October is definitely my favorite month!. These are journal prompts to help with personal growth! Hopefully after reading this and taking it to use, you will have more confidence to create a life you love! I also hope these journal prompts will help you change any negative mindsets and help you in every aspect as possible.

 

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  1. Where will I be in 2 years?
  2. What does my ideal day look like?
  3. What unhealthy habits do I need to cut out?
  4. What do I love most about myself? (3 things)
  5. What is something I’ve been wanting to do but have been too afraid to try? 
  6. What are my top 2 goals for this year and how can I achieve them?
  7. What do I struggle with the most? And why?
  8. What are 5 words that describe me best and why?
  9. How can I add happiness to my daily life?
  10. What animal describes me as a person and why?
  11. Why is personal growth so important?
  12. Is it possible to help someone else with his or her own personal growth, or can people only grow on their own?  Why or why not?
  13. What is your best habit?  Why?
  14. What would you say is your biggest strength?

  15. What do you consider to be your most challenging flaw?

  16. What is one aspect of your life you’d like to improve over the next year? What would that improvement look like?

  17. What three to five qualities feel the most important for you to embody?

  18. What is the number one thing that feels like it’s missing from your life right now?
  19. I feel amazing when …
  20. When you are feeling down, what picks you up?
  21. How do you manage stress? Explore what has worked for you and what hasn’t
  22. What are your top life hacks?
  23. List 5 things you love about your home
  24. What are you good at?
  25. What do you often get compliments about?
  26. What do you enjoy doing?
  27. 10 things you love about your life.
  28. When you think about your future what do you hope/wish for the most?
  29. Do you believe everything happens for a reason? If so, reflect and name 1 thing that.
  30. What’s surprised you the most about your life or life in general?
  31. What can you learn from your biggest mistakes?
  32. Write the words you need to hear.
  33. Name a compassionate way you’ve supported a friend recently. Then write down how you can do the same for yourself.
  34. If my body could talk, it would say
  35. Name what is enough for you.
  36. What do you need more in life?
  37. I couldn’t imagine living without…
  38. If I could talk to my teenage self, the one thing I would say is…
  39. Make a list of 20 things that make you smile.
  40.  What is my third most unique strength?
  41. What is something I would miss if I no longer had it?
  42.  What is your biggest win in the last seven days?
  43. What’s the top lesson your mother taught you?

 

 

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How I kept Losing myself to finally gaining myself back and keeping it that way

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I’m sure a lot of people can relate…

In out through my life, I have lost myself, and gained myself back again. Meaning, I have gave up so many times, then i started to be myself again but better.

I definitely didn’t know why, but i do know a lot of millennials, mid 20’s, and late 20’s, go through different changes. Which i can say that can be part of my transition because i am 28.

A lot of women go through a lot of ” Hormonal imbalances”. Which can affect us mentally, and we begin to have mood swings, and so much more. don’t want to get to personal about it. but my point is that, as a woman we go through so many changes, have to deal with so many personal things, and it’s stressful. BEYOND IT.

Dealing with mental health growing up, really had me losing myself. Not loving myself, not caring for myself, and just putting others before me. People use to ask me, “Why are you looking so angry?” and, i was definitely was intrigued by that question, because i didn’t know why people always ask that and i was always curious why. But i figured it out, I had an automatic mean mug smh….

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People said i never had a smile on myself, I always looked angry. And that isn’t good at all. I really started to realize that all around i am wasn’t happy, because people are actually seeing it in my facial expressions. But, truth be told, I didn’t mind it after a while. I was still angry.

I was disappointed within myself. One of the reasons why is because I didn’t graduate on time, not because i didn’t know the work, I just was so stuck into my feelings that i didn’t even knock out 15 credits. Don’t judge me, yes only 15 CREDITS!. That’s all i needed, and I let my pride get the best of me. So, I went to go finish, and I thought i was happy about it and i still wasn’t. I had a kid, and felt that i was to old, and I waited to long to go back. It’s sad that i was ungrateful instead of blessed. Close people around whispered, judged me, and talked about me behind my back because i didn’t graduate on time. And it’s the truth. I knew it, and yes it hurts badly. But, people knew deep down i had an gift, and that behind that angry face it’s a Smart Black Woman. I think people were intimidated by my strong attitude, and no matter how i feel about myself, I was always independent and knew what i was talking about. But i believe people mistaken me to be dumb, because of the “missing 15 credits.” People used that as a weapon against me. So when i decided to go back in finish i did it silently for my own happiness. I knew that this school issue was really one of my weaknesses and one of the reasons why i am not happy.

Dealing with the TOXIC. Toxic played a big part in my life. Arguing with family members, arguing & fighting with my significant other, down talking myself. All that is consider toxic. Not only that it’s toxic, It’s stressful. On top of that, I still was not happy. My level of happiness was up and down.

As I got older, I have realized that i was surrounded around people i shouldn’t surround myself with. I was dealing with people i had no business dealing with. People who do not support you, or want to see you win, is a red flag to NO GOOD! No i am not innocent but growing up remember when your parents always say “Two wrongs don’t make it right!” It’s the truth!

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It takes time to be the best version of yourself, so don’t give up fighting for your confidence. You are beautiful…..”

 

It’s hard to change being around a lot of people who is just like you but worst. And every time you want to change you are dealing with other people negativity, or it’s rubbing off on you. Sometimes you have to stop prolonging these relationships with friends & families or even with your partner, if it’s not bringing any happiness to your life.

I had to realize that life isn’t always suppose to be peaches & cream. At any moment in life you can lose everything, but how will you react to it? Continuously act out on everyone or be strong and move forward. Failure is not an option because it will happen, but you have to understand that.

I started to have insecurities. But that is something i kept to myself for a while. I never showed it, and felt no reason to. It wasn’t that I was insecure in my looks necessarily, but everything else about me I was disappointed in. Instead of complimenting myself I rather compliment others and make them feel good, I really don’t know why, but seeing other people happy always made me feel better. And I been that way for a while until I came to a realization that I need to focus on self-care & self-love. I had to stop loving others more then I loved myself.

When I finally found myself, and figured out who I am and what I want in life I went for it. I decided I wanted to become a blogger & entrepreneur and guess what? I made it happen. I might have ups & downs and things might not made it to where I want it to you, but it’s the principle that I am striving to be the best that I can be and reach my top goal.

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Even though I admit all the time, I LOST MYSELF. But, it’s always time to gain your self again. It’s okay if you fell off a little, but pick up where you left and keep going. Can’t no one interfere what you got going on, only if you let them, SO DON’T!

Moral of the story is, I made this blog to uplift and motivate others that you can go through the hardest time in your life and it’s okay. But, don’t let that become an habit. Just get up and work on you, better you, love you, support you, and keep being determined to achieve your goals. Use your past as a way out the hold on on your way to success.

YOU GOT THIS!!!!

 

 

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6 Toxic habits to quit immediately

6 Toxic Habits to Quit Immediately

 

Are you guilty of these toxic habits? Most of the time we fail to realize we can be creating toxic habits everyday. You might be wondering, what makes a toxic habit? To me, a toxic habit is something you do that is continuously provoking you to harm your mental health, daily routines, and just all around interfering your success.

I will admit, I have witnessed some of these habits in the past. Since then, I tried to cut them short out of my life and make them disappear. Here is a list of 6 toxic habits you should quit immediately! 

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1. Not believing in yourself

As i got older, I learned that it is important to your success to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Putting yourself down repeatedly, or always telling yourself “you can’t do it”, chances is that it will become true. Changing your mindset, and actually believing in yourself really can change so much in your life.

 

2. Not letting go of the past

Even myself can admit that i have had trouble not letting go of the past. For some strange reason, I just couldn’t get over it. This is most definitely TOXIC. If we don’t let go of the past, it will haunts our present/future. Just live in the moment, let go of the past, and focus on what’s more important.

 

3. Keeping toxic people in your life 

Honestly, I use to be afraid to remove certain people out my life. Now, it’s a piece of cake for me. I don’t feel selfish putting me first any more, and i also don’t feel bad. Toxic people is like taking a bad drug. NO GOOD. Get rid of the toxic, and don’t let your guilt get in between anything.

 

4. Checking your phone as soon as you wake up

First off, this is a toxic habit. Checking your phone when you first wake up is a problem. Checking your phone as soon as you wake up is a terrible start of the day!  I actually find that when the mornings comes and I don’t check my phone right away, I feel a lot happier and productive. I like to try to start my morning on a positive note, and feeling like i can do other things besides just picking up my phone.

 

4. Comparing yourself to others

I notice that a lot of people have this bad. I even caught myself doing it a few times. It’s definitely another toxic habit. Comparing yourself affects a lot within yourself, like your confidence. Compare yourself to the old you and the new you, and how much you have accomplished.

5. Getting no sleep + Cranky

Getting no sleep is a toxic habit. I have had so many sleepless nights working towards my future and trying to be successful, but it becomes stressful to the point i wake up cranky. Being cranky is also a toxic habit. To prevent this issue, coming up with a solid schedule and getting the proper rest is important.

 

6. Not drinking any water

I am big on drinking water, no matter how unhealthy i am lol, I admit water is my bff. Have you had them days where you are so hot and agitated and all you need is water to cool you down. Well that’s me. If i don’t drink any water especially on a hot day, I am definitely irritated out this world. Which is a toxic habit. So drink your water my loves!

 

 

What toxic habits are you trying to cut out? Let me know in the comments!

How to Manage your Anxiety

 

    Having anxiety is the most terrifying thing to go through, especially when you are alone. A lot of people don’t know how to cope or manage with the symptoms that comes with this mental health issue. Everyone either reacts the same or a little different with there anxiety but at the end of the day it’s still a disorder that anyone can get at any given time. There are so many ways to manage your anxiety. Here i listed a few tips that might can just help.

      Mindfulness:

       Figure out things that will keep your mind occupied. Be the things that keep you at ease. Focus on self-care and taking care of  YOU in all ways you can. Learn to take and do things more slowly, and try not to be such in a rush through your life too much. 

 

       Routine:

           Create a satisfying routine. Anxiety thrives a persistent worry and fear about your everyday lifestyle. I figured out that coming up with a helpful routine helps eliminate a lot of worry & thoughts. 

 

       Communicate:

  Do not be afraid to discuss your issues dealing with anxiety. A lot of people experience it more than what others think, and suffer from it on different levels. Find some one that will be able to help you justify this issue. Help break the problem so you can be able to help others.

 

        Practice Coping Skills:

Figure out ways you can cope with this mental health issues. What helps you from having episodes? Breathing techniques. Taking a walk. Meditation. Yoga. It’s so many things you can do. Figure it out, and stick to it because once you are able to cope with anxiety, then it will be easier for you to start living a more normal lifestyle, without being in fear on what’s going to happen.

 

        Weekly Schedule:

Try scheduling your week ahead of time. But, make sure you stick to it. Switching up will only makes things worse. When something is triggering you to have anxiety sometimes it can be because your nervous, anxious, worried, tired, and you are just confused and furious on what your week look like. So, on that note creating a schedule will help plan things out better for you.

I hate anxiety: How to deal

Welp! The real truth is…I got diagnosed with anxiety in 2014.

I can’t even be in denial or lost why i have/had it, because i have had a pretty interesting life. I have been through a lot of tragic situations in my life, but i am not going to mention that today. Maybe ill save that for another day or my “book” 😩!

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Honestly, truth be told, I go through seasons anxiety, which is really annoying.

Because, one season i’m totally okay, and then the next season i’m just out of it lol. And my family just looks at me like i’m crazy.

Well today, for some odd reason everything just hit me. I woke up feeling off and not like myself. So i said to myself “yup! i’m depressed about something”. I’m the type of person that will be really confused when it comes to trying to find out why i’m depressed.

And i knew something wasn’t right because i was agitated, i wouldn’t play videos games with my 6 year old like i normally do, my stomach felt like it was cringing, and i didn’t even want to talk to no one.

So finally after feeling like crap. I went for a small walk. put my ear plugs in, and put on my play list.

Came home. Made some lemon & honey tea (which helped), wrote in my journal (which helped), breathing techniques, and did yoga for about 25 minutes also (which helped) once again. This helps. I don’t know why but it helps. I feel 100% better after words, and way more relieved. But, this is how i deal with anxiety.

Small steps make a total big difference…

It’s 1:36 am while i’m typing up this blog, but hey it feels good just being myself, feeling free, and showing my social friends how things been going on lately.

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“Anything that makes you smile, you should always keep it around so you can keep smiling. A simple smile will brighten up your day.”

 

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♥ CREATE A SCHEDULE: TIME MANAGEMENT

Making a schedule is definitely one of my issues from time to time. I will go a month strong creating a schedule and then i’ll fall off. But, yes it’s important. When you create a schedule it helps with timing and to get things done in order so you don’t have to stress as much.

 

♥ JOUNALING

Write! Write! Write!.. Yes, writing in a journal is so worth it. If you don’t have no one to talk to or don’t want to talk to no one. Write it out. Express yourself through paper, so when you go back and read how you were feeling. You can figure out what you can do better to not make the mistakes, or figure out other ways how to prevent from certain things from happening again. Sometimes being free, and just writing out your thoughts can be like a medicine. It heals you, but in a different way.

 

♥ BE MORE ADVENTUROUS

Start spending more times out door. But, you have to actually do something. Find activities you haven’t done before. Like i been living in California all my life, and i have never been horse back riding, gun range, wineries, and so many other fun places my friends been to except me lol. Take time out for you. Go hiking, go walk trail, or just do something different. Being adventurous is really like a big weight lifted off your shoulders. Getting away for a few hours and actually spending time for yourself is the most healthiest feeling you can never forget.

 

With that being said, those are my anxiety tips i have for you guys for now. I hope that starting Monday i start my week off feeling & looking good! I just want to enjoy my Monday and start over with a positive mindset.

I hope this post helped anyone who’s out there reading who experiences anxious feelings. We have all been there. Stay strong. I get you. And i hope you get me as well. No one is perfect.

Feel free to leave me some tips if you have any on dealing with anxiety, or leave some questions in the comment, or just tell me your experience on coping.

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7 HABITS THAT WILL THROW OFF YOUR PRODUCTIVITY

So many distractions, so many plans… so many goals to complete… in not much time!

I’m sorry but doesn’t it seem like every time you try to focus on getting things done, you begin to feel less unproductive. Try creating a schedule or a to do list. I am more of a scheduler type of girl, and i swear to you that i spend more of my time writing it out then actually doing what i planned to do. Or i end up doing something else important that i instantly get distracted and next thing you know it i am on my phone doing something totally different like browsing the internet looking at shoes & clothes.

The main point is that productivity has always been something you have to level up in, and a work-in-progress, it’s an life experience we all go through. Things happen, things  change, but we have to work around all that stress to stay productive. #1 FACT: Trashing all habits that kill your productivity.

 

 

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1. TECHNOLOGY DISTRACTION

Of course you would think it’s meant to make our lives more productive and more simple, but for the most part, it is the total opposite. Consistently checking your email, checking your social media before & after a nap, every time your phone notification goes off you pick up your phone fast, or when someone is talking to you but your face in stuck in your phone and not the conversation. That is a distraction, a major one. Those are some things that will kill off your productivity and any digital advice is definitely the blame. Digital devices distractions breaks the flow of your productivity. Your brain has to focus on what is important, or else you will lose out on a lot more thank you think.

 

2. LACK OF SLEEP 

Do you have times when you feel like there isn’t enough hours in the day? Yup definitely. There always seems to be something else you planned on getting done before night time gets here. Some days we even stay up almost until the next day or just go to sleep extremely late just to do something else. Other times we have a hard time shutting our eyes the first couple hours because now our mind just want let us with all the anxious thoughts we are having. Thinking about all the task we didn’t do but we could have did. So we tell our selves, “Okay we will do it tomorrow”, but then we think about how tired we will be because we are still up in the middle of the night now.

Not getting enough sleep can affect your memory, performance, health, and your ability to concentrate. Also lack of sleep makes it hard to make decisions. If this is something you struggle with, work on developing better habits for bedtime. I definitely had to. Try making a schedule for bed time, and find out what can actually help you sleep better (Naturally).

 

 

3. LACK OF ROUTINE

Planning productive habits and actually sticking to a routine helped me out in improving my productivity. Now that i am back in fitness. I get up 7:30, take my daughter to school. Come home, make breakfast + pot of coffee. Go work out from 11:30 am – 12:15 pm. Then after all that i come home, clean, and figure out what i am going to cook for the day. After all that, I spend the rest of my day working on my blog. I fell off when it comes to productivity and having a routine. I also began to stress a lot, so now that i am back at it with my routine i have listed above, I haven’t let my stress stop me from taking care of myself.

 

 

My productivity depended on those daily habits. This routine is what kept me on the right path, and motivates me to keep moving forward no matter what is going on in my life. Now that i took a big jump back & created a new routine for myself, my productivity has improved so much. Having a customized routine added to your schedule keeps you focused on the way you move daily. Your life doesn’t have be boring, or difficult just stay more organized.

 

 

4. TECHNOLOGY DISTRACTION

Of course you would think it’s meant to make our lives more productive and more simple, but for the most part, it is the total opposite. Consistently checking your email, checking your social media before & after a nap, every time your phone notification goes off you pick up your phone fast, or when someone is talking to you but your face in stuck in your phone and not the conversation. That is a distraction, a major one. Those are some things that will kill off your productivity and any digital advice is definitely the blame. Digital devices distractions breaks the flow of your productivity. Your brain has to focus on what is important, or else you will lose out on a lot more thank you think.

 

 

5. PERFECTIONIST

If you struggle with being a perfectionist chances are that you also have that “I don’t care ” attitude. It’s when you’re never happy with pretty much anything that comes your way, everything you do has to be done absolutely perfectly or else you will have a fit. There’s also a lot of fear of failure and anxiety involved, but a perfectionist hides it due to caring about what others think. All of this combined can affect your productivity in a big way, no in a EXTREME WAY. The major key is to really focus on your goals and tasks, rather than that fear of making a mistake, because mistakes are going to happen in and out your life. I feel that being a perfectionist is hard to come by, or just a mind thing. but you can start by changing your perspective, the way you think, and realizing just how often you use it as an excuse to not complete your daily goals & task.

 

 

6. LACK OF STRESS MANAGEMENT

Stressful situations can throw you off track. When your mind is clogged up with anxiety, worry, and fear, your productivity falls off. It’s important to know how to manage your stress, and deal with it in a much healthier way. Meditation, yoga, writing/journaling, and just taking care of yourself like you should. Figure out how to cope with repeatedly stress issues.

 

 

7. LACK OF DISCIPLINE + FAILURE TO ARRANGE

When it comes down to it, lack of discipline is one of the main habits that throw your productivity off. There will be plenty of days when you won’t feel like getting things done, days when working on something that’s important to you is the last thing you feel like doing. Motivation comes and goes in and out our lives, and you can’t rely on it to always be there, because trust me it’s not. When you lose motivation you sometimes also lose your willing power to be productive. Focus on building habits that will help you become more self-disciplined and learning to arrange your tasks is one of them. Use your willing power to create more habits that will improve your productivity, rather than depending on motivation all the time.

 

 

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4 Simple Self-care ideas for short timing

Think of some of the little things that used to put a smile on your face, things that used to make you feel happy and content. Things that brought joy to your life as a child.

I remember i use to go outside to pick up all the leafs in separate the bad ones from the good ones. I also remember playing jump rope and hop scotch. Even times when i use to sit in the window and watch everyone pass by or watch the rain come down.

We all need “time” but we have to admit that we need/deserve a small break. What are your challenges with practicing self-care? 

I always say “You only can take care of yourself better then anyone, because you know how you want to be treated”. That was always my mood.

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GO BACK IN TIME

No matter how old you are, you are never to old to take it back to the old times. Go skating, jump in the bed, have a karaoke session.

Think of things that use to bring you happiness, things you don’t really do any more due to time, make them part of your self-care routine.

 

 

 

MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF

Take time out for yourself. Go to your favorite restaurant, go grab your favorite ice-cream, or go find something to do that you can schedule in just like you would schedule a doctors visit. Don’t cancel out or nothing, really make this time out for yourself.

Don’t forget, self-care isn’t just about always looking good. My off days from my job are Mon, Tues, Wed. So when i’m off work, I make sure i dip into some of my money and go get me a Jamba juice, hit the nail shop in get a color change or fill, maybe go to the movies and take a walk at the park. I also like being in complete silence for 30 mins, and man it makes me feel so much better. I’ll even make me a cup of coffee and in the process of doing that, ill go head in do some laundry. I also enjoy playing The Sims 4. So i will make time to play for about an hour because it helps me mentally to just relax in not think to much. Of course, I’d love to be able to take the rest of the day off, put my feet up and do nothing else but write in my journal or just nothing at all, but all day? that sounds to good to be true honestly, and it’s totally fine. After a tough/stressful week, 30nminutes of self-care, spent alone, just by doing nothing or doing some breathing exercises can be enough to get you energized for the day.

 

 

 

NIGHT TIME UNWINDING

Most of us don’t really take unwind really serious, we usually just take things off in jump in the bed. Lets make our unwinding more thoughtful. Lets make our night unwind ritual part of our self-care routine.

Stop bringing things to the bed that doesn’t help you with unwinding. For an example: No electronics. No lap top, no phones. Use this time to refresh your brain. Read a book, take a nice warm bubble bath, listen to a podcast. I do my night care routine. I put on a face mask because it relaxes me, then rinse with hot water, brush my teeth, tie my hair up, and make me a cup of caffeine free tea. This helps me unwind, relax and get prepared for bed time.

 

 

 

EMOTIONAL RELEASE

Some people don’t like leaking out there emotions and keep them bottled in, and some actually feel more relieved releasing it out. But.. how about you check in with your own emotions.

My #1 emotional release is journaling, Journaling has got me through a lot of issues, emotionally & mentally. Some may think it’s weird or corny, but writing out your feelings actually can help with more than you think. You will be surprised how many people actually write, even if it’s in there notes. If you never thought about journaling I highly suggest you start your journey with some writing/journaling prompts.

Writing down all your feelings, your thoughts, your questions, your fears, can bring some much clarity into your life. This is definitely useful if you normally get overwhelmed at times. It’s time to be more mindful to yourself, and your own emotions. Sometimes you have to just out yourself first, and work on your own feelings.

 

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6 AFFIRMATIONS TO GET YOU THROUGH OUT THE DAY

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I am a huge believer in affirmations. They have worked for me absolutely in so many ways. It starts from what you tell yourself when you first get up to begin your day. Dreams, goals, success, all begins in the mind. You have to train your mind to see good in situation and i think a good way is start through affirmations.

Here are some affirmations that will help you get through whatever challenge you might be going through. I actually use these for myself.

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AFFIRMATION 1: I WILL NOT LOSE

No matter what your situation is, or whatever you are going through, always remind yourself that you will WIN. I have learned a lot on how to act on in different situations. I am here to not lose and to never give up. For a person who has faith and believe i there self, this affirmation couldn’t me more authentic enough.

 

 

 

AFFIRMATION 2: THIS TIME WILL PASS BY

Now most of the time when we are going through tough times in our lives, we think it’s going to last for eternity. We see no way out. We see a huge wall everywhere but one thing I’ve learned is that everything is temporary and nothing is forever, so eventually that wall will come down. And like the first affirmation was written, no matter what, i can NEVER LOSE.

 

 

 

AFFIRMATION 3:  I WILL NOT WORRY

When tough times come, we carry a heavy set of fear on our backs, stress, anxiety, depression, doubt. I tell myself all the time “NOT TODAY, NOT NEVER DEMON”. I will not worry. And i sure will not fear. There is no significance in worrying your self about being stressed. But there is every advantage in remaining calm & content. This way you can take time out to talk or write out your thoughts. You can think about solutions. So, make it a main priority when you get up each day to affirm “I WILL NOT WORRY.”

 

 

 

AFFIRMATION 4: THERE IS NOTHING TOO HARD FOR PRAYER

 

Their is absolutely nothing to hard with prayer. I mean of course everyone has their own beliefs, but i’m telling you now that prayer works. God is watching over us at all times, and although he might not answer our prayers immediately, eventually he does. You have to stay positive, patient, & determined. Prayer gives me confidence, piece, and strength.

 

 

 

AFFIRMATION 5: IT’S LIFE

Whichever area of your life that is challenging, affirm that “it’s life”. It’s life with my living. It’s life with my finances. It’s life with my health. It’s life with my education. It’s life with my ups & downs. Speak it out and it will come into existence. You might not believe it, but your situation is already under control you just have to trust in yourself.

 

 

 

AFFIRMATION 6: NO ONE CAN STOP ME FROM GETTING IT

No one can stop you from getting it but YOU.The goal+dreams i have for myself, may seem not believable. But, I have confidence in the facts that my future will be just fine, and that i will make it to where i want to be. There will be people who will try to bring you down, or just something that might try to hold you back, but don’t act on it. No one can stop you from getting to it unless you allowed them to.

 

So, these are the affirmations I say each day and they have kept me grounded & leveled. I would love to read some of yours if you feel comfortable dropping them down in the comments that will be dope.

 

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6 self-care facts for stressful days

When your life becomes more stressful and overwhelming sometimes sleeping it off isn’t always just quite enough. I feel that taking time out and actually working on the things that are bothersome can be a bit challenging but 100% worth trying. I have learned so much about facts on self-care that don’t always mean it have to be the simple things like getting a massage or drinking chamomile tea. 

My #1 thought now is to focus on more of my inner self then my outer self. Learning how to block out unwanted bullsh*t, and focusing on your mind&body should always be your motive. I learned how to dump the past me and let go of things not worth me bringing into my life today. I feel more at ease when i begin to do my own research on fixing my issues dealing with stress. So here are a few facts that might help you.

 

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SET LIMITS FOR YOURSELF

Learning to focus on you more, is helping you build your self-confidence. SAY NO SOMETIMES!

It’s totally fine to be confused, and to allow yourself to not be committed and to be responsible for other people. I know it is some people out there like myself probably made (promises&commitments) to do things they second guessed about agreeing to. If you are unsure, just know you don’t have to and not obligated to. SET LIMITS for yourself.

“Stop giving more to others then you are giving to yourself, focus on you more even if it sounds selfish.”

  • KEEP YOUR SAME ENERGY
  • STICK TO YOUR WORDS
  • NO MEANS NO!
  • DON’T HAVE NO REGRETS WHEN YOU SAY NO
  • STAY COMMITTED TO YOURSELF 
  • DON’T FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF

 

 

 

BREATHE IN LET IT OUT

Everyone bodies react differently when they are under some kind of stress, but most people still feel the same symptoms. You start to feel weak, heart beating at a much faster pace, break out in the face, muscles tighten up, and so much more. To deal with these random stress symptoms, you have to train your mind to notice every sign of stress so you will know how to respond in stressful situations. Practice breathing techniques to help you relax better. These are some techniques i do that help me out a lot i found online on http://www.sarahrosecoaching.com very helpful! been using these for a little bit!

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PROCESS IT THROUGH

Turn off your old thoughts and write down some new ones. You deserve a good mental cleanse. Try journaling, free thoughts writing, or get on your laptop, go to your note pad and type away. You have to process it all through and not just rush into your thoughts. My favorite thing to do is a Mental Cleanse←Click that if curious. 

 

 

 

RE-EVALUATING YOUR PRIORITIES

Are you taking time out to think things through? Are you focusing on what is important instead of what is not? Are you worrying more than caring less about irrelevant things? Have you ever thought that maybe you need to take time out to figure out what are you really stressing for and what can you do to let it go? Maybe you trying to do more than what you can even handle. Pay attention and look at back then and now and see where exactly is things falling off so you can fix them.

   #1 PRIORITY: FOCUS ON SELF-CARE FOREVER!

 

 

 

YOGA 

So yoga has been one of the things that have helped me a lot when i am stressed. You can try so many yoga techniques  Try downloading apps or finding online yoga classes so you can stay in the comfort of your own home. Lately i been using Yogaburn, not only it helped me to lose some pounds it helped me relieve a lot of stress. Just click the yoga burn tab for more information. Promise you it’s worth it!

 

 

STAY OUT THE MIX

Sometimes we get caught up into situations that has nothing to do with US. Drama, Drama, Drama is something you don’t need added to your stress. Easy said then done that sometimes the company you keep try to drag you in there mess and you have to learn how to just say no, or not just feed into it. No matter how much you love your friends and family members sometimes it’s best to love them from a distance. Now when someone vent it is totally fine, venting is healthy and sometimes we need to express ourselves. But…going back & forth and dealing with toxic people can be overwhelming and put you in a bad place. You have to learn how to take a step and putting your guards up between you and them by protecting your happiness, energy, and ability to focus on your own problems.

 “At a time in my life i always felt obligated, but when i realize that i was to in tuned with everyone else problems instead of mines, i realized i had to let go. When i begin to stay out the mix, i started to be more happy, now i wake up with more happiness in my heart, and less worry”

-SeqouiaB

 

 

I wonder how many others have any thing they do for themselves when life gets hectic? Please drop down in the comments! I would love to learn some new facts or see if someone has something in common with me ;).

 

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Gift guide for the home body





AROMATHERAPY STRESS RELIEF EUCALYPTUS & SPEARMINT BODY BUTTER WITH NATURAL ESSENTIAL OILS:

This product helps clears the mind,
24 hours of continuous moisture, and also you have to breathe deeply for the best results. If you also a big fan of super soft skin, this product is definitely for you.

Velour Lip Scrub:

I know a lot of people love body and facial scrub, well how about lip scrub? Wait don’t forget this lip scrub is flavored! I recommend this one if you love pancakes like me :)!

Sleeping Eye mask:

I mean what can i say? We need our beauty rest, and should sleep like the beautiful woman we are right? Eye mask just brings that glamour women all need. Makes me feel like a princess truthfully.

Coffee machine maker:

I recommend a coffee mark to real coffee lovers. Sometimes saving $5 from going to Starbucks is actually smart. You can make your own Starbucks right from the kitchen! Coffee at home just makes you feel more relaxed and comfortable.

Chesapeake Bay – Mind&body Candle:

Can i say that this candle is really for the mind&body. Grab a glass of wine, light it up, put on some soothing music and i promise this will definitely make you feel so soothed and light. These candles have different scents and meanings. This one is peace&franquility.

Robe:

Home robes are a must. Robes come in handy when it’s cozy and want to just feel homey. I possible think anyone wouldn’t mind having one at all.

Two piece pjs:

Can’t never go wrong finding the cutest two piece pajamas.

House Slippers:

I don’t know about you but slippers are the #1 comfort for keeping your feet warm and not getting dirty from walking around your home. I recommend cotton slippers if your feet is always getting cold.

“Home is where you should be at peace, home is where you should focus on your mind&body health. Home is where you should feel the most safe.”

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