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Forgive yourself then Free yourself

Extremely thrilled to write about this topic. I know a lot of people including myself has or had a dark cloud over their shoulder because of something they fault themselves about. Especially when it’s something we have control of. What we don’t realize is that, it’s just a feeling though. A feeling that’s only temporary. Feelings can’t kill you, but running from them can.

We as humans visualize how things can be so much better then what we are currently going through, but not realizing how much power we have to make our visions come true. But when we doubt ourselves, we are lacking and not pushing towards prosperity. Anybody can prosper, it’s simple. But the mind is powerful and you have to compete with yourself, challenge yourself, and to become a better version of you. Our life is a balance and you just have to learn how to maintain it. Holding on to pain just makes you suffer.

Three words:

  • Free
  • Open
  • Balance

Once you forgive yourself. It’s time to free yourself. You can free yourself from anything that can hold you back. Like for me, I am freeing myself from negative energy, negative people, negative thoughts, disappointments, toxic locations, toxic people, lack of growth, and the list goes on. But what most people don’t realize is that we have more freedom then we think. You have to just open up your mind to new things, it’s always good to venture out.

Try writing down what bothers you, and writing down ways you fixed or ways you can fix those problems. Write down why you haven’t forgiven yourself, then write down how you forgiven yourself. This will give you clarity an will help you open up your mind to finding new ways to cope with what’s bothering you.

I always make sure I encourage people to write ✍️ whom reads my articles because writing definitely does help a lot. Especially if you don’t want to go to a psychiatrist or vent to anyone. Writing is a peace of mind. You can come to a conclusion with a lot of situations in your life.

I really hope this blog helps someone out there with clarity or at least given someone a different outlook on how to move forward in life. Remember forgive yourself, and free yourself!

PSA:

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on moving forward. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took their time out to read & observe. Thanks!

Decluttering tips: 30 Items to Get Rid Of Today

Hey friends,

Are you trying to figure out “How do I start decluttering?” or “How do you get rid of clutter at home?”. Don’t worry, I have written 30 things you can throw away today so you can start to declutter right away or when you have time!

If the items you are throwing away are still in good condition where it can be reused, you can actually sell them to make some extra money, or donate them. I use an app called Depop to sell my clothing, shoes, & cosmetics, and I use offer up to sell any reusable devices and other little things!

1. Expired food

2. Expired spices

3. Old chipped up coffee mugs

4. Stained & ripped up towels/wash clothes

5. Old & used up pots and pans

6. Old coupons

7. Old receipts

8. Old cosmetics

9. Old tooth brushes/tooth paste

10. Mitch match socks

11. Old and too small underwear

12. Stained and worn out clothes

13. Used/old gift cards

14. Used candles

15. Unfinished projects

16. Writing utensils that don’t work

17. Dead batteries

18. Damaged items that aren’t fixable

19. Broken phone charges

20. Old phones that aren’t fixable

21. Any empty containers in your fridge

22. CDs that no longer work

23. Books you are more than likely never reading again

24. Old brooms and old mops

25. Stained and worn out sheets + covers

26. Expired medicines

27. Clothes you no longer can fit anymore

28. Irrelevant mail you don’t need anymore

29. Old remotes to tv’s you no longer even have

30. Old house phones you no longer use

Three techniques to slay your Anxiety

I suffered from anxiety for years, starting at the age of 18. The Panic attacks and anxiety started at the age of 22, and it definitely took over my life and I found myself avoiding any situation I thought could induce my anxiety. 

The thing with anxiety the more you ignore it, the more it will come hunt you. Sucks right?…  But wait, the more it hunts you, the more difficult it gets.

Sometimes just getting yourself together, like your appearance can change so much in your daily life. Don’t be a debby downer so much and find love within yourself. When we are stressed we get to the point where we just let ourselves go, and all that do is add more to the plate. You definitely want that plate to be empty with no worries. 

In otherwise, SLAY THAT ANXIETY!…

#1 GET IN TUNED WITH YOURSELF

Think about all the good things you notice about yourself. Write it on a sticky note, journal, notes, hell wherever! Find yourself and figure out your happiness. The point where i’m getting to is that in order to be happy you have to make yourself happy. When you make yourself happy then what? you are in tuned with yourself. Can’t nobody tell you nothing different. AT ALL!….

 

#2 REDIRECT YOUR THOUGHTS

\When you notice you are starting to have negative thoughts then redirect your thoughts to something positive. Before i have an upcoming test, or job interview, I would always be negative. “I doubt i’ll pass” “I can’t do this” “I don’t think they will hire me”. Guess what happened when i had those thoughts? I FAILED! I had to start training my mind to turn a negative back to positive , and i still work on this til this day now. 

 

#3 BE MORE WORRYLESS

We have to get out of that “worry” mode. Sometimes when you worry too much it actually triggers you to have anxiety attacks. We apply so much pressure on ourselves and we don’t have to. Live in the moment and be fearless. When you start to worry, find a good solution that can help prevent that. Remember it’s all in the head. Your mind will play tricks on you, especially for those who minds wander 24/7. So you have to play tricks back by winning over anything that’s stopping you from letting go of your worries. If you can’t make it to your close friend party on time? Hey! it’s not your fault. You still haven’t passed that test quite yet? Keep trying. Your close someone is treating you like crap and you don’t know why?! Who cares, let it go!. Stop worrying about situations or people who isn’t making your life no better good or bad.

 

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on getting better. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took there time out to read & observe. Thanks!

30 Things You Can Do Instead of Scrolling on Social Media

I try to have days where i let go of social media to do something for myself, and actually have me time. At first i can admit it was kind of hard because social media can be addictive, but eventually i was able to just go for it. Focusing on self-care is definitely important, especially if you are automatically a busy person and easily to get overwhelmed + distracted. We have other valuable time in our lives besides being on social media and watching what others are doing with there lives. Here are 30 things you can do instead of scrolling on social media.

 

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  1. Take a walk
  2. Read a book
  3. Stretch/do yoga
  4. Do a mini workout
  5. Do something creative
  6. Make a to-do list for the next day
  7. Call a friend
  8. Journal how you’re feeling
  9. Cook a simple meal
  10. Make a Vision Board

 

 

  1. Journal your current feelings
  2. Cook your favorite meal
  3. Have your own sip & paint in the comfort of your own home
  4. Meditate
  5. Write down what you’re grateful for
  6. Get lost in your own thoughts
  7. Listen to a podcast
  8. Put on your favorite music and just listen +relax
  9. Call some one you are close to for some good laughs
  10. Write a new set of goals+plans

 

 

  1. Give yourself credit by writing down good things about yourself
  2. Plan a fun day out
  3. Declutter your living space
  4. Light a candle and have some “me time”
  5. Take pictures of our beautiful nature
  6. Sit on the beach 
  7. Go stargazing 
  8. Have a small picnic 
  9. Take a hike
  10. Go on a mindful walk

 

 

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Life Update: Took a break from blogging. Now i’m back.

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So guess what? I decided to start doing life updates, just to keep you posted with me. I did say before i wanted to start finding new ways to connect with my audience, now i came up with the best solution. So let this be a new start. Life update part 1.

What’s up “Sp fam” (sixteen pages fam)

As you know, Sixteen Pages Blog, is to inspire, motivate, and discuss many topics from self-love, care, growth, and building +more. But for my life updates, you all will be digging into my lifestyle, figuring me out, and following me through my journey/path on pursuing my goals,. Also i will be writing about my fight with depression, my life as a mom, my relationship lifestyle, and so much more. These life updates will be 100% authentic of course. I mean i’m not blocking anything out, straight raw! Anyways let’s get started.

So what’s tea?…..

I decided to take a break away from blogging to focus on a business i started in Late June. The business is called SixteenKisses. It’s a beauty company selling a variety of beauty products. At first i was making it a priority to blog daily or every other day while still working on my business. It just became to much stress on my mind/body. I would be up all night and be super tired, and on top of that i still have a regular job so lol i’m sure you get the point now. I am incredibly ecstatic that i am completing another goal in my life and moving on to the next chapter. It wasn’t easy making all this happen but i did it. I can’t wait until my business expand, but i am patient and i am staying consistent. Now i am back to the blog world like i never left. I have a lot of upcoming things i want to do on my blog. I put a pause on those goals i had for my blog site and now i am ready to achieve them.

I have new interesting plans that will make my blog site more fun, entertaining, and helpful. So, let me throw some scoops at you! I decided to start doing interviews but in a different way. I will ask a selection of questions, and whomever will answer them, send photos, and leave a link for people to find them and i will add it to my interview section. All interviews will be put on a blog post in (writing). I decided to start doing interviews because it’s a good way to support & share the stories of successful men/women around the globe. There are people like myself that is killing the game, and not being noticed like as we should.  The goal is to provide examples of men and women who are walking in their purpose and want to show the world there gift.

Besides me cooking up all these interesting plans i have coming up, I also been working on a lot of me time. Self-care has been playing a big part on my life now. I been exploring the nature more, finding new things i love to do. I have a new series on Netflix i can watch while i’m alone with my cup of coffee, and i also been treating myself to a nice size glass of wine before bed time. I just been so mellow, nonchalant, & relaxed. It feels good i can truly admit i love taking time out for myself even if i’m not doing to much of nothing.

Well anyways sp fam, that’s all for now. Stay out on the look out for the next life update :). Check out my other blogs if you haven’t yet.

See you all soon!!

 

 

 

 

How to Overcome Your Fear of Self-Promotion

I know it can’t possibly be just me who went through this fear of self-promotion. Do you ever get that nervous feeling to share links in your blog or own your social media accounts? Do you hesitate to promote your own work you spent long nights & hours gathering together? Do you feel when you market your products it’s a slight chance you might not get any sales?

Well your not alone on this one! Many people even myself experience fear of self-promotion, especially if you are a beginner and just getting started. But lets put a stop to that fear! Here is 5 tips to help you overcome your fear of self-promotion.

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1. PINPOINT YOUR FEAR

So, what are you exactly afraid of? Do you feel that no one is going to support you? Do you fear rejection? Does putting yourself out there makes you question if you will receive rejection? Are you scared of failure? Well, to get over this fear you have to pinpoint the problem.

 

2. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

If you want to overcome your fear of self-promotion, you have to believe in yourself and your value. You have to know that you are worth more than you think you are. Be humbled, but still think highly of your craft. You deserve as much attention a lot of other people are getting. You are just as talented & business minded. If you aren’t passionate about your work no one else will be neither. You deserve to win & make it to every step you need down this journey, and you will.

 

3. KNOW YOUR TARGET AUDIENCE

When it comes to knowing your target it’s definitely important when it comes to blogging or starting your own business. You want to make sure you reach an audience that will be interested. When you pin in on who your target audience is, you’ll be creating content just for them which is super helpful on your end. This also helps gain confidence and have more faith. When you know your value and significance for others in what you’re promoting, your confidence will help you promote it in the best way possible.

 

4. STOP THE NEGATIVE SELF TALKS

If you continue to think negative, you will lose hope on elevating & moving to the next level. Think of the reason why you decided to blog or start your own business, and let that why turn into your motivation to keep going. You are dedicated & genuine about your work your audience will be to. Know your passion, remember your passion, and stick to it. You might be coming out your comfort zone, but know that it will be worth it all in the long run. Don’t overflow your mind with so much negativity & continue to be positive at all times.

 

5. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECTION  PERMANENT

Practice your pitch. Remember when you are blogging and starting a business you have to market yourself. Marketing is self-promotion. You have prepare yourself to know exactly what you want to get across when promoting brand. Be ready to connect with new people because it’s definitely going to happen. In ordinary to have that comfortability in your brand you have to practice, so your skills can come naturally. After is comes natural then it will turn into permanent. So everything will become more easier for you and you will be fearless.

 

 

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27 Self Care Ideas for Emotional and Mental Health

For those like myself that currently or use to go through mental health definitely can use this blog for some coping ideas. Self care and your emotions play a big part in your life. It’s all about taking care of yourself and doing things that improve your moody ways and working on reducing anxiety while still working on improvement and keeping your life in tact. Go through the list and see what can help you fix the problem.

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Mental Self-Care Ideas

  1. Learn to say ‘no!”
  2. Listen to an encouraging podcast
  3. Treat yourself
  4. Avoid toxic people and toxic energy
  5.  Declutter and clean up
  6. Take a mental health week
  7. Drink some wine, light up some candles, and unwind while having some adult time and relieving some of that tense
  8. Find a comedy movie or t.v. series to watch so you can laugh
  9. Create a cozy space
  10. Talk to a friend
  11. Travel to a beautiful place that gives you peace
  12. Create positive affirmations
  13. Have your own paint & sip at home, or go to one
  14. Meditate
  15. Try journaling on a daily

 

Emotional Self-Care Ideas

16. Practice gratefulness 

17. Write a positive list

18. Practice mindfulness

19. Practice self-compassion daily

20. Be true to yourself without worrying about being accepted by anyone else

21. Let go of your fears

22. Dive into your creativity (Try something different, that will make you feel happy afterwards)

23. Stop over-explaining yourself to others

24. Accept compliments without being combative 

25. Give yourself motivation when moments don’t go as planned

26. Take deep breaths often

 

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43 Journal Prompts for personal growth

Wow i can’t believe that it’s fall and we almost in October! October is definitely my favorite month!. These are journal prompts to help with personal growth! Hopefully after reading this and taking it to use, you will have more confidence to create a life you love! I also hope these journal prompts will help you change any negative mindsets and help you in every aspect as possible.

 

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  1. Where will I be in 2 years?
  2. What does my ideal day look like?
  3. What unhealthy habits do I need to cut out?
  4. What do I love most about myself? (3 things)
  5. What is something I’ve been wanting to do but have been too afraid to try? 
  6. What are my top 2 goals for this year and how can I achieve them?
  7. What do I struggle with the most? And why?
  8. What are 5 words that describe me best and why?
  9. How can I add happiness to my daily life?
  10. What animal describes me as a person and why?
  11. Why is personal growth so important?
  12. Is it possible to help someone else with his or her own personal growth, or can people only grow on their own?  Why or why not?
  13. What is your best habit?  Why?
  14. What would you say is your biggest strength?

  15. What do you consider to be your most challenging flaw?

  16. What is one aspect of your life you’d like to improve over the next year? What would that improvement look like?

  17. What three to five qualities feel the most important for you to embody?

  18. What is the number one thing that feels like it’s missing from your life right now?
  19. I feel amazing when …
  20. When you are feeling down, what picks you up?
  21. How do you manage stress? Explore what has worked for you and what hasn’t
  22. What are your top life hacks?
  23. List 5 things you love about your home
  24. What are you good at?
  25. What do you often get compliments about?
  26. What do you enjoy doing?
  27. 10 things you love about your life.
  28. When you think about your future what do you hope/wish for the most?
  29. Do you believe everything happens for a reason? If so, reflect and name 1 thing that.
  30. What’s surprised you the most about your life or life in general?
  31. What can you learn from your biggest mistakes?
  32. Write the words you need to hear.
  33. Name a compassionate way you’ve supported a friend recently. Then write down how you can do the same for yourself.
  34. If my body could talk, it would say
  35. Name what is enough for you.
  36. What do you need more in life?
  37. I couldn’t imagine living without…
  38. If I could talk to my teenage self, the one thing I would say is…
  39. Make a list of 20 things that make you smile.
  40.  What is my third most unique strength?
  41. What is something I would miss if I no longer had it?
  42.  What is your biggest win in the last seven days?
  43. What’s the top lesson your mother taught you?

 

 

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7 bomb tips to up your blog with social media

Let’s be super honest here, creating just a blog can be super confusing sometimes, and might have nights where you end up having a huge ass migraine! Well sometimes it’s easy said then done that when you post content you want to make sure you target the right audience. 𝑺𝒐𝒄𝒊𝒂𝒍 𝒎𝒆𝒅𝒊𝒂 𝒊𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒄𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒊𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒈𝒈𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒖𝒓, 𝒑𝒖𝒃𝒍𝒊𝒄 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆, 𝒔𝒐𝒄𝒊𝒂𝒍 𝒎𝒆𝒅𝒊𝒂 𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏/𝒎𝒐𝒅𝒆𝒍, 𝒐𝒓 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒐𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆. Sometimes it can be hard, but once you actually start figuring out different tricks & tips on how to build, it definitely will work. Social media does play a big part of building your blog but you have to make sure you do it the right way! I will give you 7 tips on how.

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Don’t use your personal social media account to promote your blogs #MakeAnewAccount

When you you use your main social media account sometimes it defeats the purpose. “My opinion!” I think it is more valuable when you make an account specifically for your blogs. You can be able to explain better in detail, have debates, and all around target the main point of whatever blog you just published. You want to make sure your audience be able to understand, relate, & focus just on that blog, so you can be able to bring them to visit your website. It’s all about posting good content & giving your readers more of a reason to enjoy your content as well.

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Use your creativity

Being creative is something that comes natural regardless. Sometimes a lot of people feel they aren’t creative, but don’t understand that everyone is in there own way. Find different things to post on your social media that will bring attention to your social media. Host a giveaway, have a poll on your Instagram story, or go live and interact with others.

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Make videos on (Insta story, Insta post, Igtv)

When you make videos, it just helps brings more audience, and also a good way to show your authentic self. Let people get to know your personality, and be able to visually see you. Sometimes by just posting pictures aren’t just enough. Talk about your upcoming blogs, what do your readers want you to blog about next, or just whatever that comes to mind. You are the host remember that, so think of some of your good skills you have, and put them to use. The more you stay active, the easier it will get to start getting people to notice you.

Be consistent with your followers

Yes, consistency is the key. When using social media, your social skills are important. People adapt to those who are communicative & open. Make sure you reply to comments, & DM’s, because that’s what your audience would like. No need to act sassy and ignore those who are asking a simple question, or just want to shoot you some advice. Not even that, but what if a company is interested in working wit you and like your content. You don’t want to pass up good opportunities.

Post daily

Stay active by posting everyday. Even if it’s a simple quote, picture, or just something that you want to discuss. Especially until you build your social media following up, eventually you can make a routine on what days you post, but save that when you elevate & actually have a good amount of following.

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High Quality Photos

Photos is another way to bring a large audience. Make sure you download good photo editing apps like Photoshop ExpressPicsArt, and many more. Even myself can admit that when i see awesome photos it brings my attention right away. Sometimes you have to think as if it was you who will be interested.

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Use HASHTAGS!

Hashtags is another way to build up your following, actually a quick way. There are billions of users who use hashtags, be one of them. Make sure you use the right hashtags and also switch them up. Sometimes using the exact same hashtags for months & months, will make it hard to get your page noticed. So yes use hashtags! You can search up viral hashtags on google of course.

I hope these tips can help, they definitely helped me in so many ways. Screenshot so you can have them in your phone. 

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20 ways to comfort yourself when you don’t know what’s wrong

20 ways to comfort yourself when you don’t know what’s wrong

It’s one of those days, and i don’t know maybe things wasn’t suppose to be this way. You had good plans, schedules are been pre-made a head of time, and exciting ideas. But for some odd reason, you just don’t feel right.

Your agitated.

People are being negative and annoying.

You have your favorite baked cookies that just fills you up with joy. No seriously.

And for some weird reason you still feel down.

But I’m here to provide you with some ways to help and some reasons why days like this can slowly grow into a big F*CKING MESS, if you let it :(.

 

 

 

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1. Make a list of any of the following things to give yourself a healthy distraction:

  • Things that make you happy

  • Your favorite tv series 

  • Places you like to go that you don’t really go as much
  • What you’re thankful for

  • Nice things that people always say to you

  • Memories that warm your heart

 

2. Spend some time painting (Even if you aren’t the best) lol

3. Light candles around the house and put on soothing music

4. Give yourself permission to take care of yourself today. It’s okay to put things aside. Taking time to invest in you is important

5. Flush out the negativity and energy out by drinking a large glass of water (Visualize it) +Water gives energy

6. Make some chamomile tea. (Relieves anxiety)

7. Close your eyes and think of your dream vacation

8. Settle in with a good book

9. Let go of guilt. Move on and leave it in the past.

10. Go for a walk in nature without your phone and sink in the atmosphere and inhale+exhale fresh air.

11. Bake your favorite dish.

12. Drink a good ole bottle of wine. 

13. Invite friends over and have game night/movie night. (You need good energy at the moment)

14. Look in the mirror and tell yourself 5 good things about yourself. This is what i tell myself.

  • I’m intelligent
  • I’m beautiful/handsome
  • I’m determined
  • I am thankful for life
  • I am blessed to be myself
  • I love who i becoming
  • I am strong and dominant
  • MY PAST DOES NOT DEFINE ME

15. Take some time for self-care. Paint your nails, take a long bath, do what makes you feel pampered and beautiful.

16. If you have build up bad energy, take yourself to the gym or go for a run

17. Surprise some one special with a gift or take them out. (Making someone smile is the best feeling)

18. Read a good book, but settle in first in get comfy.

19. Don’t stress yourself out figuring out “Why” and just let it go.

20. Give yourself permission to find a funny show on Netflix or Hulu that’s going to make you laugh.