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30 Things You Can Do Instead of Scrolling on Social Media, Lifestyle Blog

30 Things You Can Do Instead of Scrolling on Social Media

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I try to have days where i let go of social media to do something for myself, and actually have me time. At first i can admit it was kind of hard because social media can be addictive, but eventually i was able to just go for it. Focusing on self-care is definitely important, especially if you are automatically a busy person and easily to get overwhelmed + distracted. We have other valuable time in our lives besides being on social media and watching what others are doing with there lives. Here are 30 things you can do instead of scrolling on social media.

 

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  1. Take a walk
  2. Read a book
  3. Stretch/do yoga
  4. Do a mini workout
  5. Do something creative
  6. Make a to-do list for the next day
  7. Call a friend
  8. Journal how you’re feeling
  9. Cook a simple meal
  10. Make a Vision Board

 

 

  1. Journal your current feelings
  2. Cook your favorite meal
  3. Have your own sip & paint in the comfort of your own home
  4. Meditate
  5. Write down what you’re grateful for
  6. Get lost in your own thoughts
  7. Listen to a podcast
  8. Put on your favorite music and just listen +relax
  9. Call some one you are close to for some good laughs
  10. Write a new set of goals+plans

 

 

  1. Give yourself credit by writing down good things about yourself
  2. Plan a fun day out
  3. Declutter your living space
  4. Light a candle and have some “me time”
  5. Take pictures of our beautiful nature
  6. Sit on the beach 
  7. Go stargazing 
  8. Have a small picnic 
  9. Take a hike
  10. Go on a mindful walk

 

 

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Life updates: Part 1, Lifestyle Blog

Life Update: Took a break from blogging. Now i’m back.

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So guess what? I decided to start doing life updates, just to keep you posted with me. I did say before i wanted to start finding new ways to connect with my audience, now i came up with the best solution. So let this be a new start. Life update part 1.

What’s up “Sp fam” (sixteen pages fam)

As you know, Sixteen Pages Blog, is to inspire, motivate, and discuss many topics from self-love, care, growth, and building +more. But for my life updates, you all will be digging into my lifestyle, figuring me out, and following me through my journey/path on pursuing my goals,. Also i will be writing about my fight with depression, my life as a mom, my relationship lifestyle, and so much more. These life updates will be 100% authentic of course. I mean i’m not blocking anything out, straight raw! Anyways let’s get started.

So what’s tea?…..

I decided to take a break away from blogging to focus on a business i started in Late June. The business is called SixteenKisses. It’s a beauty company selling a variety of beauty products. At first i was making it a priority to blog daily or every other day while still working on my business. It just became to much stress on my mind/body. I would be up all night and be super tired, and on top of that i still have a regular job so lol i’m sure you get the point now. I am incredibly ecstatic that i am completing another goal in my life and moving on to the next chapter. It wasn’t easy making all this happen but i did it. I can’t wait until my business expand, but i am patient and i am staying consistent. Now i am back to the blog world like i never left. I have a lot of upcoming things i want to do on my blog. I put a pause on those goals i had for my blog site and now i am ready to achieve them.

I have new interesting plans that will make my blog site more fun, entertaining, and helpful. So, let me throw some scoops at you! I decided to start doing interviews but in a different way. I will ask a selection of questions, and whomever will answer them, send photos, and leave a link for people to find them and i will add it to my interview section. All interviews will be put on a blog post in (writing). I decided to start doing interviews because it’s a good way to support & share the stories of successful men/women around the globe. There are people like myself that is killing the game, and not being noticed like as we should.  The goal is to provide examples of men and women who are walking in their purpose and want to show the world there gift.

Besides me cooking up all these interesting plans i have coming up, I also been working on a lot of me time. Self-care has been playing a big part on my life now. I been exploring the nature more, finding new things i love to do. I have a new series on Netflix i can watch while i’m alone with my cup of coffee, and i also been treating myself to a nice size glass of wine before bed time. I just been so mellow, nonchalant, & relaxed. It feels good i can truly admit i love taking time out for myself even if i’m not doing to much of nothing.

Well anyways sp fam, that’s all for now. Stay out on the look out for the next life update :). Check out my other blogs if you haven’t yet.

See you all soon!!

 

 

 

 

How to overcome your fear of self-promotion, Lifestyle Blog

How to Overcome Your Fear of Self-Promotion

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I know it can’t possibly be just me who went through this fear of self-promotion. Do you ever get that nervous feeling to share links in your blog or own your social media accounts? Do you hesitate to promote your own work you spent long nights & hours gathering together? Do you feel when you market your products it’s a slight chance you might not get any sales?

Well your not alone on this one! Many people even myself experience fear of self-promotion, especially if you are a beginner and just getting started. But lets put a stop to that fear! Here is 5 tips to help you overcome your fear of self-promotion.

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1. PINPOINT YOUR FEAR

So, what are you exactly afraid of? Do you feel that no one is going to support you? Do you fear rejection? Does putting yourself out there makes you question if you will receive rejection? Are you scared of failure? Well, to get over this fear you have to pinpoint the problem.

 

2. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

If you want to overcome your fear of self-promotion, you have to believe in yourself and your value. You have to know that you are worth more than you think you are. Be humbled, but still think highly of your craft. You deserve as much attention a lot of other people are getting. You are just as talented & business minded. If you aren’t passionate about your work no one else will be neither. You deserve to win & make it to every step you need down this journey, and you will.

 

3. KNOW YOUR TARGET AUDIENCE

When it comes to knowing your target it’s definitely important when it comes to blogging or starting your own business. You want to make sure you reach an audience that will be interested. When you pin in on who your target audience is, you’ll be creating content just for them which is super helpful on your end. This also helps gain confidence and have more faith. When you know your value and significance for others in what you’re promoting, your confidence will help you promote it in the best way possible.

 

4. STOP THE NEGATIVE SELF TALKS

If you continue to think negative, you will lose hope on elevating & moving to the next level. Think of the reason why you decided to blog or start your own business, and let that why turn into your motivation to keep going. You are dedicated & genuine about your work your audience will be to. Know your passion, remember your passion, and stick to it. You might be coming out your comfort zone, but know that it will be worth it all in the long run. Don’t overflow your mind with so much negativity & continue to be positive at all times.

 

5. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECTION  PERMANENT

Practice your pitch. Remember when you are blogging and starting a business you have to market yourself. Marketing is self-promotion. You have prepare yourself to know exactly what you want to get across when promoting brand. Be ready to connect with new people because it’s definitely going to happen. In ordinary to have that comfortability in your brand you have to practice, so your skills can come naturally. After is comes natural then it will turn into permanent. So everything will become more easier for you and you will be fearless.

 

 

Have you struggled with self-promotion? What helped you with overcoming the fear of self-promotion if so? Let’s Chat!

5 TIPS ON HOW TO BECOME A RELEVANT BLOGGER, Lifestyle Blog

5 TIPS ON HOW TO BECOME A RELEVANT BLOGGER

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There is a lot of people who want to start a blog, But not really posting relevant content that catches the audience attention. Sometimes, people feel as if they post a blog it’s automatically going to get someone’s attention and it doesn’t work that way. Why waste your time posting up blogs Day by day but not doing anything to get attention you need or want. Make your blog relevant, and today I want to show you a few tips on how you can do that.

1. FIND A BAD ASS NICHE

A niche is a specific topic you will be posting about. You know when you go on google and you search (How to be more mindful) and hundreds of blogs pop up, and your clicking on about four different ones so you can get the correct information you need. Well clearly, you can see that topic is popular because a lot of blogs are popping up, so make sure you post something that people actually want to read.

2. CUT THE LAZY CRAP AND GET TO WORK

Yes! Stop being lazy. If you want to become relevant, you have to make yourself relevant. Sometimes we give up when we only get 10 likes on our pictures, 5 views on our articles, and not getting any comments. But what we all fail to realize, everyone started from somewhere. You can’t just wake up and want to start something new and think right then in there you are going to rise up. You will grow over time. Some people have there own time limit when they will get noticed, but you can’t focus on other people and how they are ahead of you. Just do what needs to be done and you will slowly but shortly see how far you have succeeded.

3. CONSISTENCY IS THE KEY

Be consistent with anything you do. Make sure you post daily and share links directed to your blog on every social media platforms. Support yourself first, then eventually people will support you. If you post good topics you will receive good feedback.

4. BE AUTHENTIC

Be real. No one wants nobody to feed them with lies and bs, that’s not a good look. Like when you see other bloggers post “I made $300,000 in a week click here to see how!” Then when you click it, it feeds you with a bunch of bullshit, then tells you “if you want to find out more information save your spot now for the webinar for $250!” Lol! Total scam! Rather if they do have the information, how did they learn the information they are teaching you? I’m sure they figured it out just like how you can. You just have to plan, brainstorm, and not find the easy way in to everything. Honesty is the key to having loyal readers. I don’t know about you but i cling on to people I can trust!

5. CREATE VIDEOS

Videos some how bring a lot of attention. People would like to see you, be visible, chat with your followers or readers. Sometimes physically being visible makes your blogs so much better. Your readers can actually see, hear, and understand you so much better. Sometimes it’s good to just level up and do things a little different.

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Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

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43 Journal Prompts for personal growth

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Wow i can’t believe that it’s fall and we almost in October! October is definitely my favorite month!. These are journal prompts to help with personal growth! Hopefully after reading this and taking it to use, you will have more confidence to create a life you love! I also hope these journal prompts will help you change any negative mindsets and help you in every aspect as possible.

 

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  1. Where will I be in 2 years?
  2. What does my ideal day look like?
  3. What unhealthy habits do I need to cut out?
  4. What do I love most about myself? (3 things)
  5. What is something I’ve been wanting to do but have been too afraid to try? 
  6. What are my top 2 goals for this year and how can I achieve them?
  7. What do I struggle with the most? And why?
  8. What are 5 words that describe me best and why?
  9. How can I add happiness to my daily life?
  10. What animal describes me as a person and why?
  11. Why is personal growth so important?
  12. Is it possible to help someone else with his or her own personal growth, or can people only grow on their own?  Why or why not?
  13. What is your best habit?  Why?

  14. What would you say is your biggest strength?

  15. What do you consider to be your most challenging flaw?

  16. What is one aspect of your life you’d like to improve over the next year? What would that improvement look like?

  17. What three to five qualities feel the most important for you to embody?

  18. What is the number one thing that feels like it’s missing from your life right now?
  19. I feel amazing when …
  20. When you are feeling down, what picks you up?
  21. How do you manage stress? Explore what has worked for you and what hasn’t
  22. What are your top life hacks?
  23. List 5 things you love about your home
  24. What are you good at?
  25. What do you often get compliments about?
  26. What do you enjoy doing?
  27. 10 things you love about your life.
  28. When you think about your future what do you hope/wish for the most?
  29. Do you believe everything happens for a reason? If so, reflect and name 1 thing that.
  30. What’s surprised you the most about your life or life in general?
  31. What can you learn from your biggest mistakes?
  32. Write the words you need to hear.
  33. Name a compassionate way you’ve supported a friend recently. Then write down how you can do the same for yourself.
  34. If my body could talk, it would say
  35. Name what is enough for you.
  36. What do you need more in life?
  37. I couldn’t imagine living without…
  38. If I could talk to my teenage self, the one thing I would say is…
  39. Make a list of 20 things that make you smile.
  40.  What is my third most unique strength?
  41. What is something I would miss if I no longer had it?
  42.  What is your biggest win in the last seven days?
  43. What’s the top lesson your mother taught you?

 

 

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/

Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/

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how to make a million off blogging, Lifestyle Blog

Turn your blog to a million dollar making blog (Small quick valuable tips)

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So of course you’re building your blog, hoping to one day turn it to a full time income and quit your 9-5, but you have no guarantees it will ever pay off because now it’s seeming like these bloggers & vloggers are just making it all up just to take your money.

So many questions will run through your head. What if this blog fails? What if I get no audience? What if I’m wasting my time and meant to do something different? What if I’m really fooling myself thinking I will be able to become rich of being a blogger?

Let’s be real though, building a profitable blog can be tough work. And it takes time before it actually start taking lead towards success. So you have to be patient and learn as you go. But in the process of being patient make sure take these tips into consideration.

1. Research

2. Brainstorm

3. Watch videos

4. Take notes

5. Practice creating your future (ahead) just to see if you see any kind of potential

Find what your creative at. Anyone can be creative. Figure it out, and give it a shot. That creativity might lead you to some real life “moolah”🤑!

Here are a few things I know that help bloggers become millionaires.

•Selling a informative E-book

•Selling digital products

•Starting a YouTube channel with really good content

•Finance blogs (who wouldn’t want to learn how to make money)

•Courses (Teach courses & teach others how to teach courses)

•Start an e-commerce business

•Affiliate marketing

•Subscription programs

•Online and in person coaching

All & all you have to give people value, trust, authenticity, and not just someone who just want’s there money. Make sure you always are genuine and have genuine expertise, because your client is some one you do not want to lose out on. So don’t utilize your own experiences.

I hope these small tips were somewhat helpful at least just giving you a few tips on how you can turn something so small to something so big which means your revenue.

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/ Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/ Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/ Interested into beauty & glowing skin products? I sell lip gloss, glowing skin products just go here: https://sixteenkisses.com

7 tips to up your blog with social media, audience, Lifestyle Blog, Social media

7 bomb tips to up your blog with social media

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Let’s be super honest here, creating just a blog can be super confusing sometimes, and might have nights where you end up having a huge ass migraine! Well sometimes it’s easy said then done that when you post content you want to make sure you target the right audience. 𝑺𝒐𝒄𝒊𝒂𝒍 𝒎𝒆𝒅𝒊𝒂 𝒊𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒄𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒊𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒈𝒈𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒖𝒓, 𝒑𝒖𝒃𝒍𝒊𝒄 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆, 𝒔𝒐𝒄𝒊𝒂𝒍 𝒎𝒆𝒅𝒊𝒂 𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏/𝒎𝒐𝒅𝒆𝒍, 𝒐𝒓 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒐𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆. Sometimes it can be hard, but once you actually start figuring out different tricks & tips on how to build, it definitely will work. Social media does play a big part of building your blog but you have to make sure you do it the right way! I will give you 7 tips on how.

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Don’t use your personal social media account to promote your blogs #MakeAnewAccount

When you you use your main social media account sometimes it defeats the purpose. “My opinion!” I think it is more valuable when you make an account specifically for your blogs. You can be able to explain better in detail, have debates, and all around target the main point of whatever blog you just published. You want to make sure your audience be able to understand, relate, & focus just on that blog, so you can be able to bring them to visit your website. It’s all about posting good content & giving your readers more of a reason to enjoy your content as well.

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Use your creativity

Being creative is something that comes natural regardless. Sometimes a lot of people feel they aren’t creative, but don’t understand that everyone is in there own way. Find different things to post on your social media that will bring attention to your social media. Host a giveaway, have a poll on your Instagram story, or go live and interact with others.

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Make videos on (Insta story, Insta post, Igtv)

When you make videos, it just helps brings more audience, and also a good way to show your authentic self. Let people get to know your personality, and be able to visually see you. Sometimes by just posting pictures aren’t just enough. Talk about your upcoming blogs, what do your readers want you to blog about next, or just whatever that comes to mind. You are the host remember that, so think of some of your good skills you have, and put them to use. The more you stay active, the easier it will get to start getting people to notice you.

Be consistent with your followers

Yes, consistency is the key. When using social media, your social skills are important. People adapt to those who are communicative & open. Make sure you reply to comments, & DM’s, because that’s what your audience would like. No need to act sassy and ignore those who are asking a simple question, or just want to shoot you some advice. Not even that, but what if a company is interested in working wit you and like your content. You don’t want to pass up good opportunities.

Post daily

Stay active by posting everyday. Even if it’s a simple quote, picture, or just something that you want to discuss. Especially until you build your social media following up, eventually you can make a routine on what days you post, but save that when you elevate & actually have a good amount of following.

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High Quality Photos

Photos is another way to bring a large audience. Make sure you download good photo editing apps like Photoshop Express, PicsArt, and many more. Even myself can admit that when i see awesome photos it brings my attention right away. Sometimes you have to think as if it was you who will be interested.

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Use HASHTAGS!

Hashtags is another way to build up your following, actually a quick way. There are billions of users who use hashtags, be one of them. Make sure you use the right hashtags and also switch them up. Sometimes using the exact same hashtags for months & months, will make it hard to get your page noticed. So yes use hashtags! You can search up viral hashtags on google of course.

I hope these tips can help, they definitely helped me in so many ways. Screenshot so you can have them in your phone. 

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/

Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/

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Have you had a point in time in your life when you felt that you didn’t have no one?: Expressions Part 1

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This Blog is me opening up, and expressing myself about my life. I am focusing on opening about me more and giving out 💯 my authentic self, pure love & honesty.

Have you had a point in time in your life when you felt that you didn’t have no one? You felt stuck, lost, and just wanted to give up. You just feel a strong pain in your stomach that want leave, and you feel useless and full of worry…

Life can really suck at times, because once you become an adult and your life didn’t turn out how you visioned it when you were 16 or even 18, so you just completely feel like all the dreams, visions, and plans you had was a big waste.

You have all these people thinking your so spoiled, or you just live such a happy life, and your perfectly fine….

Well this is me, I am HER. I have been through so much. Sometimes as much as i try to hide it, it still affects me until this day now. But, I can say i am a lot stronger.

Life can just be a hassle at times. It’s like your fighting yourself to be better and not give up on YOU. But, sometimes it’s something that is trying to pull you back from happiness. It can be for multiple reasons. The energy around you, the way you think on a daily, or just the lifestyle you still live that you know that you need to change it. I honestly feel that has always been my problem, “STICKING TO THE SAME LIFESTYLE.”

Sometimes partying, drinking a lot, dealing with toxic people, can make it hard for better life changes. I didn’t take that into consideration, and i still kind of don’t until this day now. Why?… Because it’s hard to just let people go and i know it can turn into a big mess. But of course my confused self ask myself all the time “Seqouia, why do you even care?”

And of course, I really don’t even have an accurate answer for myself. I feel like my life is based on bunch of confusion. I’m tired of waking up angry, I want to wake up with full of happiness. Although i don’t just wake up mad everyday, but it does happens often.

I had to really sit in have self-talks to figure out what can i do to stop feeling the way i feel. How can i change things without making it my problem to stress about it, and not let it bother me from becoming a better version of me? What can i do to make myself, “SEQOUIA” smile more instead of everyone else?

Sometimes i know feelings within yourself can be temporary just because things aren’t really going right at the time. But honestly, who really wants to even be sometimes “depressed.” 

NOT ME!… AT ALL!!

But anyways, these feelings can’t change on its own right? I would have to be the one to fix these issues. As a human of course we don’t feel it’s that easy. We feel that money can change a lot of stress. And sad to say, it’s true for most people! I am one of those people by the way. I will not sugar coat anything i never do. Once i have money in my presence i am totally fine. I make sure i take pre-cautions when it comes to money though, and i am glad i do. One thing about me, although i love money and i may think of other quick ways to make money i never act on my actions, I continue to keep working my damn ass off and do what i have to do.

Over time which is recently, I say about a total of 5 months ago. A little have changed but a lot more needs to still be fixed. Which i am kind of excited about. I mean can’t no one change over night right? It takes time to become a strong WOMAN/MAN, when you have always been weak 1/2 of your life. I always tell myself it’s okay to cry because soon all these sad tears will be tears of joy. Soon all my worries will be complete. That’s the mindset you have to have. You have to know that no matter how you are feeling today, tomorrow, or even next week, those feelings will go away.

I learned over the last few months to be passionate to myself, and to go with the flow. Over time things will be different. Whoever you second thought about being in your life eventually will drift away, all the finance issues you been having will do a full 360, the way you been living will change, and your struggles will no longer be a struggle any more. Sometimes we have to talk things into existence, and keep a positive mindset. I had to learn the hard way, and i mean the HARD WAY. I had to work on being more positive and grateful that i am living pretty okay, because it’s people out there that don’t have a roof over there head and actually need help.

I know i have a lot of goals i would love to achieve but my main goal is “HAPPINESS.” Being happy is more important to me then anything. Because without happiness your life will never feel complete.

I am glad that lately i have been opening up more about myself so my readers can actually get to know me more. I really post blogs to uplift and motivate others, but now I feel the need to just open more to the world, so people can actually feel they know me through words. I look at anyone who is reading my blogs as a friend. Not a “fan or supporter.” You never know who can relate to your lifestyle, and you never know how many people might actually would love to get to know you and learn you.

Opening up and being your authentic self is always a good look and build trust with others. I can write a book about my life and the things I been & go through. That’s why I am sharing to the world and so thankful for god steering me in the direction of becoming a blogger. Blogging is my reliever, my medicine, my go to, and my happiness.

Anyways if you can relate to this blog drop a comment telling a little about yourself that you would like to fix or you can just email it to me 😊.

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Lifestyle Blog, losing & gaining myself again

How I kept Losing myself to finally gaining myself back and keeping it that way

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I’m sure a lot of people can relate…

In out through my life, I have lost myself, and gained myself back again. Meaning, I have gave up so many times, then i started to be myself again but better.

I definitely didn’t know why, but i do know a lot of millennials, mid 20’s, and late 20’s, go through different changes. Which i can say that can be part of my transition because i am 28.

A lot of women go through a lot of ” Hormonal imbalances”. Which can affect us mentally, and we begin to have mood swings, and so much more. don’t want to get to personal about it. but my point is that, as a woman we go through so many changes, have to deal with so many personal things, and it’s stressful. BEYOND IT.

Dealing with mental health growing up, really had me losing myself. Not loving myself, not caring for myself, and just putting others before me. People use to ask me, “Why are you looking so angry?” and, i was definitely was intrigued by that question, because i didn’t know why people always ask that and i was always curious why. But i figured it out, I had an automatic mean mug smh….

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People said i never had a smile on myself, I always looked angry. And that isn’t good at all. I really started to realize that all around i am wasn’t happy, because people are actually seeing it in my facial expressions. But, truth be told, I didn’t mind it after a while. I was still angry.

I was disappointed within myself. One of the reasons why is because I didn’t graduate on time, not because i didn’t know the work, I just was so stuck into my feelings that i didn’t even knock out 15 credits. Don’t judge me, yes only 15 CREDITS!. That’s all i needed, and I let my pride get the best of me. So, I went to go finish, and I thought i was happy about it and i still wasn’t. I had a kid, and felt that i was to old, and I waited to long to go back. It’s sad that i was ungrateful instead of blessed. Close people around whispered, judged me, and talked about me behind my back because i didn’t graduate on time. And it’s the truth. I knew it, and yes it hurts badly. But, people knew deep down i had an gift, and that behind that angry face it’s a Smart Black Woman. I think people were intimidated by my strong attitude, and no matter how i feel about myself, I was always independent and knew what i was talking about. But i believe people mistaken me to be dumb, because of the “missing 15 credits.” People used that as a weapon against me. So when i decided to go back in finish i did it silently for my own happiness. I knew that this school issue was really one of my weaknesses and one of the reasons why i am not happy.

Dealing with the TOXIC. Toxic played a big part in my life. Arguing with family members, arguing & fighting with my significant other, down talking myself. All that is consider toxic. Not only that it’s toxic, It’s stressful. On top of that, I still was not happy. My level of happiness was up and down.

As I got older, I have realized that i was surrounded around people i shouldn’t surround myself with. I was dealing with people i had no business dealing with. People who do not support you, or want to see you win, is a red flag to NO GOOD! No i am not innocent but growing up remember when your parents always say “Two wrongs don’t make it right!” It’s the truth!

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It takes time to be the best version of yourself, so don’t give up fighting for your confidence. You are beautiful…..”

 

It’s hard to change being around a lot of people who is just like you but worst. And every time you want to change you are dealing with other people negativity, or it’s rubbing off on you. Sometimes you have to stop prolonging these relationships with friends & families or even with your partner, if it’s not bringing any happiness to your life.

I had to realize that life isn’t always suppose to be peaches & cream. At any moment in life you can lose everything, but how will you react to it? Continuously act out on everyone or be strong and move forward. Failure is not an option because it will happen, but you have to understand that.

I started to have insecurities. But that is something i kept to myself for a while. I never showed it, and felt no reason to. It wasn’t that I was insecure in my looks necessarily, but everything else about me I was disappointed in. Instead of complimenting myself I rather compliment others and make them feel good, I really don’t know why, but seeing other people happy always made me feel better. And I been that way for a while until I came to a realization that I need to focus on self-care & self-love. I had to stop loving others more then I loved myself.

When I finally found myself, and figured out who I am and what I want in life I went for it. I decided I wanted to become a blogger & entrepreneur and guess what? I made it happen. I might have ups & downs and things might not made it to where I want it to you, but it’s the principle that I am striving to be the best that I can be and reach my top goal.

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Even though I admit all the time, I LOST MYSELF. But, it’s always time to gain your self again. It’s okay if you fell off a little, but pick up where you left and keep going. Can’t no one interfere what you got going on, only if you let them, SO DON’T!

Moral of the story is, I made this blog to uplift and motivate others that you can go through the hardest time in your life and it’s okay. But, don’t let that become an habit. Just get up and work on you, better you, love you, support you, and keep being determined to achieve your goals. Use your past as a way out the hold on on your way to success.

YOU GOT THIS!!!!

 

 

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Self-Love Writing Prompts

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Self-love is well-being & happiness. Loving yourself doesn’t mean to be selfish, It is nourishing yourself and taking care of your emotional and spiritual needs. Self-love also is to be honest with yourself, how you feel about yourself, and taking care of yourself. Don’t have standards to high but also don’t have standards to low, and to not treat & talk to your self in a negative way. Journaling is an great way to start your self-love journey. It is often much easier to be completely honest when you are the only one who will see it.

Journaling is an helpful way to start your self-love journey. It is often much easier to be completely honest when you are the only one who will see it and look at it as motivation or life changing. Here is a list of 31 Self-love writing prompts, to get you started.

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  1. How would you feel if you truly loved and accepted yourself?
  2. What is your biggest achievement?
  3. What do you love about yourself?
  4. How would you feel if you truly loved and accepted yourself?
  5. How can you start de-cluttering your life?
  6. Describe a time when you sabotaged a good situation for yourself. Explore why you did that
  7. What friendship that you’ve had was the most meaningful?
  8. If you could change anything about yourself what would it be and why?
  9. If I could be friends with anyone in the world I would like to be friends with____ because
  10. 5 things I feel thankful for are __________
  11. If I didn’t have any fear I would ________________
  12. 10 ways i deal with my emotions________________
  13. How can you set better boundaries in your life?
  14. What do you need to forgive yourself for?
  15. What’s one change in your life that you can make for more happiness?
  16. Describe your favorite childhood memory
  17. List 5 different things that make you happy
  18. Write yourself a thank you letter
  19. How do i feel at this moment and why?
  20. Write what you love about yourself
  21. List 6 things you are good at
  22. Write yourself 5 compliments
  23. What does my dream tomorrow look like?
  24. What area of your life do you need help with? Are you able to ask for help?
  25. Do you need to show yourself more compassion?
  26. What one change could you make today which would make you happy?
  27. What brings you peace?
  28. What do you believe you deserve in life? Why do you believe this?
  29. Do you have a thought about yourself that you should let go of but can’t
  30. Do you treat yourself? How does it make you feel?
  31. Do you have a strong belief in your abilities or could you be holding yourself back?

 


 

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6 Toxic habits to quit immediately

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6 Toxic Habits to Quit Immediately

 

Are you guilty of these toxic habits? Most of the time we fail to realize we can be creating toxic habits everyday. You might be wondering, what makes a toxic habit? To me, a toxic habit is something you do that is continuously provoking you to harm your mental health, daily routines, and just all around interfering your success.

I will admit, I have witnessed some of these habits in the past. Since then, I tried to cut them short out of my life and make them disappear. Here is a list of 6 toxic habits you should quit immediately! 

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1. Not believing in yourself

As i got older, I learned that it is important to your success to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Putting yourself down repeatedly, or always telling yourself “you can’t do it”, chances is that it will become true. Changing your mindset, and actually believing in yourself really can change so much in your life.

 

2. Not letting go of the past

Even myself can admit that i have had trouble not letting go of the past. For some strange reason, I just couldn’t get over it. This is most definitely TOXIC. If we don’t let go of the past, it will haunts our present/future. Just live in the moment, let go of the past, and focus on what’s more important.

 

3. Keeping toxic people in your life 

Honestly, I use to be afraid to remove certain people out my life. Now, it’s a piece of cake for me. I don’t feel selfish putting me first any more, and i also don’t feel bad. Toxic people is like taking a bad drug. NO GOOD. Get rid of the toxic, and don’t let your guilt get in between anything.

 

4. Checking your phone as soon as you wake up

First off, this is a toxic habit. Checking your phone when you first wake up is a problem. Checking your phone as soon as you wake up is a terrible start of the day!  I actually find that when the mornings comes and I don’t check my phone right away, I feel a lot happier and productive. I like to try to start my morning on a positive note, and feeling like i can do other things besides just picking up my phone.

 

4. Comparing yourself to others

I notice that a lot of people have this bad. I even caught myself doing it a few times. It’s definitely another toxic habit. Comparing yourself affects a lot within yourself, like your confidence. Compare yourself to the old you and the new you, and how much you have accomplished.

5. Getting no sleep + Cranky

Getting no sleep is a toxic habit. I have had so many sleepless nights working towards my future and trying to be successful, but it becomes stressful to the point i wake up cranky. Being cranky is also a toxic habit. To prevent this issue, coming up with a solid schedule and getting the proper rest is important.

 

6. Not drinking any water

I am big on drinking water, no matter how unhealthy i am lol, I admit water is my bff. Have you had them days where you are so hot and agitated and all you need is water to cool you down. Well that’s me. If i don’t drink any water especially on a hot day, I am definitely irritated out this world. Which is a toxic habit. So drink your water my loves!

 

 

What toxic habits are you trying to cut out? Let me know in the comments!

dedicated, Lifestyle Blog

How to stay dedicated to blogging

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When i first started blogging, I am going to be honest with you all. It was so confusing. I didn’t technically have a niche, or knew my purpose of even starting a blog. I just knew i liked writing. So, I started to peep out other blogs, which me looking at other blogs is the reason that i even had the idea to start from the first place. Now yes, blogging can be easy as 1,2,3, but when you don’t know exactly what you are doing it can be a little mind blowing. You have to find a niche, figure out what exactly you want to share to the world. I use to consistently ask myself a list of these questions:

  1. Why do i want to become a blogger?
  2.  What do i want to blog about?
  3. What is my niche?
  4. How far do i plan on going with my blog?
  5. How can i make money becoming a blogger?

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These are questions i asked myself. As crazy as it sounds, writing down questions to continue to ask yourself so you can finally have the right answer and make the right choice, can certainly help no doubt! Don’t rush into blogging, but you can always be a step ahead. Even if you haven’t blogged for so long, just stay dedicated and true. If you are determined to succeed in blogging, make blogging your priority and not an hobby.

Look like a pro even if you are a beginner. As a blogger, you want to make sure that your audience always has something worth to read. Having a interesting article brings more attention then you think. Lets be honest, how many people look up “How to’s” all day or “Tips on” in there search engine 24 hours 7 days a week? A lot! Millions of people.

 

TO-DO-LIST

A to-do-list, is definitely important to me, and it should be for you to. Write down a list of topics each week to blog about. So for an example, if you decide to blog every Mon, Tues, Wed, then write a to-do-list, of want you are going to talk about. Trust me, this will make your life so much easier.

 

CONSISTENCY

Consistency is a must. You have to stay consistent when it comes to anything business or something you actually want. Don’t give up and keep striving to be the best you can be. Things will get hard but as long you stay focused on your plan, everything will go just right.

 

ACCEPT FAILURE

You have to accept failure, I know a lot of people don’t take failure fairly, but it’s the honest truth. Failure is only a lesson learned, we learn from our mistakes, we learned when we don’t get something right, but we was suppose to keep going until we get what we are striving for down packed. Sometimes you have to fail before you win!

 

BE AUTHENTIC

Always stay true to yourself and your audience. Honesty is the #1 key to be trusted. When you become a blogger or already a blogger, you want to make sure you grow your audience. Their might be something you went through that someone else went through and they need tips on how to get out over it, and by you going through those tough times you can probably inspire someone else. So continue being yourself, and using your capability to help others, or teach people things they never even had the knowledge of.

 

 

 

If you do everything i listed above, i promise you will stay dedicated. But, you have to want this. You have to be determined to get up and write blogs and promote yourself. You can’t expect for no one to do it for you, at least not now. Remember if you plan on becoming a blogger full time, or making blogging a priority in your life, then don’t look at it as an hobby. Do a lot of research, search up other blogs that have the same niche as you but are more experienced. It’s okay to get ideas and tips from other bloggers. At the end of the day we all have to learn some way. Eventually, you will be able to master at blogging. You will be so immune to it, to the point you will naturally find something to talk about.

 

   Btw, Happy Friday! 🙂

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