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Cultivating your values

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We can’t talk about the biggest image of our lives without discussing our values. A value is an on going set of actions that represents who you want to be. The fun fact about most people is that we are a goal-directed community. We praise each other & celebrate our achievements.

In your life today, what do you want to represent? What do you want to be? How do you want people to view you?

Let’s mix up some encouraging words that holds common value about myself..

Trusting ✅ Respectful ✅

Beautiful ✅ Positive ✅

Loyal ✅ Peaceful ✅

Sufficient ✅ Compassionate ✅

So you can cement your values in many ways, what i do is pick up a note book to make me some notes. I like to go somewhere that helps me feel inspired, like a cafe shop. Then i write my notes down.

Write out things that you value and write why do you value those things.

For example 📌:

What value do you place on personal growth? Learning to better control my emotions and negative thoughts. That’s growth!

Personal growth will help you grow emotionally and psychologically to become a more loving & positive person.

I hope you enjoyed reading this blog and hopefully it helps encourage you to start writing more about things you value. And just opening up the mind more.

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A couple gifts i discovered i had

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Hey everyone!! Welcome to The Fobem Blog if your new. I hope your day/night is going well. Sending out love & healing from my side of the world.

So I have discovered gifts about myself. And it’s honestly crazy because i kind of noticed little things about me, but i never really got into my own spirituality until last year during Covid. With this gift i noticed that i am very Intuitive, and that allows me to read people before they even open up there mouth. It’s scary sometimes, because normally what i predict about that person it always becomes true. That right there would always leave me lost for words, because it’s like wow girl how did you even figure this person out?! Also, i’m like a energy detector. Someone can walk in the room, and it’s like whether the energy is good or bad, I soak it in and i can feel it strongly. If it’s bad, I will more than likely be quiet and not say too many words. One thing about me, if I don’t like your vibe or feel like your not good energy i will not fake it at all. My silence pretty much will sum up everything. If i love your energy, you get the best out of me.

I can truly say it’s a blessing to be able to be intuitive, because it’s protecting myself, and sparing my feelings. Even with dating, I can tell if someone is being genuine or they are completely no good for my soul. So yes, being intuitive is definitely a gift. And i am more than certain it’s others out there with the same gift as me.

Okay, now with this gift i realized a lot of people love venting to me. And when they vent to me, it’s like i already knew how a situation they were in was going to turn out or i was semi close to knowing. How? I don’t have an idea. So it’s like i instantly connect with them, and i give them really good advice. I noticed that the advice i give is always valid, and I make people feel really secure and i love it. Healing those, who needs to be healed always makes me rewind back to me crying out for help and wishing people could’ve done the same for me, or maybe i just didn’t connect to people like how they connected with me i’m not sure. But these two gifts i’ve noticed i have, is changing a lot about myself. All though i might step back into my ways but suddenly i been more on the positive side then anything. And positive is always good.

That is all, felt like sharing this because it’s important to me. And whom ever reads my blogs are also important to me. So sharing this definitely made me feel so much more relieved. If you have a gift please share it, I would love to see some of you’ll gifts you discovered. Don’t let anyone make you feel as if your making things up or it’s not true, only you know the real and know what goes on within yourself. But anyways, see you soon on the next blog!

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25 spiritual affirmations for personal growth & healing

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Hello :)! Hope you all are having a wonderful day!

Need a good ole spiritual uplift? These spiritual affirmations help support you in acknowledging your true divine self. When exhaling these affirmations into your daily spiritual practice, they help you develop your skills in staying in tune with your spirituality soul. Affirmations also help you replace negative thought patterns with positive ones. As you continuously work with them, they help change your thinking & understanding which is something we all need.

1. Now is the time for my good.

2. I excel at the perfect living of Life.

3. I put my life in the hands of Infinite Love and Divine Wisdom.

4. I see nothing but me.

5. I am now surrounded by the divine, embraced and cherished, nurtured and protected.

6. I am perfectly blessed and I am a perfect blessing for the world.

7. I trust and respect my body’s wisdom.

8. I put myself, my health, and healing above everything. I strive to live a good life.

9. I am in charge of my pain and understand the needs of my body.

10. Happiness is the music of my body.

11. I am filled with positive energy.

12. I am accepting and know how to take care of myself.

13. I have opened my heart to love again.

14. Love is my priority, not hate.

15. No matter how hard life gets, I’m going to still prosper.

16. My choice is to happy.

17. I breathe in peaceful energy, I breathe out unwanted energy.

18. I voice my truth.

19. I voice my intuitions.

20. I have a purpose, so I need to fulfill it.

21. I was created to be uniquely and I see it every day.

22. I love everything who made me who I am today.

23. My soul is cheerful.

24. I am gifted to heal others.

25. I am gifted with the universes love, strength, & wholeness.

Simple Facts

In this world of pain, stress, and tensions the power of healing is unmatched. We as humans deal with so much on our universe. We encounter situations when our emotions, anxiety, & curiosity fill our minds. To receive that inner peace through those challenges, using healing statements is definitely the main importance that can help. Utilizing these affirmations to pin point our self conscious minds, is to act on by experiencing the peace that we need in our lives.

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Forgive yourself then Free yourself

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Extremely thrilled to write about this topic. I know a lot of people including myself has or had a dark cloud over their shoulder because of something they fault themselves about. Especially when it’s something we have control of. What we don’t realize is that, it’s just a feeling though. A feeling that’s only temporary. Feelings can’t kill you, but running from them can.

We as humans visualize how things can be so much better then what we are currently going through, but not realizing how much power we have to make our visions come true. But when we doubt ourselves, we are lacking and not pushing towards prosperity. Anybody can prosper, it’s simple. But the mind is powerful and you have to compete with yourself, challenge yourself, and to become a better version of you. Our life is a balance and you just have to learn how to maintain it. Holding on to pain just makes you suffer.

Three words:

  • Free
  • Open
  • Balance

Once you forgive yourself. It’s time to free yourself. You can free yourself from anything that can hold you back. Like for me, I am freeing myself from negative energy, negative people, negative thoughts, disappointments, toxic locations, toxic people, lack of growth, and the list goes on. But what most people don’t realize is that we have more freedom then we think. You have to just open up your mind to new things, it’s always good to venture out.

Try writing down what bothers you, and writing down ways you fixed or ways you can fix those problems. Write down why you haven’t forgiven yourself, then write down how you forgiven yourself. This will give you clarity an will help you open up your mind to finding new ways to cope with what’s bothering you.

I always make sure I encourage people to write ✍️ whom reads my articles because writing definitely does help a lot. Especially if you don’t want to go to a psychiatrist or vent to anyone. Writing is a peace of mind. You can come to a conclusion with a lot of situations in your life.

I really hope this blog helps someone out there with clarity or at least given someone a different outlook on how to move forward in life. Remember forgive yourself, and free yourself!

PSA:

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on moving forward. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took their time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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12 Lifestyle habits to stay happy and healthy

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Happy Thursday everyone. Today is a new beginning. Making better habits to stay healthy & happy is great for your mental health. I am not 100% healthy, but i am working towards it even when i slip up time to time. I always practice ways to nourish my mind, body, & soul, so i can feel relaxed and confident. We are heading to 2021 and instead of waiting until the new year lets make some new changes starting now. The more you work at this, the more you develop new skills & learn new rituals that will improve your well-being daily.

  1. Figure out what bothers you about you, and forgive yourself.
  2. Enjoy outdoors (if you don’t already).
  3. Listen to your body & put positive thoughts into your mind.
  4. Take a break from all social media accounts
  5. Make self-care a priority
  6. Daily exercises at least 20 minutes.
  7. Stop waiting for certain moments to make lifestyle changes.
  8. Drink smoothies.
  9. Eat real food more often.
  10. Do things you love to do.
  11. Recharge yourself mentally & physically every night by going to sleep at a decent hour. (Make it a routine)
  12. Stay balanced.

I hope these ideas helped. Please share if it helped you out :).

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Decluttering tips: 30 Items to Get Rid Of Today

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Hey friends,

Are you trying to figure out “How do I start decluttering?” or “How do you get rid of clutter at home?”. Don’t worry, I have written 30 things you can throw away today so you can start to declutter right away or when you have time!

If the items you are throwing away are still in good condition where it can be reused, you can actually sell them to make some extra money, or donate them. I use an app called Depop to sell my clothing, shoes, & cosmetics, and I use offer up to sell any reusable devices and other little things!

1. Expired food

2. Expired spices

3. Old chipped up coffee mugs

4. Stained & ripped up towels/wash clothes

5. Old & used up pots and pans

6. Old coupons

7. Old receipts

8. Old cosmetics

9. Old tooth brushes/tooth paste

10. Mitch match socks

11. Old and too small underwear

12. Stained and worn out clothes

13. Used/old gift cards

14. Used candles

15. Unfinished projects

16. Writing utensils that don’t work

17. Dead batteries

18. Damaged items that aren’t fixable

19. Broken phone charges

20. Old phones that aren’t fixable

21. Any empty containers in your fridge

22. CDs that no longer work

23. Books you are more than likely never reading again

24. Old brooms and old mops

25. Stained and worn out sheets + covers

26. Expired medicines

27. Clothes you no longer can fit anymore

28. Irrelevant mail you don’t need anymore

29. Old remotes to tv’s you no longer even have

30. Old house phones you no longer use

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Let’s talk Black lives matter and coping with traumatic racism

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I would say since these past couple months, but it actually been decades since my black people haven’t been treated fairly. But, we lost another black man name George Floyd and now we are beginning to fight harder for our rights because we are beyond tired!!

My name is Seqouia Battle the creator of bubblegumplease, and i am a 29 year old black woman. I have been followed around in stores, I have been called names such as “monkey”, “african booty scratcher”, “too dark”, “pretty for a black girl”, and I can go on. This is my first time actually talking about it publicly. I’m sure growing up a lot of others has witnessed being called them names before and more. It’s definitely not easy being black at all.

As i type this i get very emotional because this is definitely a traumatic topic. I’m sure for a lot of us. Dealing with racist human beings can haunt people, increase insecurities & lower people self esteem.

What happened to George Floyd is very disgusting not only that he was lynched on camera. That was the most terrifying scene I have ever seen in my 29 years of life watching someone take there last breath with someone knee on there neck :(. Our community has finally came together because we are beyond FED UP. Although I feel it’s not enough, it’s a blessing that things are starting to be noticed.

It’s a lot of information I have been reading on my culture. Things have been hidden from us, things are owed to us, and it’s just so much that hasn’t been revealed yet. We are demanding our rights!

Black people can’t even protest without being picked at by the cops or harassed. We need to end unlawful police violence against black lives matter protesters. It’s not right that we can’t protest in peace. All we want is change, and it seems that the police is bothered by that. Hopefully things get better for the black community because we aren’t stopping until we do! 🤎🤎

I never thought in my 29 years of life I was actually going to be a part of an protest. I definitely love this experience and it’s beautiful. This is definitely historical, I can be able to tell my children about this time.

Here are a couple of exercises you can use to cope during this Racism Trauma:

1. Meditate:

Meditating can be a great coping tool for anyone. Especially during this time right now, it’s much needed. You can find so many ways to meditate. Go to a much quiet space or where you feel like your more at peace. Download meditating apps like https://www.headspace.com.

2. Journaling

I’m pretty big on picking up a pen and writing ✍️ in my journal on my alone time. Journaling helps relieve a lot of stress, depression, and just helps you brain dump a lot that’s on your mind.

3. Talk to someone.

Sometimes talking to another person about your feelings can be very refreshing. Especially if you are the type of person who likes to vent. Express yourself, and let out all what’s bothering you. You will feel like a big weight has been lifted off your shoulders.

This isn’t something a lot of people were prepared for even myself. But I followed all three of those steps, and now I am coping. We have to just stay strong and stick together.

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JUSTICE FOR AHMAUD ARBERY

JUSTICE FOR GEORGE FLOYD

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I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on getting better. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took there time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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Coronavirus crisis meets Anxiety: How to cope?

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I am most definitely not going to lie, the Coronavirus has been raising my anxiety levels the last few days.

But hey, theirs nothing we can do to control it, but we can definitely help from spreading it.

I won’t all my readers and everyone else out there to be safe and please take all of the advises precautions. Take extremely care of yourself during this worldwide crisis.

I truly know that like myself, and others that struggle with anxiety, the news got me feeling even more ANXIOUS day by day. The reason why I say this is because this virus is spreading and it isn’t really any progress.

Of course I know this article might not help 100%, but in the meantime here are some affirmations to help your anxiety and also help with coping!

•I am capable of solving any problems that face me.

•Stress might make me feel weary, but I am in charge of my mind and body.

•I will be OK.

•At this moment, I choose to feel calm and peaceful.

•I choose to fill my mind with positive and healing thoughts.

•Worry doesn’t do me any justice, I just choose to leave it behind.

•If I can’t control it, I let it go.

•I am attracting positive energy into my body.

•I am safe and in control.

•I am capable of solving any problems that face me.

•I am strong I am alive.

•Anything that weighs me down, I am free of it.

•I am safe, I am in control, I am dominant.

•My body is capable.

•Their is nothing to be fear about, because faith will always rely in my soul.

Please stay safe and follow all of the advisories, watch the news, check on friends & family by phone, and I hope you are able to find some relief from worry, fear, stress, & anxiety soon.

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on getting better. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took there time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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Three techniques to slay your Anxiety

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I suffered from anxiety for years, starting at the age of 18. The Panic attacks and anxiety started at the age of 22, and it definitely took over my life and I found myself avoiding any situation I thought could induce my anxiety. 

The thing with anxiety the more you ignore it, the more it will come hunt you. Sucks right?…  But wait, the more it hunts you, the more difficult it gets.

Sometimes just getting yourself together, like your appearance can change so much in your daily life. Don’t be a debby downer so much and find love within yourself. When we are stressed we get to the point where we just let ourselves go, and all that do is add more to the plate. You definitely want that plate to be empty with no worries. 

In otherwise, SLAY THAT ANXIETY!…

#1 GET IN TUNED WITH YOURSELF

Think about all the good things you notice about yourself. Write it on a sticky note, journal, notes, hell wherever! Find yourself and figure out your happiness. The point where i’m getting to is that in order to be happy you have to make yourself happy. When you make yourself happy then what? you are in tuned with yourself. Can’t nobody tell you nothing different. AT ALL!….

 

#2 REDIRECT YOUR THOUGHTS

\When you notice you are starting to have negative thoughts then redirect your thoughts to something positive. Before i have an upcoming test, or job interview, I would always be negative. “I doubt i’ll pass” “I can’t do this” “I don’t think they will hire me”. Guess what happened when i had those thoughts? I FAILED! I had to start training my mind to turn a negative back to positive , and i still work on this til this day now. 

 

#3 BE MORE WORRYLESS

We have to get out of that “worry” mode. Sometimes when you worry too much it actually triggers you to have anxiety attacks. We apply so much pressure on ourselves and we don’t have to. Live in the moment and be fearless. When you start to worry, find a good solution that can help prevent that. Remember it’s all in the head. Your mind will play tricks on you, especially for those who minds wander 24/7. So you have to play tricks back by winning over anything that’s stopping you from letting go of your worries. If you can’t make it to your close friend party on time? Hey! it’s not your fault. You still haven’t passed that test quite yet? Keep trying. Your close someone is treating you like crap and you don’t know why?! Who cares, let it go!. Stop worrying about situations or people who isn’t making your life no better good or bad.

 

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on getting better. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took there time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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Self-Care Ideas for when you are having a bad day

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Self-care will and always will be one of my favorite topics. Taking care of yourself mentally & physically is so important. Sometimes we skip over making our selves complete. So many of us forget about caring for ourselves and that is okay and can easily be changed. We just have to choose our well-being first, and everything else comes last. So I have compiled a list of different self-care things you can do for when you are having a bad day, or to add to your daily self-care routine! I put each topic in different categories so it can be easier for you to choose which ones suits you the best.

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             RELAX TIME

  1. Exit out social media
  2. Go to the spa
  3. Hit the movies by your lonely
  4. Do some meditation (Go on You Tube)
  5. Just sit and breathe for 10 mins

 

                 JOURNALING

  1. Use Journal Prompts for an easy start
  2. Write 20 things you love about yourself
  3. Write 20 things that motivate you
  4. Brain dump to clear your cloudy mind
  5. Write down your negative thoughts, cross them out and replace them with positive thoughts.
  6. Track your mood swings so you can notice certain things that changes your mood

 

 

            INSPIRATIONAL

  1. Listen to inspirational podcast
  2. Hang out with someone who inspires you
  3. Create a vision board
  4. Read an inspiring book
  5. Write inspirational messages to your self on sticky notes and post them around to remind you

 

 

               PRODUCTIVE

  1. Use a planner to plan out your busy week ahead
  2. Organize your home including office space
  3. Change your timing for the better
  4. Prep meals
  5. Exercise in the am before you take care of business
  6. Create a to-do-list
  7. Try learning something new

 

              CREATIVITY 

  1. Diy some home projects or designs for your home
  2. Paint something
  3. Try making your own recipe
  4. Write a short story
  5. Try creating something you never thought of or always wanted to try making

 

 

 

 

          Hope these are helpful & straight forward :).

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5 TIPS ON HOW TO BECOME A RELEVANT BLOGGER

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There is a lot of people who want to start a blog, But not really posting relevant content that catches the audience attention. Sometimes, people feel as if they post a blog it’s automatically going to get someone’s attention and it doesn’t work that way. Why waste your time posting up blogs Day by day but not doing anything to get attention you need or want. Make your blog relevant, and today I want to show you a few tips on how you can do that.

1. FIND A BAD ASS NICHE

A niche is a specific topic you will be posting about. You know when you go on google and you search (How to be more mindful) and hundreds of blogs pop up, and your clicking on about four different ones so you can get the correct information you need. Well clearly, you can see that topic is popular because a lot of blogs are popping up, so make sure you post something that people actually want to read.

2. CUT THE LAZY CRAP AND GET TO WORK

Yes! Stop being lazy. If you want to become relevant, you have to make yourself relevant. Sometimes we give up when we only get 10 likes on our pictures, 5 views on our articles, and not getting any comments. But what we all fail to realize, everyone started from somewhere. You can’t just wake up and want to start something new and think right then in there you are going to rise up. You will grow over time. Some people have there own time limit when they will get noticed, but you can’t focus on other people and how they are ahead of you. Just do what needs to be done and you will slowly but shortly see how far you have succeeded.

3. CONSISTENCY IS THE KEY

Be consistent with anything you do. Make sure you post daily and share links directed to your blog on every social media platforms. Support yourself first, then eventually people will support you. If you post good topics you will receive good feedback.

4. BE AUTHENTIC

Be real. No one wants nobody to feed them with lies and bs, that’s not a good look. Like when you see other bloggers post “I made $300,000 in a week click here to see how!” Then when you click it, it feeds you with a bunch of bullshit, then tells you “if you want to find out more information save your spot now for the webinar for $250!” Lol! Total scam! Rather if they do have the information, how did they learn the information they are teaching you? I’m sure they figured it out just like how you can. You just have to plan, brainstorm, and not find the easy way in to everything. Honesty is the key to having loyal readers. I don’t know about you but i cling on to people I can trust!

5. CREATE VIDEOS

Videos some how bring a lot of attention. People would like to see you, be visible, chat with your followers or readers. Sometimes physically being visible makes your blogs so much better. Your readers can actually see, hear, and understand you so much better. Sometimes it’s good to just level up and do things a little different.

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27 Self Care Ideas for Emotional and Mental Health

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For those like myself that currently or use to go through mental health definitely can use this blog for some coping ideas. Self care and your emotions play a big part in your life. It’s all about taking care of yourself and doing things that improve your moody ways and working on reducing anxiety while still working on improvement and keeping your life in tact. Go through the list and see what can help you fix the problem.

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Mental Self-Care Ideas

  1. Learn to say ‘no!”
  2. Listen to an encouraging podcast
  3. Treat yourself
  4. Avoid toxic people and toxic energy
  5.  Declutter and clean up
  6. Take a mental health week
  7. Drink some wine, light up some candles, and unwind while having some adult time and relieving some of that tense
  8. Find a comedy movie or t.v. series to watch so you can laugh
  9. Create a cozy space
  10. Talk to a friend
  11. Travel to a beautiful place that gives you peace
  12. Create positive affirmations
  13. Have your own paint & sip at home, or go to one
  14. Meditate
  15. Try journaling on a daily

 

Emotional Self-Care Ideas

16. Practice gratefulness 

17. Write a positive list

18. Practice mindfulness

19. Practice self-compassion daily

20. Be true to yourself without worrying about being accepted by anyone else

21. Let go of your fears

22. Dive into your creativity (Try something different, that will make you feel happy afterwards)

23. Stop over-explaining yourself to others

24. Accept compliments without being combative 

25. Give yourself motivation when moments don’t go as planned

26. Take deep breaths often

 

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