Honestly I suffer from insomnia and been dealing with it for a while. So transitioning into being a morning person was definitely a challenge. I can say that I mostly don’t like mornings when I have to get up for work or to handle things super early because I would be sluggish. But now that I am accustomed to mornings, I do realize that the mornings are much productive, healthier, and much easier to maintain your daily lifestyle. When you get up early, you can start your to-do-list off right like, cooking breakfast, running errands, doing laundry, handle things for your business etc. So it’s definitely a good thing being an early bird. But in order for me to get use to this new early bird lifestyle I had to get rid of these 5 toxic morning habits.
Here’s how:
Waking up late: Wake up early so you can get prepared for a much successful day. But make your first hour your self-care time. The first hour after waking up must be specifically for nurturing yourself. Your growth, your happiness and mental health all plays part of fresh start.
Checking social media first thing in the morning: This is an epic fail! I had this problem bad. My phone was the first thing i thought about when i woke up, and i had to fix that issue asap! You must never start your day checking your phone and scrolling through Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. And truthfully this small habit affects our mood and our entire day if you think about it. That’s how much social media has an affect on us. Social media is a big distraction and can have you out here missing out on the importance things of life. When i’m distracted i feel like i have an heavy burdened on me & it’s definitely not a good feeling. Try turning your phone off before bed and not powering it back on.No excuses!
Not getting natural light & fresh air flowing: Get some natural light and air after waking up. We are human beings, so nature is us 100 %. Also, once all the windows are opened and it’s fresh air & light coming into your home, you began to start feeling energized. Wake up & open up!
Not drinking your herbal teas: Drink some good ole organic green tea every morning. Green tea is good for the body. Green tea improves brain function & protects the brain from aging & more.
Not sitting in peace: Stop having morning chats, use your mornings on focusing purely only on you. Having those talks in the am only stall out time then you will look out & your morning has been wasted.
Mental health is real. I really wish people would take it more serious and stop trying to brush it up under the rug. Instead of acknowledging mental health “awareness” one month out of the year, normalize acknowledging mental health all year long. It’s people out here who are suffering everyday without saying a word :(. And it’s always people out there who are crying for help. Don’t ignore them signs. Check on your people.
Mental health will have your mind playing tricks on you but when you surround yourself around people who put you at ease I promise it’s distracting. And if your not a people person find something that brings you joy, or that makes you feel safe.
I use to let mental health take a toll of me until I couldn’t take it anymore. Also being a mother plays a big part of my thinking process as well. I had to think for her, I had to focus on being a happy mother for her. Our kids feed off our energy especially if they are much younger. Kids don’t like seeing their parents hurt and it’s up to us as parents to never fail them 💯.
Anyways, you got this. Everything will fall into place and better days will come!
If you personally know me, or have read my blogs in the past. Then you definitely know my history of having anxiety. First I was very discreet when it came to having anxiety. Why? I have no clue! But once I noticed that suffering from anxiety was basically the new “norm” because it’s so many others who suffer from it to. I became more comfortable with sharing my issues. I also had to realize that stress plays a big part of anxiety. Learning to identify what anxiety actually is, was very helpful for me.
Here are some things I love to do to help ease my mind or return to a sense of calm:
1. The most important thing to do when I am having a bad day or just feeling anxiety is to literally say in my mind or to silently to myself “This is totally normal. It is absolutely fine for me to be feeling this way or having these feelings. I just need to be light on myself today.” It is normal for emotions to flow naturally and embracing this makes you feel so good. Allowing yourself to feel it all and having empathy for yourself will get you through…
2. When I wake up and can tell right away that I am feeling anxious I will usually rearrange my day to be a tad bit more slow paced then usual. If I have anything important to do I try rescheduling for another day. Usually when I put everything on pause it instantly makes me feel more calm. And me being this way when it comes to not being able to make it somewhere due to personal issues makes me more understanding when someone has to cancel plans or reschedule on me, especially knowing it might make their day feel a lot easier.
3. Doing my hobbies before bed has been amazing and relaxing for my mind. I’m an big over thinker and at night my mind races with situations I’ve been through or wondering what others are thinking. Getting all cozy, making my kid’s snacks, reading a book, listening to a relaxing podcast, bullet journal, looking up business ideas, anything! It is so mindless and I have been able to have such fulfilling nights which leads to better sleep for me.
These are the three things that keeps me calm when my anxiety is kicking in…. What keeps you calm? Let me know I would love to hear yours!
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So I have discovered gifts about myself. And it’s honestly crazy because i kind of noticed little things about me, but i never really got into my own spirituality until last year during Covid. With this gift i noticed that i am very Intuitive, and that allows me to read people before they even open up there mouth. It’s scary sometimes, because normally what i predict about that person it always becomes true. That right there would always leave me lost for words, because it’s like wow girl how did you even figure this person out?! Also, i’m like a energy detector. Someone can walk in the room, and it’s like whether the energy is good or bad, I soak it in and i can feel it strongly. If it’s bad, I will more than likely be quiet and not say too many words. One thing about me, if I don’t like your vibe or feel like your not good energy i will not fake it at all. My silence pretty much will sum up everything. If i love your energy, you get the best out of me.
I can truly say it’s a blessing to be able to be intuitive, because it’s protecting myself, and sparing my feelings. Even with dating, I can tell if someone is being genuine or they are completely no good for my soul. So yes, being intuitive is definitely a gift. And i am more than certain it’s others out there with the same gift as me.
Okay, now with this gift i realized a lot of people love venting to me. And when they vent to me, it’s like i already knew how a situation they were in was going to turn out or i was semi close to knowing. How? I don’t have an idea. So it’s like i instantly connect with them, and i give them really good advice. I noticed that the advice i give is always valid, and I make people feel really secure and i love it. Healing those, who needs to be healed always makes me rewind back to me crying out for help and wishing people could’ve done the same for me, or maybe i just didn’t connect to people like how they connected with me i’m not sure. But these two gifts i’ve noticed i have, is changing a lot about myself. All though i might step back into my ways but suddenly i been more on the positive side then anything. And positive is always good.
That is all, felt like sharing this because it’s important to me. And whom ever reads my blogs are also important to me. So sharing this definitely made me feel so much more relieved. If you have a gift please share it, I would love to see some of you’ll gifts you discovered. Don’t let anyone make you feel as if your making things up or it’s not true, only you know the real and know what goes on within yourself. But anyways, see you soon on the next blog!
Now days self-love has been mentioned a lot more. But let’s admit that learning to love yourself is one of the most powerful and important things you can do in life. While it’s also important to love yourself, we tend to find that area of self-love a mental block. When you practice self-love, we cultivate a healthy personal bond with ourselves and become our own bestfriend.
Here are 4ways you can start practicing habits of choosing self-love:
ACKNOWLEDGEYOUR STRENGTHS
When was the last time have you acknowledged your strengths? When was was the last time have you looked at yourself in the mirror and said things you like about yourself? Make a list of those things, write it down, read it daily until it permanently sticks to your brain. Treat this list like it’s your own personal daily reminder.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR NEEDS
What are your needs? Write down a list of your needs and take action. Sometimes we are quick to help others with there needs and not put ours first. It’s ok, you just have a heart of gold. But it’s ok to take time out for yourself and start telling people no.
END THE HABIT OF HATING WHO YOU ARE
Remember confidence is key. You tearing yourself down is what’s stopping you from prospering. Have confidence in yourself in every aspect. Let’s work on loving the thought of who you are because no matter what there is no one in this world like you and that’s what makes you unique.
MAKE YOUR BODY HAPPY
When learning to love ourselves we focus plenty of time and attention on our bodies. And how we feel inside our bodies affects how we feel outside of our bodies. You definitely want your body to feel loved and not disconnected. So it’s very important that part of your self-love routine you do things that make you feel great internally.
Sometimes relationships can take a toll on you. Trust me i know. It has with me, and when i say it has broke me down to the point where ill cry everyday of the week, every night before bed, and it drove me to numerous headaches. So i definitely can relate to a lot of women out there who is suffering or suffered from heart break. And of course there will be people telling you “It’s going to be okay, don’t cry” “Forget him” “You deserve better”. Sometimes we don’t take there advice right away because we don’t feel it’s enough.
I remember i use to always say i’m done, and will wake up feeling so different and relieved, but deep down it’s this little piece of me that some how kept me thinking of him. That’s when i knew i wasn’t officially over him. And it’s a feeling that was there for so long that i didn’t even know how to get rid of it. That’s the most fucked up feeling ever!
When i realized that nothing wasn’t enough, I knew right then and there that i had to figure out how to get out, like “literally” “GET THE HELL OUT!”….
I’m sure there is a lot of other women out there that has these same feelings as me or had them. But what’s so cold is that, women now days don’t uplift or support one another any more. So many women are in competition and always want to tease other women for getting played or hurt. WHY?!…. I can’t even answer that but if you have the answer to it please let me know!
Honestly i can admit, that a lot of women in my generation is becoming more and more weak. It sounds mean, but i am just being honest. Women are selling their body, talking down on themselves, not knowing their worth, giving up on their careers, cutting off there friends & families, and doing so much all for MEN!. Now i am not speaking for every woman, but it is a lot of women that are doing this. It breaks my heart because men take advantage of this and sometimes we don’t see it because we are blinded by love, and that’s not even really love. We think we are in love, but we are really just trapped at the moment and can’t find our way out because we can’t see ourselves without them or don’t want no one else to have them. The world is pretty fucked! and everyday it is becoming worse.
But something has to be done. Women need to fight for there strength. It’s time to strive more harder to be stronger and to never experience the feeling of pain again. Yea… it sounds typical, and definitely sounds too good to be true. But how much longer are we going to continue to let men put us through heart break? How much longer will we continue to let men take our woman hood away, and our pride?
Some women like myself always thought revenge was the best route, and hurting them back. I realize that’s not worth it. You can make them hurt more in so many other ways then being cruel & revengeful.
Here are 6 tips that may can help you with beating heartbreak:
#1 FIND THE PROBLEM (Write it down)
Figure out why exactly you can’t get over that person. What is holding you back? Why do you feel you can’t let go? Write down these questions down and answer them. That will kind of get you an outlook on everything.
#2 PROS VS CONS
Write the good, and the bad. If their are more cons, then you should know what needs to be done. Every time the bad outweigh the good then it’s NO GOOD! That’s already a red light that your relationship is pretty much done.
#3 SILENCE
When you kill someone off with silence, that get to them more than anything. Sometimes you have to ignore your way out of the problem because once it’s already toxic, it is unrepairable. I’m not saying that some toxic relationships don’t change, but the ones that don’t change can not be FIXED! And a lot of people fail to realize that. You want to show someone better than you can tell them after all the months/years you been crying for there help, love, and sorrow? Go straight mute on that ass!
#4 FIND HAPPINESS
Find what makes you happy. Sometimes you don’t realize what brings happiness to your life anymore because you focus more on making your significant other who isn’t making you happy at all. Experience new things, try things you have always wanted to do but haven’t. Stop holding back and see what’s out there besides an relationship that can fulfill your needs.
#5 TRY THERAPY
Therapy can possibly help. Sometimes you need someone to dig deep through the mind and can really tell you your problem. It’s a therapist job to heal your mind & soul, and help you look at life differently. I have tried therapy before, and i wish i never stopped. Definitely on my list to start back going again. I can tell you i am a lot more stronger now then i was in the past. So yes, it can help you.
#6 ONE LAST LETTER (Release all the pain)
This is another way i feel that is really helpful. You don’t want to physically talk to that person because if you do, either they will ignore you or cut you off? Well write they ass a letter! Sometimes writing can really ease the pain because you don’t have to worry about talking to that person and feel like your talking to casper. Men have away of making women feel (DUMB), and that get to us badly. What i mean is, men will ignore you, put on there earphones while you are talking to them, walk away, and so much other rude shit! So some way some how they have to see how you feel right? That’s why i said write it out, seal it up, and either mail it to them, or drop it off them. When your done writing your letter, go to a quiet place, and let it out! Cry, scream, shout, and just release all the negative & bad energy out your body/soul. Let that be your last!
Hello :)! Hope you all are having a wonderful day!
Need a good ole spiritual uplift? These spiritual affirmations help support you in acknowledging your true divine self. When exhaling these affirmations into your daily spiritual practice, they help you develop your skills in staying in tune with your spirituality soul. Affirmations also help you replace negative thought patterns with positive ones. As you continuously work with them, they help change your thinking & understanding which is something we all need.
1. Now is the time for my good.
2. I excel at the perfect living of Life.
3. I put my life in the hands of Infinite Love and Divine Wisdom.
4. I see nothing but me.
5. I am now surrounded by the divine, embraced and cherished, nurtured and protected.
6. I am perfectly blessed and I am a perfect blessing for the world.
7. I trust and respect my body’s wisdom.
8. I put myself, my health, and healing above everything. I strive to live a good life.
9. I am in charge of my pain and understand the needs of my body.
10. Happiness is the music of my body.
11. I am filled with positive energy.
12. I am accepting and know how to take care of myself.
13. I have opened my heart to love again.
14. Love is my priority, not hate.
15. No matter how hard life gets, I’m going to still prosper.
16. My choice is to happy.
17. I breathe in peaceful energy, I breathe out unwanted energy.
18. I voice my truth.
19. I voice my intuitions.
20. I have a purpose, so I need to fulfill it.
21. I was created to be uniquely and I see it every day.
22. I love everything who made me who I am today.
23. My soul is cheerful.
24. I am gifted to heal others.
25. I am gifted with the universes love, strength, & wholeness.
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In this world of pain, stress, and tensions the power of healing is unmatched. We as humans deal with so much on our universe. We encounter situations when our emotions, anxiety, & curiosity fill our minds. To receive that inner peace through those challenges, using healing statements is definitely the main importance that can help. Utilizing these affirmations to pin point our self conscious minds, is to act on by experiencing the peace that we need in our lives.
“You can do so much at once, but focusing on multiple things at once will not be effective.”
-Seqouia
I’m sure you have lost focus on doing more than one task at once to the point where you find yourself not getting much done as you expected. Especially for those who are easily distracted.
Practicing mindful productivity means challenging your own self-knowledge to find the best out yourself.
To be mindfully productive means to focus on one task, and focusing on one task makes things less complicated. It’s times we be all over the place, so pace yourself and focus on just one. And remember this is just a simple practice so you will not change over night!
So let’s make a habit of practicing mindful productivity, here’s a few things you can do:
•Listen to yourself
Stick with your intuition and take a break if you need one.$!
•Take baby steps
Don’t beat yourself down because you aren’t getting done in a timely manner. Your not perfect, no one is. Trying to become a perfectionist is going to interfere your productivity.
•Work accordingly
Timing is definitely everything. Work at your natural rhythm and go with the flow.
•Establish priorities
Have a list that contains all tasks in one.
•Write a to-do-list
Break it down and be specific so you can be able to analyze your task.
•Quit multitasking
Slow your roll, and stop doing more than one thing at once.
Let’s start living in the moment try to intentionally bring discerning attention to everything you create & do. Treat yourself & accept who you are! All these things I listed does help with mindful productivity. It’s all about positive energy and knowing what’s best for you.
Hope this helps 💛…
Also, I’m introducing my new honey coco balm stick that I made from home.
This lovely body balm stick provides extra moisture protection for glowing & healthy skin. Say bye to dry skin and hello to smoother skin 👀. It’s made with organic love 🤎.
Ingredients: Raw Cocoa butter, raw Shea butter, Olive oil, & raw Organic Honey.
I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on moving forward. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took their time out to read & observe. Thanks!
Extremely thrilled to write about this topic. I know a lot of people including myself has or had a dark cloud over their shoulder because of something they fault themselves about. Especially when it’s something we have control of. What we don’t realize is that, it’s just a feeling though. A feeling that’s only temporary. Feelings can’t kill you, but running from them can.
We as humans visualize how things can be so much better then what we are currently going through, but not realizing how much power we have to make our visions come true. But when we doubt ourselves, we are lacking and not pushing towards prosperity. Anybody can prosper, it’s simple. But the mind is powerful and you have to compete with yourself, challenge yourself, and to become a better version of you. Our life is a balance and you just have to learn how to maintain it. Holding on to pain just makes you suffer.
Three words:
Free
Open
Balance
Once you forgive yourself. It’s time to free yourself. You can free yourself from anything that can hold you back. Like for me, I am freeing myself from negative energy, negative people, negative thoughts, disappointments, toxic locations, toxic people, lack of growth, and the list goes on. But what most people don’t realize is that we have more freedom then we think. You have to just open up your mind to new things, it’s always good to venture out.
Try writing down what bothers you, and writing down ways you fixed or ways you can fix those problems. Write down why you haven’t forgiven yourself, then write down how you forgiven yourself. This will give you clarity an will help you open up your mind to finding new ways to cope with what’s bothering you.
I always make sure I encourage people to write ✍️ whom reads my articles because writing definitely does help a lot. Especially if you don’t want to go to a psychiatrist or vent to anyone. Writing is a peace of mind. You can come to a conclusion with a lot of situations in your life.
I really hope this blog helps someone out there with clarity or at least given someone a different outlook on how to move forward in life. Remember forgive yourself, and free yourself!
PSA:
I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on moving forward. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took their time out to read & observe. Thanks!
Welcome to 2021! Definitely probably the worse, terrifying, confusing, and overwhelming year for us all. As you see i haven’t posted an article for the new year, but that’s because i took time off to focus on my business, my child, and mentally getting my head together. Oh i am definitely back and better!
I am making this year my golden year. It’s time to start spicing my blog up a little more and bringing some juicy content to keep my blogger buds on track with me. My goal for my blogs this year is to keep winning, and getting my blogs out to the universe some more. A lot of times i get writers block and I truly dislike when that happens because it stops me from showing everyone my skills.
I finally decided to free myself 100% now. It’s time for me to open up to new things, meet new people, explore the world, build a better bond with my child, & lastly become a better version of myself. At times i wouldn’t know my worth or what i am capable of. I just know that i have a purpose everyday that i wake up, and i may can’t grasp what it exactly is, but i do know giving up is the least of my worries.
I tell myself everyday that i am beautiful, strong, & fearless. And that i am. So winning & making it my duty to prosper at anything that’s my profession is always going to be my main goal to achieve. Blogging keeps me grounded, it makes me feel like i can just be myself without getting anyones opinion. Energy plays a big part of my life. I don’t do well for too long when negative energy comes around me. I’m a firm believer when it to comes change & elevating. So my focus is brightening up your day when you tap to visits The Fobem blogs.
Catch me at the next blog!!
PSA:
I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on moving forward. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took their time out to read & observe. Thanks!
Are you trying to figure out “How do I start decluttering?” or “How do you get rid of clutter at home?”. Don’t worry, I have written 30 things you can throw away today so you can start to declutter right away or when you have time!
If the items you are throwing away are still in good condition where it can be reused, you can actually sell them to make some extra money, or donate them. I use an app called Depop to sell my clothing, shoes, & cosmetics, and I use offer up to sell any reusable devices and other little things!
1. Expired food
2. Expired spices
3. Old chipped up coffee mugs
4. Stained & ripped up towels/wash clothes
5. Old & used up pots and pans
6. Old coupons
7. Old receipts
8. Old cosmetics
9. Old tooth brushes/tooth paste
10. Mitch match socks
11. Old and too small underwear
12. Stained and worn out clothes
13. Used/old gift cards
14. Used candles
15. Unfinished projects
16. Writing utensils that don’t work
17. Dead batteries
18. Damaged items that aren’t fixable
19. Broken phone charges
20. Old phones that aren’t fixable
21. Any empty containers in your fridge
22. CDs that no longer work
23. Books you are more than likely never reading again
This has been the most stressful, depressing, and confusing year. From going through this pandemic, family death, not employed, slow running business, relationship issues, money issues, and I can go on and on.
So I decided to take a break for a while to get my mental together. I went through a bad depression, and sometimes I still feel like I’m in a dark place. But I feel 85% better than I did. Sometimes I lack of self control and react in a way where I just give up on hope. To prosper I have to let go and move past any negative that’s going on in my life. And I finally did that. So now I’m here today writing this to open up spiritually & mentally so my readers and supporters can either relate or understand the process of dealing with depression and how it’s okay to take a break away from everything.
Self care is the best appreciation you can ever give to yourself. Focus on what makes you happy and what can you do to keep it that way. ✨
This article wasn’t created to be long, I just wanted to let you all know that I’m back and what’s been going on with me.
