If you personally know me, or have read my blogs in the past. Then you definitely know my history of having anxiety. First I was very discreet when it came to having anxiety. Why? I have no clue! But once I noticed that suffering from anxiety was basically the new “norm” because it’s so many others who suffer from it to. I became more comfortable with sharing my issues. I also had to realize that stress plays a big part of anxiety. Learning to identify what anxiety actually is, was very helpful for me.
Here are some things I love to do to help ease my mind or return to a sense of calm:
1. The most important thing to do when I am having a bad day or just feeling anxiety is to literally say in my mind or to silently to myself “This is totally normal. It is absolutely fine for me to be feeling this way or having these feelings. I just need to be light on myself today.” It is normal for emotions to flow naturally and embracing this makes you feel so good. Allowing yourself to feel it all and having empathy for yourself will get you through…
2. When I wake up and can tell right away that I am feeling anxious I will usually rearrange my day to be a tad bit more slow paced then usual. If I have anything important to do I try rescheduling for another day. Usually when I put everything on pause it instantly makes me feel more calm. And me being this way when it comes to not being able to make it somewhere due to personal issues makes me more understanding when someone has to cancel plans or reschedule on me, especially knowing it might make their day feel a lot easier.
3. Doing my hobbies before bed has been amazing and relaxing for my mind. I’m an big over thinker and at night my mind races with situations I’ve been through or wondering what others are thinking. Getting all cozy, making my kid’s snacks, reading a book, listening to a relaxing podcast, bullet journal, looking up business ideas, anything! It is so mindless and I have been able to have such fulfilling nights which leads to better sleep for me.
These are the three things that keeps me calm when my anxiety is kicking in…. What keeps you calm? Let me know I would love to hear yours!
Now days self-love has been mentioned a lot more. But let’s admit that learning to love yourself is one of the most powerful and important things you can do in life. While it’s also important to love yourself, we tend to find that area of self-love a mental block. When you practice self-love, we cultivate a healthy personal bond with ourselves and become our own bestfriend.
Here are 4ways you can start practicing habits of choosing self-love:
When was the last time have you acknowledged your strengths? When was was the last time have you looked at yourself in the mirror and said things you like about yourself? Make a list of those things, write it down, read it daily until it permanently sticks to your brain. Treat this list like it’s your own personal daily reminder.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR NEEDS
What are your needs? Write down a list of your needs and take action. Sometimes we are quick to help others with there needs and not put ours first. It’s ok, you just have a heart of gold. But it’s ok to take time out for yourself and start telling people no.
END THE HABIT OF HATING WHO YOU ARE
Remember confidence is key. You tearing yourself down is what’s stopping you from prospering. Have confidence in yourself in every aspect. Let’s work on loving the thought of who you are because no matter what there is no one in this world like you and that’s what makes you unique.
MAKE YOUR BODY HAPPY
When learning to love ourselves we focus plenty of time and attention on our bodies. And how we feel inside our bodies affects how we feel outside of our bodies. You definitely want your body to feel loved and not disconnected. So it’s very important that part of your self-love routine you do things that make you feel great internally.
Sometimes relationships can take a toll on you. Trust me i know. It has with me, and when i say it has broke me down to the point where ill cry everyday of the week, every night before bed, and it drove me to numerous headaches. So i definitely can relate to a lot of women out there who is suffering or suffered from heart break. And of course there will be people telling you “It’s going to be okay, don’t cry” “Forget him” “You deserve better”. Sometimes we don’t take there advice right away because we don’t feel it’s enough.
I remember i use to always say i’m done, and will wake up feeling so different and relieved, but deep down it’s this little piece of me that some how kept me thinking of him. That’s when i knew i wasn’t officially over him. And it’s a feeling that was there for so long that i didn’t even know how to get rid of it. That’s the most fucked up feeling ever!
When i realized that nothing wasn’t enough, I knew right then and there that i had to figure out how to get out, like “literally” “GET THE HELL OUT!”….
I’m sure there is a lot of other women out there that has these same feelings as me or had them. But what’s so cold is that, women now days don’t uplift or support one another any more. So many women are in competition and always want to tease other women for getting played or hurt. WHY?!…. I can’t even answer that but if you have the answer to it please let me know!
Honestly i can admit, that a lot of women in my generation is becoming more and more weak. It sounds mean, but i am just being honest. Women are selling their body, talking down on themselves, not knowing their worth, giving up on their careers, cutting off there friends & families, and doing so much all for MEN!. Now i am not speaking for every woman, but it is a lot of women that are doing this. It breaks my heart because men take advantage of this and sometimes we don’t see it because we are blinded by love, and that’s not even really love. We think we are in love, but we are really just trapped at the moment and can’t find our way out because we can’t see ourselves without them or don’t want no one else to have them. The world is pretty fucked! and everyday it is becoming worse.
But something has to be done. Women need to fight for there strength. It’s time to strive more harder to be stronger and to never experience the feeling of pain again. Yea… it sounds typical, and definitely sounds too good to be true. But how much longer are we going to continue to let men put us through heart break? How much longer will we continue to let men take our woman hood away, and our pride?
Some women like myself always thought revenge was the best route, and hurting them back. I realize that’s not worth it. You can make them hurt more in so many other ways then being cruel & revengeful.
Here are 6 tips that may can help you with beating heartbreak:
#1 FIND THE PROBLEM (Write it down)
Figure out why exactly you can’t get over that person. What is holding you back? Why do you feel you can’t let go? Write down these questions down and answer them. That will kind of get you an outlook on everything.
#2 PROS VS CONS
Write the good, and the bad. If their are more cons, then you should know what needs to be done. Every time the bad outweigh the good then it’s NO GOOD! That’s already a red light that your relationship is pretty much done.
When you kill someone off with silence, that get to them more than anything. Sometimes you have to ignore your way out of the problem because once it’s already toxic, it is unrepairable. I’m not saying that some toxic relationships don’t change, but the ones that don’t change can not be FIXED! And a lot of people fail to realize that. You want to show someone better than you can tell them after all the months/years you been crying for there help, love, and sorrow? Go straight mute on that ass!
#4 FIND HAPPINESS
Find what makes you happy. Sometimes you don’t realize what brings happiness to your life anymore because you focus more on making your significant other who isn’t making you happy at all. Experience new things, try things you have always wanted to do but haven’t. Stop holding back and see what’s out there besides an relationship that can fulfill your needs.
#5 TRY THERAPY
Therapy can possibly help. Sometimes you need someone to dig deep through the mind and can really tell you your problem. It’s a therapist job to heal your mind & soul, and help you look at life differently. I have tried therapy before, and i wish i never stopped. Definitely on my list to start back going again. I can tell you i am a lot more stronger now then i was in the past. So yes, it can help you.
#6 ONE LAST LETTER (Release all the pain)
This is another way i feel that is really helpful. You don’t want to physically talk to that person because if you do, either they will ignore you or cut you off? Well write they ass a letter! Sometimes writing can really ease the pain because you don’t have to worry about talking to that person and feel like your talking to casper. Men have away of making women feel (DUMB), and that get to us badly. What i mean is, men will ignore you, put on there earphones while you are talking to them, walk away, and so much other rude shit! So some way some how they have to see how you feel right? That’s why i said write it out, seal it up, and either mail it to them, or drop it off them. When your done writing your letter, go to a quiet place, and let it out! Cry, scream, shout, and just release all the negative & bad energy out your body/soul. Let that be your last!
Hello :)! Hope you all are having a wonderful day!
Need a good ole spiritual uplift? These spiritual affirmations help support you in acknowledging your true divine self. When exhaling these affirmations into your daily spiritual practice, they help you develop your skills in staying in tune with your spirituality soul. Affirmations also help you replace negative thought patterns with positive ones. As you continuously work with them, they help change your thinking & understanding which is something we all need.
1. Now is the time for my good.
2. I excel at the perfect living of Life.
3. I put my life in the hands of Infinite Love and Divine Wisdom.
4. I see nothing but me.
5. I am now surrounded by the divine, embraced and cherished, nurtured and protected.
6. I am perfectly blessed and I am a perfect blessing for the world.
7. I trust and respect my body’s wisdom.
8. I put myself, my health, and healing above everything. I strive to live a good life.
9. I am in charge of my pain and understand the needs of my body.
10. Happiness is the music of my body.
11. I am filled with positive energy.
12. I am accepting and know how to take care of myself.
13. I have opened my heart to love again.
14. Love is my priority, not hate.
15. No matter how hard life gets, I’m going to still prosper.
16. My choice is to happy.
17. I breathe in peaceful energy, I breathe out unwanted energy.
18. I voice my truth.
19. I voice my intuitions.
20. I have a purpose, so I need to fulfill it.
21. I was created to be uniquely and I see it every day.
22. I love everything who made me who I am today.
23. My soul is cheerful.
24. I am gifted to heal others.
25. I am gifted with the universes love, strength, & wholeness.
In this world of pain, stress, and tensions the power of healing is unmatched. We as humans deal with so much on our universe. We encounter situations when our emotions, anxiety, & curiosity fill our minds. To receive that inner peace through those challenges, using healing statements is definitely the main importance that can help. Utilizing these affirmations to pin point our self conscious minds, is to act on by experiencing the peace that we need in our lives.
Extremely thrilled to write about this topic. I know a lot of people including myself has or had a dark cloud over their shoulder because of something they fault themselves about. Especially when it’s something we have control of. What we don’t realize is that, it’s just a feeling though. A feeling that’s only temporary. Feelings can’t kill you, but running from them can.
We as humans visualize how things can be so much better then what we are currently going through, but not realizing how much power we have to make our visions come true. But when we doubt ourselves, we are lacking and not pushing towards prosperity. Anybody can prosper, it’s simple. But the mind is powerful and you have to compete with yourself, challenge yourself, and to become a better version of you. Our life is a balance and you just have to learn how to maintain it. Holding on to pain just makes you suffer.
Once you forgive yourself. It’s time to free yourself. You can free yourself from anything that can hold you back. Like for me, I am freeing myself from negative energy, negative people, negative thoughts, disappointments, toxic locations, toxic people, lack of growth, and the list goes on. But what most people don’t realize is that we have more freedom then we think. You have to just open up your mind to new things, it’s always good to venture out.
Try writing down what bothers you, and writing down ways you fixed or ways you can fix those problems. Write down why you haven’t forgiven yourself, then write down how you forgiven yourself. This will give you clarity an will help you open up your mind to finding new ways to cope with what’s bothering you.
I always make sure I encourage people to write ✍️ whom reads my articles because writing definitely does help a lot. Especially if you don’t want to go to a psychiatrist or vent to anyone. Writing is a peace of mind. You can come to a conclusion with a lot of situations in your life.
I really hope this blog helps someone out there with clarity or at least given someone a different outlook on how to move forward in life. Remember forgive yourself, and free yourself!
I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on moving forward. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took their time out to read & observe. Thanks!
Are you trying to figure out “How do I start decluttering?” or “How do you get rid of clutter at home?”. Don’t worry, I have written 30 things you can throw away today so you can start to declutter right away or when you have time!
If the items you are throwing away are still in good condition where it can be reused, you can actually sell them to make some extra money, or donate them. I use an app called Depop to sell my clothing, shoes, & cosmetics, and I use offer up to sell any reusable devices and other little things!
1. Expired food
2. Expired spices
3. Old chipped up coffee mugs
4. Stained & ripped up towels/wash clothes
5. Old & used up pots and pans
6. Old coupons
7. Old receipts
8. Old cosmetics
9. Old tooth brushes/tooth paste
10. Mitch match socks
11. Old and too small underwear
12. Stained and worn out clothes
13. Used/old gift cards
14. Used candles
15. Unfinished projects
16. Writing utensils that don’t work
17. Dead batteries
18. Damaged items that aren’t fixable
19. Broken phone charges
20. Old phones that aren’t fixable
21. Any empty containers in your fridge
22. CDs that no longer work
23. Books you are more than likely never reading again
This has been the most stressful, depressing, and confusing year. From going through this pandemic, family death, not employed, slow running business, relationship issues, money issues, and I can go on and on.
So I decided to take a break for a while to get my mental together. I went through a bad depression, and sometimes I still feel like I’m in a dark place. But I feel 85% better than I did. Sometimes I lack of self control and react in a way where I just give up on hope. To prosper I have to let go and move past any negative that’s going on in my life. And I finally did that. So now I’m here today writing this to open up spiritually & mentally so my readers and supporters can either relate or understand the process of dealing with depression and how it’s okay to take a break away from everything.
Self care is the best appreciation you can ever give to yourself. Focus on what makes you happy and what can you do to keep it that way. ✨
This article wasn’t created to be long, I just wanted to let you all know that I’m back and what’s been going on with me.
I am most definitely not going to lie, the Coronavirus has been raising myanxiety levels the last few days.
But hey, theirs nothing we can do to control it, but we can definitely help from spreading it.
I won’t all my readers and everyone else out there to be safe and please take all of the advisesprecautions. Take extremely care of yourself during this worldwide crisis.
I truly know that like myself, and othersthat struggle with anxiety, the news got me feeling even more ANXIOUS day by day. The reason why I say this is because this virus is spreading and it isn’t really any progress.
Of course I know this article might not help 100%, but in the meantime here are some affirmations to help your anxiety and also help with coping!
•I am capable of solving any problems that face me.
•Stress might make me feel weary, but I am in charge of my mind and body.
•I will be OK.
•At this moment, I choose to feel calm and peaceful.
•I choose to fill my mind with positive and healing thoughts.
•Worry doesn’t do me any justice, I just choose to leave it behind.
•If Ican’tcontrol it, I let it go.
•I am attracting positive energy into my body.
•I am safe and in control.
•I am capable of solving any problems that face me.
•Iam strong I am alive.
•Anything that weighs me down, I am free of it.
•I am safe, Iam in control, Iam dominant.
•My body is capable.
•Their is nothing to be fear about, because faith will always rely in my soul.
Please stay safe and follow all of the advisories, watch the news, check on friends & family by phone, and I hope you are able to find some relief from worry, fear, stress, & anxiety soon.
I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on getting better. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took there time out to read & observe. Thanks!
So guess what? I decided to start doing life updates, just to keep you posted with me. I did say before i wanted to start finding new ways to connect with my audience, now i came up with the best solution. So let this be a new start. Life update part 1.
What’s up “Sp fam” (sixteen pages fam)
As you know, Sixteen Pages Blog, is to inspire, motivate, and discuss many topics from self-love, care, growth, and building +more. But for my life updates, you all will be digging into my lifestyle, figuring me out, and following me through my journey/path on pursuing my goals,. Also i will be writing about my fight with depression, my life as a mom, my relationship lifestyle, and so much more. These life updates will be 100% authentic of course. I mean i’m not blocking anything out, straight raw! Anyways let’s get started.
So what’s tea?…..
I decided to take a break away from blogging to focus on a business i started in Late June. The business is called SixteenKisses. It’s a beauty company selling a variety of beauty products. At first i was making it a priority to blog daily or every other day while still working on my business. It just became to much stress on my mind/body. I would be up all night and be super tired, and on top of that i still have a regular job so lol i’m sure you get the point now. I am incredibly ecstatic that i am completing another goal in my life and moving on to the next chapter. It wasn’t easy making all this happen but i did it. I can’t wait until my business expand, but i am patient and i am staying consistent. Now i am back to the blog world like i never left. I have a lot of upcoming things i want to do on my blog. I put a pause on those goals i had for my blog site and now i am ready to achieve them.
I have new interesting plans that will make my blog site more fun, entertaining, and helpful. So, let me throw some scoops at you! I decided to start doing interviews but in a different way. I will ask a selection of questions, and whomever will answer them, send photos, and leave a link for people to find them and i will add it to my interview section. All interviews will be put on a blog post in (writing). I decided to start doing interviews because it’s a good way to support & share the stories of successful men/women around the globe. There are people like myself that is killing the game, and not being noticed like as we should. The goal is to provide examples of men and women who are walking in their purpose and want to show the world there gift.
Besides me cooking up all these interesting plans i have coming up, I also been working on a lot of me time. Self-care has been playing a big part on my life now. I been exploring the nature more, finding new things i love to do. I have a new series on Netflix i can watch while i’m alone with my cup of coffee, and i also been treating myself to a nice size glass of wine before bed time. I just been so mellow, nonchalant, & relaxed. It feels good i can truly admit i love taking time out for myself even if i’m not doing to much of nothing.
Well anyways sp fam, that’s all for now. Stay out on the look out for the next life update :). Check out my other blogs if you haven’t yet.
There is a lot of people who want to start a blog, But not really posting relevant content that catches the audience attention. Sometimes, people feel as if they post a blog it’s automatically going to get someone’s attention and it doesn’t work that way. Why waste your time posting up blogs Day by day but not doing anything to get attention you need or want. Make your blog relevant, and today I want to show you a few tips on how you can do that.
1. FIND A BAD ASS NICHE
A niche is a specific topic you will be posting about. You know when you go on google and you search (How to be more mindful) and hundreds of blogs pop up, and your clicking on about four different ones so you can get the correct information you need. Well clearly, you can see that topic is popular because a lot of blogs are popping up, so make sure you post something that people actually want to read.
2. CUT THE LAZY CRAP AND GET TO WORK
Yes! Stop being lazy. If you want to become relevant, you have to make yourself relevant. Sometimes we give up when we only get 10 likes on our pictures, 5 views on our articles, and not getting any comments. But what we all fail to realize, everyone started from somewhere. You can’t just wake up and want to start something new and think right then in there you are going to rise up. You will grow over time. Some people have there own time limit when they will get noticed, but you can’t focus on other people and how they are ahead of you. Just do what needs to be done and you will slowly but shortly see how far you have succeeded.
3. CONSISTENCY IS THE KEY
Be consistent with anything you do. Make sure you post daily and share links directed to your blog on every social media platforms. Support yourself first, then eventually people will support you. If you post good topics you will receive good feedback.
4. BE AUTHENTIC
Be real. No one wants nobody to feed them with lies and bs, that’s not a good look. Like when you see other bloggers post “I made $300,000 in a week click here to see how!” Then when you click it, it feeds you with a bunch of bullshit, then tells you “if you want to find out more information save your spot now for the webinar for $250!” Lol! Total scam! Rather if they do have the information, how did they learn the information they are teaching you? I’m sure they figured it out just like how you can. You just have to plan, brainstorm, and not find the easy way in to everything. Honesty is the key to having loyal readers. I don’t know about you but i cling on to people I can trust!
5. CREATE VIDEOS
Videos some how bring a lot of attention. People would like to see you, be visible, chat with your followers or readers. Sometimes physically being visible makes your blogs so much better. Your readers can actually see, hear, and understand you so much better. Sometimes it’s good to just level up and do things a little different.
Wow i can’t believe that it’s fall and we almost in October! October is definitely my favorite month!. These are journal prompts to help with personal growth! Hopefully after reading this and taking it to use, you will have more confidence to create a life you love! I also hope these journal prompts will help you change any negative mindsets and help you in every aspect as possible.
Where will I be in 2 years?
What does my ideal day look like?
What unhealthy habits do I need to cut out?
What do I love most about myself? (3 things)
What is something I’ve been wanting to do but have been too afraid to try?
What are my top 2 goals for this year and how can I achieve them?
What do I struggle with the most? And why?
What are 5 words that describe me best and why?
How can I add happiness to my daily life?
What animal describes me as a person and why?
Why is personal growth so important?
Is it possible to help someone else with his or her own personal growth, or can people only grow on their own? Why or why not?
What is your best habit? Why?
What would you say is your biggest strength?
What do you consider to be your most challenging flaw?
What is one aspect of your life you’d like to improve over the next year? What would that improvement look like?
What three to five qualities feel the most important for you to embody?
What is the number one thing that feels like it’s missing from your life right now?
I feel amazing when …
When you are feeling down, what picks you up?
How do you manage stress? Explore what has worked for you and what hasn’t
What are your top life hacks?
List 5 things you love about your home
What are you good at?
What do you often get compliments about?
What do you enjoy doing?
10 things you love about your life.
When you think about your future what do you hope/wish for the most?
Do you believe everything happens for a reason? If so, reflect and name 1 thing that.
What’s surprised you the most about your life or life in general?
What can you learn from your biggest mistakes?
Write the words you need to hear.
Name a compassionate way you’ve supported a friend recently. Then write down how you can do the same for yourself.
If my body could talk, it would say
Name what is enough for you.
What do you need more in life?
I couldn’t imagine living without…
If I could talk to my teenage self, the one thing I would say is…
Make a list of 20 things that make you smile.
What is my third most unique strength?
What is something I would miss if I no longer had it?
So of course you’re building your blog, hoping to one day turn it to a full time income and quit your 9-5, but you have no guarantees it will ever pay off because now it’s seeming like these bloggers & vloggers are just making it all up just to take your money.
So many questions will run through your head. What if this blog fails? What if I get no audience? What if I’m wasting my time and meant to do something different? What if I’m really fooling myself thinking I will be able to become rich of being a blogger?
Let’s be real though, building a profitable blog can be tough work. And it takes time before it actually start taking lead towards success. So you have to be patient and learn as you go. But in the process of being patient make sure take these tips into consideration.
3. Watch videos
4. Take notes
5. Practice creating your future (ahead) just to see if you see any kind of potential
Find what your creative at. Anyone can be creative. Figure it out, and give it a shot. That creativity might lead you to some real life “moolah”🤑!
Here are a few things I know that help bloggers become millionaires.
•Selling a informative E-book
•Selling digital products
•Starting a YouTube channel with really good content
•Finance blogs (who wouldn’t want to learn how to make money)
•Courses (Teach courses & teach others how to teach courses)
•Start an e-commerce business
•Online and in person coaching
All & all you have to give people value, trust, authenticity, and not just someone who just want’s there money. Make sure you always are genuine and have genuine expertise, because your client is some one you do not want to lose out on. So don’t utilize your own experiences.
I hope these small tips were somewhat helpful at least just giving you a few tips on how you can turn something so small to something so big which means your revenue.