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Decluttering tips: 30 Items to Get Rid Of Today

Hey friends,

Are you trying to figure out “How do I start decluttering?” or “How do you get rid of clutter at home?”. Don’t worry, I have written 30 things you can throw away today so you can start to declutter right away or when you have time!

If the items you are throwing away are still in good condition where it can be reused, you can actually sell them to make some extra money, or donate them. I use an app called Depop to sell my clothing, shoes, & cosmetics, and I use offer up to sell any reusable devices and other little things!

1. Expired food

2. Expired spices

3. Old chipped up coffee mugs

4. Stained & ripped up towels/wash clothes

5. Old & used up pots and pans

6. Old coupons

7. Old receipts

8. Old cosmetics

9. Old tooth brushes/tooth paste

10. Mitch match socks

11. Old and too small underwear

12. Stained and worn out clothes

13. Used/old gift cards

14. Used candles

15. Unfinished projects

16. Writing utensils that don’t work

17. Dead batteries

18. Damaged items that aren’t fixable

19. Broken phone charges

20. Old phones that aren’t fixable

21. Any empty containers in your fridge

22. CDs that no longer work

23. Books you are more than likely never reading again

24. Old brooms and old mops

25. Stained and worn out sheets + covers

26. Expired medicines

27. Clothes you no longer can fit anymore

28. Irrelevant mail you don’t need anymore

29. Old remotes to tv’s you no longer even have

30. Old house phones you no longer use

20 Things to do during quarantine

Living during a pandemic, Is definitely terrifying. We are going through a horrific time. During this pandemic it kind of remind me of the movies we watch or the theory stories people talk about. Now we find ourselves stuck in the house due to a state of emergency. Which means we are stuck on quarantine until further notice. So what can we do while being homebodies now? I wrote a list of 20 things you can do while during with quarantine. 

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  1. SPRING CLEANING
  2. LEARN SOME NEW SKILLS
  3. USE YOUR CREATIVE SKILLS OR FIND A NEW ONE
  4. CREATE A BUSINESS PLAN (SIDE HUSTLE)
  5. START A DAILY EXERCISE SCHEDULE
  6. MEDITATE
  7. CREATE A HEALTHY EATING PLAN AND BUILD YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM
  8. SELF-CARE
  9. HAVE A IN DOOR PICNIC
  10. FIND A GAME ON YOUR PHONE TO PLAY
  11. LISTEN TO A PODCAST DAILY
  12. GO LIVE (FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM, PERISCOPE, LIVEME)
  13. START A NOVEL
  14. FACETIME A CLOSE ONE
  15. WRITE IN YOUR JOURNAL DAILY
  16. FIND A MOVIE NETWORK (NETFLIX, DISNEY, TUBITV “FREE”, AMAZON PRIME, HULU, IMDB)
  17. JOIN OR START A BOOK CLUB
  18. CHECK OUT NEW RECIPES
  19. LEARN HOW TO KNIT
  20. LEARN A NEW LANGUAGE

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7 bomb tips to up your blog with social media

Let’s be super honest here, creating just a blog can be super confusing sometimes, and might have nights where you end up having a huge ass migraine! Well sometimes it’s easy said then done that when you post content you want to make sure you target the right audience. 𝑺𝒐𝒄𝒊𝒂𝒍 𝒎𝒆𝒅𝒊𝒂 𝒊𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒄𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒊𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒈𝒈𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒖𝒓, 𝒑𝒖𝒃𝒍𝒊𝒄 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆, 𝒔𝒐𝒄𝒊𝒂𝒍 𝒎𝒆𝒅𝒊𝒂 𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏/𝒎𝒐𝒅𝒆𝒍, 𝒐𝒓 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒐𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆. Sometimes it can be hard, but once you actually start figuring out different tricks & tips on how to build, it definitely will work. Social media does play a big part of building your blog but you have to make sure you do it the right way! I will give you 7 tips on how.

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Don’t use your personal social media account to promote your blogs #MakeAnewAccount

When you you use your main social media account sometimes it defeats the purpose. “My opinion!” I think it is more valuable when you make an account specifically for your blogs. You can be able to explain better in detail, have debates, and all around target the main point of whatever blog you just published. You want to make sure your audience be able to understand, relate, & focus just on that blog, so you can be able to bring them to visit your website. It’s all about posting good content & giving your readers more of a reason to enjoy your content as well.

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Use your creativity

Being creative is something that comes natural regardless. Sometimes a lot of people feel they aren’t creative, but don’t understand that everyone is in there own way. Find different things to post on your social media that will bring attention to your social media. Host a giveaway, have a poll on your Instagram story, or go live and interact with others.

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Make videos on (Insta story, Insta post, Igtv)

When you make videos, it just helps brings more audience, and also a good way to show your authentic self. Let people get to know your personality, and be able to visually see you. Sometimes by just posting pictures aren’t just enough. Talk about your upcoming blogs, what do your readers want you to blog about next, or just whatever that comes to mind. You are the host remember that, so think of some of your good skills you have, and put them to use. The more you stay active, the easier it will get to start getting people to notice you.

Be consistent with your followers

Yes, consistency is the key. When using social media, your social skills are important. People adapt to those who are communicative & open. Make sure you reply to comments, & DM’s, because that’s what your audience would like. No need to act sassy and ignore those who are asking a simple question, or just want to shoot you some advice. Not even that, but what if a company is interested in working wit you and like your content. You don’t want to pass up good opportunities.

Post daily

Stay active by posting everyday. Even if it’s a simple quote, picture, or just something that you want to discuss. Especially until you build your social media following up, eventually you can make a routine on what days you post, but save that when you elevate & actually have a good amount of following.

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High Quality Photos

Photos is another way to bring a large audience. Make sure you download good photo editing apps like Photoshop ExpressPicsArt, and many more. Even myself can admit that when i see awesome photos it brings my attention right away. Sometimes you have to think as if it was you who will be interested.

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Use HASHTAGS!

Hashtags is another way to build up your following, actually a quick way. There are billions of users who use hashtags, be one of them. Make sure you use the right hashtags and also switch them up. Sometimes using the exact same hashtags for months & months, will make it hard to get your page noticed. So yes use hashtags! You can search up viral hashtags on google of course.

I hope these tips can help, they definitely helped me in so many ways. Screenshot so you can have them in your phone. 

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How I kept Losing myself to finally gaining myself back and keeping it that way

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I’m sure a lot of people can relate…

In out through my life, I have lost myself, and gained myself back again. Meaning, I have gave up so many times, then i started to be myself again but better.

I definitely didn’t know why, but i do know a lot of millennials, mid 20’s, and late 20’s, go through different changes. Which i can say that can be part of my transition because i am 28.

A lot of women go through a lot of ” Hormonal imbalances”. Which can affect us mentally, and we begin to have mood swings, and so much more. don’t want to get to personal about it. but my point is that, as a woman we go through so many changes, have to deal with so many personal things, and it’s stressful. BEYOND IT.

Dealing with mental health growing up, really had me losing myself. Not loving myself, not caring for myself, and just putting others before me. People use to ask me, “Why are you looking so angry?” and, i was definitely was intrigued by that question, because i didn’t know why people always ask that and i was always curious why. But i figured it out, I had an automatic mean mug smh….

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People said i never had a smile on myself, I always looked angry. And that isn’t good at all. I really started to realize that all around i am wasn’t happy, because people are actually seeing it in my facial expressions. But, truth be told, I didn’t mind it after a while. I was still angry.

I was disappointed within myself. One of the reasons why is because I didn’t graduate on time, not because i didn’t know the work, I just was so stuck into my feelings that i didn’t even knock out 15 credits. Don’t judge me, yes only 15 CREDITS!. That’s all i needed, and I let my pride get the best of me. So, I went to go finish, and I thought i was happy about it and i still wasn’t. I had a kid, and felt that i was to old, and I waited to long to go back. It’s sad that i was ungrateful instead of blessed. Close people around whispered, judged me, and talked about me behind my back because i didn’t graduate on time. And it’s the truth. I knew it, and yes it hurts badly. But, people knew deep down i had an gift, and that behind that angry face it’s a Smart Black Woman. I think people were intimidated by my strong attitude, and no matter how i feel about myself, I was always independent and knew what i was talking about. But i believe people mistaken me to be dumb, because of the “missing 15 credits.” People used that as a weapon against me. So when i decided to go back in finish i did it silently for my own happiness. I knew that this school issue was really one of my weaknesses and one of the reasons why i am not happy.

Dealing with the TOXIC. Toxic played a big part in my life. Arguing with family members, arguing & fighting with my significant other, down talking myself. All that is consider toxic. Not only that it’s toxic, It’s stressful. On top of that, I still was not happy. My level of happiness was up and down.

As I got older, I have realized that i was surrounded around people i shouldn’t surround myself with. I was dealing with people i had no business dealing with. People who do not support you, or want to see you win, is a red flag to NO GOOD! No i am not innocent but growing up remember when your parents always say “Two wrongs don’t make it right!” It’s the truth!

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It takes time to be the best version of yourself, so don’t give up fighting for your confidence. You are beautiful…..”

 

It’s hard to change being around a lot of people who is just like you but worst. And every time you want to change you are dealing with other people negativity, or it’s rubbing off on you. Sometimes you have to stop prolonging these relationships with friends & families or even with your partner, if it’s not bringing any happiness to your life.

I had to realize that life isn’t always suppose to be peaches & cream. At any moment in life you can lose everything, but how will you react to it? Continuously act out on everyone or be strong and move forward. Failure is not an option because it will happen, but you have to understand that.

I started to have insecurities. But that is something i kept to myself for a while. I never showed it, and felt no reason to. It wasn’t that I was insecure in my looks necessarily, but everything else about me I was disappointed in. Instead of complimenting myself I rather compliment others and make them feel good, I really don’t know why, but seeing other people happy always made me feel better. And I been that way for a while until I came to a realization that I need to focus on self-care & self-love. I had to stop loving others more then I loved myself.

When I finally found myself, and figured out who I am and what I want in life I went for it. I decided I wanted to become a blogger & entrepreneur and guess what? I made it happen. I might have ups & downs and things might not made it to where I want it to you, but it’s the principle that I am striving to be the best that I can be and reach my top goal.

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Even though I admit all the time, I LOST MYSELF. But, it’s always time to gain your self again. It’s okay if you fell off a little, but pick up where you left and keep going. Can’t no one interfere what you got going on, only if you let them, SO DON’T!

Moral of the story is, I made this blog to uplift and motivate others that you can go through the hardest time in your life and it’s okay. But, don’t let that become an habit. Just get up and work on you, better you, love you, support you, and keep being determined to achieve your goals. Use your past as a way out the hold on on your way to success.

YOU GOT THIS!!!!

 

 

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52 Blogging Ideas For Starting a Blog

What to blog about? No. What is there to blog about?

It can be pretty difficult when trying to come up with a blogging niche or blog ideas can be super hard when you’re just starting out or randomly getting writers block. But, starting a blog means you have to create content consistently, especially if you are planning to take your blog to the next level.

But what do you do?….

 You find ideas what to blog about. You find a niche for your blog. Then you just go for it without no hesitation. 

When i say with no hesitation, I mean, choose whatever that comes to mind even if you never use that niche again. It’s about giving out good content, and being your authentic self.

A good niche will help you grow more audience and more traffic. I will show you how.

I listed 52 blog ideas on what to blog about. This will definitely help you when it comes to how many different blogging ideas for your niche you can come up with, or give you some serial ideas.

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1. Business Blogging Ideas

First off in the process of starting a blog, (monetize) it. This is how i started making an income out of blogging.

If you have the knowledge & experience to help others, you can start a blog teaching and helping others.

#1 Freelance Writing

#2 Digital Marketing

#3 Life coaching

#4 Business coaching

#5 Printables

#6 E-books

#7 Health and wellness

#8 Youtube

#9 Life Coaching

#10 Relationship Coaching

#11 Instagram Marketing

#12 Facebook Marketing

#13 Pinterest Marketing

#14 Fashion

#15 Photography

#16 Social Media

#17 Fitness

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2. Relationships

Are you good at helping other’s in their relationship. Do you give really good tips? It doesn’t matter if their single or married, you can help online with your blog by sharing anything you know about relationships.

#18 Dating

#19 How to prevent a break up

#20 Long distance relationship

#21 Couples therapy 

#22 Interracial relationship

#23 Healthy relationship

#24 Loving relationship

 

 

3. DIY

DIY is a great idea for your blog, especially if you are creative and have a lot of ideas to share & teach others.

#25 Furniture

#26 Homemade skincare products

#27 Homemade teeth whitening 

#28 Fashion

#29 Hair products

#30 Recipes

#31 Meal planning

#32 Home office

#33 Decor for cheap

#34 Paintings

#35 Renovations

 

4. Finance

Finance is big in our world, you can help a lot of people or a core set of people. It’s up to you how you want to do it, but a lot of people need tips on budgeting and where to go to make money.

#36 Personal Finance

#37 Freelancing

#38 Paying off debt

#39 Saving money

#40 Make money blogging

#41 Side hustle

#42 Make money from home

#43 Budgeting 

 

5. Educational Blogging Ideas

Educational type of blogs are more straight forward, instructional, and helpful. If you start one of these blogs, you can knowledge newbies to your topic or help those already successful get to the next level.

#44 Personal Growth

#45 Goal Planning Printables

#46 Self-Care Tips

#47 Mindset Growth

#48 Journaling Tips

#49 Mental Health

#50 Time Management Worksheet

#51 Time Management Tips

#52 Developing Successful Skills

 

 

 

7 HABITS THAT WILL THROW OFF YOUR PRODUCTIVITY

So many distractions, so many plans… so many goals to complete… in not much time!

I’m sorry but doesn’t it seem like every time you try to focus on getting things done, you begin to feel less unproductive. Try creating a schedule or a to do list. I am more of a scheduler type of girl, and i swear to you that i spend more of my time writing it out then actually doing what i planned to do. Or i end up doing something else important that i instantly get distracted and next thing you know it i am on my phone doing something totally different like browsing the internet looking at shoes & clothes.

The main point is that productivity has always been something you have to level up in, and a work-in-progress, it’s an life experience we all go through. Things happen, things  change, but we have to work around all that stress to stay productive. #1 FACT: Trashing all habits that kill your productivity.

 

 

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1. TECHNOLOGY DISTRACTION

Of course you would think it’s meant to make our lives more productive and more simple, but for the most part, it is the total opposite. Consistently checking your email, checking your social media before & after a nap, every time your phone notification goes off you pick up your phone fast, or when someone is talking to you but your face in stuck in your phone and not the conversation. That is a distraction, a major one. Those are some things that will kill off your productivity and any digital advice is definitely the blame. Digital devices distractions breaks the flow of your productivity. Your brain has to focus on what is important, or else you will lose out on a lot more thank you think.

 

2. LACK OF SLEEP 

Do you have times when you feel like there isn’t enough hours in the day? Yup definitely. There always seems to be something else you planned on getting done before night time gets here. Some days we even stay up almost until the next day or just go to sleep extremely late just to do something else. Other times we have a hard time shutting our eyes the first couple hours because now our mind just want let us with all the anxious thoughts we are having. Thinking about all the task we didn’t do but we could have did. So we tell our selves, “Okay we will do it tomorrow”, but then we think about how tired we will be because we are still up in the middle of the night now.

Not getting enough sleep can affect your memory, performance, health, and your ability to concentrate. Also lack of sleep makes it hard to make decisions. If this is something you struggle with, work on developing better habits for bedtime. I definitely had to. Try making a schedule for bed time, and find out what can actually help you sleep better (Naturally).

 

 

3. LACK OF ROUTINE

Planning productive habits and actually sticking to a routine helped me out in improving my productivity. Now that i am back in fitness. I get up 7:30, take my daughter to school. Come home, make breakfast + pot of coffee. Go work out from 11:30 am – 12:15 pm. Then after all that i come home, clean, and figure out what i am going to cook for the day. After all that, I spend the rest of my day working on my blog. I fell off when it comes to productivity and having a routine. I also began to stress a lot, so now that i am back at it with my routine i have listed above, I haven’t let my stress stop me from taking care of myself.

 

 

My productivity depended on those daily habits. This routine is what kept me on the right path, and motivates me to keep moving forward no matter what is going on in my life. Now that i took a big jump back & created a new routine for myself, my productivity has improved so much. Having a customized routine added to your schedule keeps you focused on the way you move daily. Your life doesn’t have be boring, or difficult just stay more organized.

 

 

4. TECHNOLOGY DISTRACTION

Of course you would think it’s meant to make our lives more productive and more simple, but for the most part, it is the total opposite. Consistently checking your email, checking your social media before & after a nap, every time your phone notification goes off you pick up your phone fast, or when someone is talking to you but your face in stuck in your phone and not the conversation. That is a distraction, a major one. Those are some things that will kill off your productivity and any digital advice is definitely the blame. Digital devices distractions breaks the flow of your productivity. Your brain has to focus on what is important, or else you will lose out on a lot more thank you think.

 

 

5. PERFECTIONIST

If you struggle with being a perfectionist chances are that you also have that “I don’t care ” attitude. It’s when you’re never happy with pretty much anything that comes your way, everything you do has to be done absolutely perfectly or else you will have a fit. There’s also a lot of fear of failure and anxiety involved, but a perfectionist hides it due to caring about what others think. All of this combined can affect your productivity in a big way, no in a EXTREME WAY. The major key is to really focus on your goals and tasks, rather than that fear of making a mistake, because mistakes are going to happen in and out your life. I feel that being a perfectionist is hard to come by, or just a mind thing. but you can start by changing your perspective, the way you think, and realizing just how often you use it as an excuse to not complete your daily goals & task.

 

 

6. LACK OF STRESS MANAGEMENT

Stressful situations can throw you off track. When your mind is clogged up with anxiety, worry, and fear, your productivity falls off. It’s important to know how to manage your stress, and deal with it in a much healthier way. Meditation, yoga, writing/journaling, and just taking care of yourself like you should. Figure out how to cope with repeatedly stress issues.

 

 

7. LACK OF DISCIPLINE + FAILURE TO ARRANGE

When it comes down to it, lack of discipline is one of the main habits that throw your productivity off. There will be plenty of days when you won’t feel like getting things done, days when working on something that’s important to you is the last thing you feel like doing. Motivation comes and goes in and out our lives, and you can’t rely on it to always be there, because trust me it’s not. When you lose motivation you sometimes also lose your willing power to be productive. Focus on building habits that will help you become more self-disciplined and learning to arrange your tasks is one of them. Use your willing power to create more habits that will improve your productivity, rather than depending on motivation all the time.

 

 

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6 AFFIRMATIONS TO GET YOU THROUGH OUT THE DAY

Welcome to Spring season my loves!

I am a huge believer in affirmations. They have worked for me absolutely in so many ways. It starts from what you tell yourself when you first get up to begin your day. Dreams, goals, success, all begins in the mind. You have to train your mind to see good in situation and i think a good way is start through affirmations.

Here are some affirmations that will help you get through whatever challenge you might be going through. I actually use these for myself.

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AFFIRMATION 1: I WILL NOT LOSE

No matter what your situation is, or whatever you are going through, always remind yourself that you will WIN. I have learned a lot on how to act on in different situations. I am here to not lose and to never give up. For a person who has faith and believe i there self, this affirmation couldn’t me more authentic enough.

 

 

 

AFFIRMATION 2: THIS TIME WILL PASS BY

Now most of the time when we are going through tough times in our lives, we think it’s going to last for eternity. We see no way out. We see a huge wall everywhere but one thing I’ve learned is that everything is temporary and nothing is forever, so eventually that wall will come down. And like the first affirmation was written, no matter what, i can NEVER LOSE.

 

 

 

AFFIRMATION 3:  I WILL NOT WORRY

When tough times come, we carry a heavy set of fear on our backs, stress, anxiety, depression, doubt. I tell myself all the time “NOT TODAY, NOT NEVER DEMON”. I will not worry. And i sure will not fear. There is no significance in worrying your self about being stressed. But there is every advantage in remaining calm & content. This way you can take time out to talk or write out your thoughts. You can think about solutions. So, make it a main priority when you get up each day to affirm “I WILL NOT WORRY.”

 

 

 

AFFIRMATION 4: THERE IS NOTHING TOO HARD FOR PRAYER

 

Their is absolutely nothing to hard with prayer. I mean of course everyone has their own beliefs, but i’m telling you now that prayer works. God is watching over us at all times, and although he might not answer our prayers immediately, eventually he does. You have to stay positive, patient, & determined. Prayer gives me confidence, piece, and strength.

 

 

 

AFFIRMATION 5: IT’S LIFE

Whichever area of your life that is challenging, affirm that “it’s life”. It’s life with my living. It’s life with my finances. It’s life with my health. It’s life with my education. It’s life with my ups & downs. Speak it out and it will come into existence. You might not believe it, but your situation is already under control you just have to trust in yourself.

 

 

 

AFFIRMATION 6: NO ONE CAN STOP ME FROM GETTING IT

No one can stop you from getting it but YOU.The goal+dreams i have for myself, may seem not believable. But, I have confidence in the facts that my future will be just fine, and that i will make it to where i want to be. There will be people who will try to bring you down, or just something that might try to hold you back, but don’t act on it. No one can stop you from getting to it unless you allowed them to.

 

So, these are the affirmations I say each day and they have kept me grounded & leveled. I would love to read some of yours if you feel comfortable dropping them down in the comments that will be dope.

 

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WHAT TO DO WHEN STRESSING?

As an adult we may cope with our stress differently from one another. And it’s pretty damn annoying when you consistently try to work on getting over your stress but everything just comes falling down at the same time. Sucks right?! I mean i always try to practice ways to get over my stress, and yes i found plenty of solutions to help with that, but why can’t life just be peaceful and stress free?.. I guess it’s part of humanity huh?!

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First off take time to follow through this stress roller coaster you are going through. It’s ok to talk to yourself, we have to figure ourselves out first before anyone else. So don’t feel like something is wrong with you. I mean you will be surprised how many people talk to there selves. Anyways… Ask your self simple questions

For an example: 

Why am i stressed out?

What can i do to relieve this stress?

What stress level i am at between 1-10?

You don’t have to specifically ask yourself these questions but i advise you to figure out the main problem first.

 

“We can repeatedly tell ourselves we aren’t stressing, but holding it in and not being truthful only makes things worst…live your truth, and fix it” -SB

 

So we have different ways how we handle stress one way or the other. Some people like myself show there most tempered side, and some show there emotional side. Either way, you can find different ways to help lower your stress level.

 

 

 

Here are a few things that helped me and might can help someone else:

  1. Write in a journal
  2. Get professional help (Therapist, Counseling, Coaching sessions) 
  3. Go on a social media diet. Meaning, stay off social media for a couple days “It works”.
  4. Talk to a close friend/family member
  5. Go on a self-care outing. Find something you like to do that you don’t do often but it makes you feel good.
  6. Boxing + Yoga Class + Zumba Class + Gym
  7. Sip & Paint class.

 

 

For the most part, I think through out our lives we will have stress that will come in and leave. We will go through the bad, we will go through the good, and sometimes we will go through both at the same damn time! Finding your happiness and your peace of mind should always be your focus. Sometimes overwhelming yourself and who the person you are becoming can take a toll on you. That’s why no matter what i try to mentally work on myself first. It was a point of time in my life that i didn’t focus on me like i should have. I’m sure a lot of others relate. Focus on caring for your self, and finding out different techniques that will help you in the long run. Stress is a silent disaster, so lets work on making stress less of an issues instead of one. Practice mindfulness, practice self-care, practice on how to be a better you.

 

This Article was inspired by one of my readers :). They were curious on how i react to stress and wanted me to give out some tips i use to help me through out this journey. Hope you enjoyed this blog and please feel free to go to my “Ask” tab and ask whatever questions you like and ill definitely respond!

 

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Leaving the past behind: Tips on learning to move on

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LEARNING TO FORGIVE + LETTING GO

Forgiveness is important when learning to move on and leaving the past behind. It’s not just about forgiving others for the hurt and pain they might have caused you. It is also about you forgiving yourself overall. When we consistently remind ourselves those situations in our heads, over and over again, we fall into that mental state of staying stuck in the past. It’s a on going cycle that will not stop unless that thought is broken. The only person who can break that though is you.

But also forgiving is not only about forgiving others, letting go isn’t just about letting go of the past. It’s also about letting go of toxic relationships, negative thoughts/surroundings, bad habits, and bad beliefs. It’s about letting go of the false things we keep re-minding ourselves with, over and over again. Be committed to letting go, self discipline is needed sometimes.

 

 

HAVING AN UNDERSTANDING + GETTING RID OF THE PAST

There comes a time when everything you go through in life might just repeats itself. Usually, it’s things like:

  • Being argumentative
  • Being in denial
  • Holding on to the past
  • Refusing to let go
  • Blaming others for your actions
  • Using your past circumstances as today

 

Sadly to say, some of the things we forever hold on to and the cycle we tend to create are ruinous and will lead a negative impact on our lives. Now there are some that actually use their past as motivation to move forward and to keep going, but their is also others who make up excuses to continuously be at stuck mode. Why? Because it’s more simple to make up excuses and living a lie, which we know we shouldn’t be doing at all.

 

BE WILLING FOR CHANGE

Change doesn’t necessary always happen right when you want it to. Most of the time we are forced into change. Accept that things aren’t going to always go your way and move on from it and just hope for better. Sometimes things aren’t just meant, but you have to realize that change is part of our lives. It is growth.

We can go through the most toughest storms but you definitely never want to stick in the past, be willing to let go of anything that’s not worth holding on to.

 

EXPRESS OPENLY

Sometimes expressing how you feel openly can be a good choice. Hiding your feelings honestly can make you feel worst. Be free, be open to express yourself in whatever way makes you feel good, just do it without no fear. Self-care is very important. It is tiresome holding up balled up feelings and not getting any kind of relief. Top three things i do to express myself openly.

  • Write in journal
  • Counseling
  • Call some one close

Growing up and making changes is a big effort, but it definitely takes a lot of work. Be patient, be authentic, be willing to move forward and more open to new things in life.

 

NO BLAMING + BE COMMITTED + NO EXCUSES

Stop blaming others of your actions. We all have our own mindset and the way we look at things, and can’t no one stop the way we think, unless you see a DIFFERENCE! Own up to mistakes, and always remember that failure comes with all of this. Don’t put yourself down and blame yourself for anybody actions NOT EVEN YOURS! I use to blame myself for everything because i didn’t believe in myself or anyone else. All i did was put pressure on myself and blame me for every problem, when i know i shouldn’t have. 

I was so insecure but now i found myself. I learned to put the past behind me and move forward. You can’t control everything that happens because maybe it was meant for it to happen that way. Leave the past, blaming, and negative energy somewhere else. You are wise enough to find peace and happiness within yourself and others. Remember you have the power, you have the strength, use it. NO EXCUSES! 

 

I hope this blog was helpful or some what helpful. Please feel free to check out my other blogs, and contact me personally if you have any inquiries.

 

 

40 Things To Do When You’re Bored And Home Alone

 

 

When i use to be home alone i remember i was always desperate to just get out the house because i was always bored and never really thought of nothing to do to keep me from even feeling that way. Especially on weekends, I was a party animal so i always wanted to just go party and be with friends. Now that i am getting older, and have a kid, I am at the point in my life where being bored is most def for me. Although while being home alone sounds boring, sometimes it’s nice to just hang out with yourself. There is plenty of  creative things you can. A lot of things you do on a daily, it’s overly done. Try other things, be unique. Well, i have assembled a list of 40 tips to do to cure your worries of boredom.

 

 

  1. Drink Wine 
  2. Watch movies | T.V. Series
  3. Buy an at home fitness dvd or watch work out videos on youtube
  4. Cook your favorite dish
  5. Turn on your music super loud and have a lonesome twerk party
  6. Write a novel
  7. Read a novel
  8. Paint even if you “can’t”
  9. Call a close friend or family member
  10. Download Broadcasting apps where you can talk to people worldwide like: LIVE ME|MONKEY APP| PERISCOPE| TAGGED & many more
  11. Reorganize your entire closet and room
  12. Have your own photo shoot
  13. Make a you tube video
  14. Make some homemade products for an example: Sugar scrub| Facial cleanse| Facial mask| Essential oils| Make up recipes| Shampoo & much more
  15. Write out goals for the month, day, or year
  16. Meditate
  17. Play video games. Video games honestly will make your day fun and interesting
  18. Write down your thoughts and ideas
  19. Educate yourself on somethings you don’t know
  20. Plan a trip even if it’s months away from now
  21. Find more hobbies other then the one you have
  22. Change up your decor in your home
  23. Take a hot bubble bath
  24. Are you dating? If not, create a social dating site. Here is a few. Tinder |  Pof |Zoosk | Bumble
  25. Get loads of sleep
  26. Start a blog.  I definitely recommend Word Press
  27. Invent something at home and possibly think about selling it
  28. Go through all your unwanted clothes and sell them online. Here is a few apps you can download to sell your clothes: Posh Mark| Depop Offer Up Let Go
  29. Make a dope vision board 
  30. Stalk your boyfriend social media since he went out with friends
  31. Do an at home spa
  32. Start a course
  33. Learn some new languages
  34. Write a poem. Even if it doesn’t make complete sense.
  35. Do dumb embarrassing things you will never do in front of anyone else. It’s okay everyone has a personal side no one knows about.
  36. Go on social media and just type your fingers away!
  37. Go on Pinterest and plan your next event outfit. Pinterest is super fun and always have the best outfits/ideas to choose from.
  38. Go online shopping and find mad cheap deals
  39. Learn something new
  40. Send a anonymous gift to your crush

 

 

 

 

I mean, we all need to find creative things to do when home alone, even if some of the following is obvious, i am more than sure that you haven’t did somethings on this list. But besides that, what else do you do at home to cure your boredom, and to fulfill your lonesome needs?…..

Live a little, and change somethings around. Even if it sounds corny or seem corny, it’s well worth it.

 

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