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6 ways to overcome my fear

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Fear is something that will hold you back from a lot. But all of us have experienced fear at some point in our lives, & sadly to say it’s people that still do today. Fear can you stop you from leveling up, growth, and being successful.

Do not let fear hold you back forever. Because there are several ways to overcome fear, here are my top 6:

1. Speak positivity to your inner-self: It takes little of nothing to speak positive things on a regular. Turn your cheerful moments into a normal thing for you. Remind yourself everyday that you are worthy.

2. Be confident: Confidence plays a big part in us conquering our fears. Confidence will get you that job! Confidence will get you that business! Make sure you read my other blog about confidence ⤵️:

KEEPING CONFIDENCE AND WHAT HELPED ME KEEP IT

3. Practice journaling your thoughts: I always encourage people to write in a journal, because journaling about your problems or whatever is bothering you really can help shift the mind into more on the positive side and can lead to you overcoming your fears. Also, writing relieve whatever you had bottled up inside. Now you’re feeling signs of relief.

4. Don’t try to be perfect: Most people try to perfect things or be in competition and that isn’t needed. Definitely doesn’t make anything better because in life we are going to make mistakes, I had to plant that in my head. Because at a point of time, this was my mentality. But after a while I had to understand that taking my time & paying attention will get me way further.

5. Stop living in the past & live in reality: I can admit I definitely was a victim of living in the past. It use to be so hard to let things go that you wouldn’t even agree to today. We have a slick way of using our past as an excuse for everything. And at this big age, we should know more than better. Don’t let what happened in the past out fear in you to not want to love forward and deal with reality.

6. Identify it: You have to be honest with yourself every time you’re afraid. If you don’t admit to your fears, look for the points in your life where you’re afraid, and see them as opportunities to learn to deal with fear. And see how things get more easier for you.

Please keep that in mind that these are just my experiences from the past. I’m not sure if these will help in any kind of way, which I hope it should. But this is a place to start. And here on & out don’t let fear hold you back from reaching your goals and your becoming you highest self this year!

Xoxoxo –SeqouiaB🤎

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3 Ways I calm my anxiety

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If you personally know me, or have read my blogs in the past. Then you definitely know my history of having anxiety. First I was very discreet when it came to having anxiety. Why? I have no clue! But once I noticed that suffering from anxiety was basically the new “norm” because it’s so many others who suffer from it to. I became more comfortable with sharing my issues. I also had to realize that stress plays a big part of anxiety. Learning to identify what anxiety actually is, was very helpful for me.

Here are some things I love to do to help ease my mind or return to a sense of calm:

1. The most important thing to do when I am having a bad day or just feeling anxiety is to literally say in my mind or to silently to myself “This is totally normal. It is absolutely fine for me to be feeling this way or having these feelings. I just need to be light on myself today.” It is normal for emotions to flow naturally and embracing this makes you feel so good. Allowing yourself to feel it all and having empathy for yourself will get you through…

2. When I wake up and can tell right away that I am feeling anxious I will usually rearrange my day to be a tad bit more slow paced then usual. If I have anything important to do I try rescheduling for another day. Usually when I put everything on pause it instantly makes me feel more calm. And me being this way when it comes to not being able to make it somewhere due to personal issues makes me more understanding when someone has to cancel plans or reschedule on me, especially knowing it might make their day feel a lot easier.

3. Doing my hobbies before bed has been amazing and relaxing for my mind. I’m an big over thinker and at night my mind races with situations I’ve been through or wondering what others are thinking. Getting all cozy, making my kid’s snacks, reading a book, listening to a relaxing podcast, bullet journal, looking up business ideas, anything! It is so mindless and I have been able to have such fulfilling nights which leads to better sleep for me.

These are the three things that keeps me calm when my anxiety is kicking in…. What keeps you calm? Let me know I would love to hear yours!

See you soon on the next blog

XoXo The Fobem 🍃

4 Ways you can start practicing habits of choosing self-love, Lifestyle Blog

4 Ways you can start practicing habits of choosing self-love

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Now days self-love has been mentioned a lot more. But let’s admit that learning to love yourself is one of the most powerful and important things you can do in life. While it’s also important to love yourself, we tend to find that area of self-love a mental block. When you practice self-love, we cultivate a healthy personal bond with ourselves and become our own bestfriend.

Here are 4ways you can start practicing habits of choosing self-love:

ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR STRENGTHS

When was the last time have you acknowledged your strengths? When was was the last time have you looked at yourself in the mirror and said things you like about yourself? Make a list of those things, write it down, read it daily until it permanently sticks to your brain. Treat this list like it’s your own personal daily reminder.

TAKE CARE OF YOUR NEEDS

What are your needs? Write down a list of your needs and take action. Sometimes we are quick to help others with there needs and not put ours first. It’s ok, you just have a heart of gold. But it’s ok to take time out for yourself and start telling people no.

END THE HABIT OF HATING WHO YOU ARE

Remember confidence is key. You tearing yourself down is what’s stopping you from prospering. Have confidence in yourself in every aspect. Let’s work on loving the thought of who you are because no matter what there is no one in this world like you and that’s what makes you unique.

MAKE YOUR BODY HAPPY

When learning to love ourselves we focus plenty of time and attention on our bodies. And how we feel inside our bodies affects how we feel outside of our bodies. You definitely want your body to feel loved and not disconnected. So it’s very important that part of your self-love routine you do things that make you feel great internally.

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25 spiritual affirmations for personal growth & healing

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Hello :)! Hope you all are having a wonderful day!

Need a good ole spiritual uplift? These spiritual affirmations help support you in acknowledging your true divine self. When exhaling these affirmations into your daily spiritual practice, they help you develop your skills in staying in tune with your spirituality soul. Affirmations also help you replace negative thought patterns with positive ones. As you continuously work with them, they help change your thinking & understanding which is something we all need.

1. Now is the time for my good.

2. I excel at the perfect living of Life.

3. I put my life in the hands of Infinite Love and Divine Wisdom.

4. I see nothing but me.

5. I am now surrounded by the divine, embraced and cherished, nurtured and protected.

6. I am perfectly blessed and I am a perfect blessing for the world.

7. I trust and respect my body’s wisdom.

8. I put myself, my health, and healing above everything. I strive to live a good life.

9. I am in charge of my pain and understand the needs of my body.

10. Happiness is the music of my body.

11. I am filled with positive energy.

12. I am accepting and know how to take care of myself.

13. I have opened my heart to love again.

14. Love is my priority, not hate.

15. No matter how hard life gets, I’m going to still prosper.

16. My choice is to happy.

17. I breathe in peaceful energy, I breathe out unwanted energy.

18. I voice my truth.

19. I voice my intuitions.

20. I have a purpose, so I need to fulfill it.

21. I was created to be uniquely and I see it every day.

22. I love everything who made me who I am today.

23. My soul is cheerful.

24. I am gifted to heal others.

25. I am gifted with the universes love, strength, & wholeness.

Simple Facts

In this world of pain, stress, and tensions the power of healing is unmatched. We as humans deal with so much on our universe. We encounter situations when our emotions, anxiety, & curiosity fill our minds. To receive that inner peace through those challenges, using healing statements is definitely the main importance that can help. Utilizing these affirmations to pin point our self conscious minds, is to act on by experiencing the peace that we need in our lives.

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How to practice mindful productivity

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“You can do so much at once, but focusing on multiple things at once will not be effective.”

-Seqouia

I’m sure you have lost focus on doing more than one task at once to the point where you find yourself not getting much done as you expected. Especially for those who are easily distracted.

Practicing mindful productivity means challenging your own self-knowledge to find the best out yourself.

To be mindfully productive means to focus on one task, and focusing on one task makes things less complicated. It’s times we be all over the place, so pace yourself and focus on just one. And remember this is just a simple practice so you will not change over night!

So let’s make a habit of practicing mindful productivity, here’s a few things you can do:

•Listen to yourself

Stick with your intuition and take a break if you need one.$!

•Take baby steps

Don’t beat yourself down because you aren’t getting done in a timely manner. Your not perfect, no one is. Trying to become a perfectionist is going to interfere your productivity.

•Work accordingly

Timing is definitely everything. Work at your natural rhythm and go with the flow.

•Establish priorities

Have a list that contains all tasks in one.

•Write a to-do-list

Break it down and be specific so you can be able to analyze your task.

•Quit multitasking

Slow your roll, and stop doing more than one thing at once.

Let’s start living in the moment try to intentionally bring discerning attention to everything you create & do. Treat yourself & accept who you are! All these things I listed does help with mindful productivity. It’s all about positive energy and knowing what’s best for you.

Hope this helps 💛…

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PSA:

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on moving forward. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took their time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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Forgive yourself then Free yourself

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Extremely thrilled to write about this topic. I know a lot of people including myself has or had a dark cloud over their shoulder because of something they fault themselves about. Especially when it’s something we have control of. What we don’t realize is that, it’s just a feeling though. A feeling that’s only temporary. Feelings can’t kill you, but running from them can.

We as humans visualize how things can be so much better then what we are currently going through, but not realizing how much power we have to make our visions come true. But when we doubt ourselves, we are lacking and not pushing towards prosperity. Anybody can prosper, it’s simple. But the mind is powerful and you have to compete with yourself, challenge yourself, and to become a better version of you. Our life is a balance and you just have to learn how to maintain it. Holding on to pain just makes you suffer.

Three words:

  • Free
  • Open
  • Balance

Once you forgive yourself. It’s time to free yourself. You can free yourself from anything that can hold you back. Like for me, I am freeing myself from negative energy, negative people, negative thoughts, disappointments, toxic locations, toxic people, lack of growth, and the list goes on. But what most people don’t realize is that we have more freedom then we think. You have to just open up your mind to new things, it’s always good to venture out.

Try writing down what bothers you, and writing down ways you fixed or ways you can fix those problems. Write down why you haven’t forgiven yourself, then write down how you forgiven yourself. This will give you clarity an will help you open up your mind to finding new ways to cope with what’s bothering you.

I always make sure I encourage people to write ✍️ whom reads my articles because writing definitely does help a lot. Especially if you don’t want to go to a psychiatrist or vent to anyone. Writing is a peace of mind. You can come to a conclusion with a lot of situations in your life.

I really hope this blog helps someone out there with clarity or at least given someone a different outlook on how to move forward in life. Remember forgive yourself, and free yourself!

PSA:

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on moving forward. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took their time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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Decluttering tips: 30 Items to Get Rid Of Today

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Hey friends,

Are you trying to figure out “How do I start decluttering?” or “How do you get rid of clutter at home?”. Don’t worry, I have written 30 things you can throw away today so you can start to declutter right away or when you have time!

If the items you are throwing away are still in good condition where it can be reused, you can actually sell them to make some extra money, or donate them. I use an app called Depop to sell my clothing, shoes, & cosmetics, and I use offer up to sell any reusable devices and other little things!

1. Expired food

2. Expired spices

3. Old chipped up coffee mugs

4. Stained & ripped up towels/wash clothes

5. Old & used up pots and pans

6. Old coupons

7. Old receipts

8. Old cosmetics

9. Old tooth brushes/tooth paste

10. Mitch match socks

11. Old and too small underwear

12. Stained and worn out clothes

13. Used/old gift cards

14. Used candles

15. Unfinished projects

16. Writing utensils that don’t work

17. Dead batteries

18. Damaged items that aren’t fixable

19. Broken phone charges

20. Old phones that aren’t fixable

21. Any empty containers in your fridge

22. CDs that no longer work

23. Books you are more than likely never reading again

24. Old brooms and old mops

25. Stained and worn out sheets + covers

26. Expired medicines

27. Clothes you no longer can fit anymore

28. Irrelevant mail you don’t need anymore

29. Old remotes to tv’s you no longer even have

30. Old house phones you no longer use

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Back from my mental break

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Hello 😊.

So guess what? 👏🏾 I’m back, and I’m better.

This has been the most stressful, depressing, and confusing year. From going through this pandemic, family death, not employed, slow running business, relationship issues, money issues, and I can go on and on.

So I decided to take a break for a while to get my mental together. I went through a bad depression, and sometimes I still feel like I’m in a dark place. But I feel 85% better than I did. Sometimes I lack of self control and react in a way where I just give up on hope. To prosper I have to let go and move past any negative that’s going on in my life. And I finally did that. So now I’m here today writing this to open up spiritually & mentally so my readers and supporters can either relate or understand the process of dealing with depression and how it’s okay to take a break away from everything.

Self care is the best appreciation you can ever give to yourself. Focus on what makes you happy and what can you do to keep it that way. ✨

This article wasn’t created to be long, I just wanted to let you all know that I’m back and what’s been going on with me.

Anyways, stay tuned to the next blog & podcast.

Stay free, open, & balanced…. 🧘‍♀️ 🔮 ☪️

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20 Things to do during quarantine

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Living during a pandemic, Is definitely terrifying. We are going through a horrific time. During this pandemic it kind of remind me of the movies we watch or the theory stories people talk about. Now we find ourselves stuck in the house due to a state of emergency. Which means we are stuck on quarantine until further notice. So what can we do while being homebodies now? I wrote a list of 20 things you can do while during with quarantine. 

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  1. SPRING CLEANING
  2. LEARN SOME NEW SKILLS
  3. USE YOUR CREATIVE SKILLS OR FIND A NEW ONE
  4. CREATE A BUSINESS PLAN (SIDE HUSTLE)
  5. START A DAILY EXERCISE SCHEDULE
  6. MEDITATE
  7. CREATE A HEALTHY EATING PLAN AND BUILD YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM
  8. SELF-CARE
  9. HAVE A IN DOOR PICNIC
  10. FIND A GAME ON YOUR PHONE TO PLAY
  11. LISTEN TO A PODCAST DAILY
  12. GO LIVE (FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM, PERISCOPE, LIVEME)
  13. START A NOVEL
  14. FACETIME A CLOSE ONE
  15. WRITE IN YOUR JOURNAL DAILY
  16. FIND A MOVIE NETWORK (NETFLIX, DISNEY, TUBITV “FREE”, AMAZON PRIME, HULU, IMDB)
  17. JOIN OR START A BOOK CLUB
  18. CHECK OUT NEW RECIPES
  19. LEARN HOW TO KNIT
  20. LEARN A NEW LANGUAGE

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Coronavirus crisis meets Anxiety: How to cope?

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I am most definitely not going to lie, the Coronavirus has been raising my anxiety levels the last few days.

But hey, theirs nothing we can do to control it, but we can definitely help from spreading it.

I won’t all my readers and everyone else out there to be safe and please take all of the advises precautions. Take extremely care of yourself during this worldwide crisis.

I truly know that like myself, and others that struggle with anxiety, the news got me feeling even more ANXIOUS day by day. The reason why I say this is because this virus is spreading and it isn’t really any progress.

Of course I know this article might not help 100%, but in the meantime here are some affirmations to help your anxiety and also help with coping!

•I am capable of solving any problems that face me.

•Stress might make me feel weary, but I am in charge of my mind and body.

•I will be OK.

•At this moment, I choose to feel calm and peaceful.

•I choose to fill my mind with positive and healing thoughts.

•Worry doesn’t do me any justice, I just choose to leave it behind.

•If I can’t control it, I let it go.

•I am attracting positive energy into my body.

•I am safe and in control.

•I am capable of solving any problems that face me.

•I am strong I am alive.

•Anything that weighs me down, I am free of it.

•I am safe, I am in control, I am dominant.

•My body is capable.

•Their is nothing to be fear about, because faith will always rely in my soul.

Please stay safe and follow all of the advisories, watch the news, check on friends & family by phone, and I hope you are able to find some relief from worry, fear, stress, & anxiety soon.

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on getting better. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took there time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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Three techniques to slay your Anxiety

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I suffered from anxiety for years, starting at the age of 18. The Panic attacks and anxiety started at the age of 22, and it definitely took over my life and I found myself avoiding any situation I thought could induce my anxiety. 

The thing with anxiety the more you ignore it, the more it will come hunt you. Sucks right?…  But wait, the more it hunts you, the more difficult it gets.

Sometimes just getting yourself together, like your appearance can change so much in your daily life. Don’t be a debby downer so much and find love within yourself. When we are stressed we get to the point where we just let ourselves go, and all that do is add more to the plate. You definitely want that plate to be empty with no worries. 

In otherwise, SLAY THAT ANXIETY!…

#1 GET IN TUNED WITH YOURSELF

Think about all the good things you notice about yourself. Write it on a sticky note, journal, notes, hell wherever! Find yourself and figure out your happiness. The point where i’m getting to is that in order to be happy you have to make yourself happy. When you make yourself happy then what? you are in tuned with yourself. Can’t nobody tell you nothing different. AT ALL!….

 

#2 REDIRECT YOUR THOUGHTS

\When you notice you are starting to have negative thoughts then redirect your thoughts to something positive. Before i have an upcoming test, or job interview, I would always be negative. “I doubt i’ll pass” “I can’t do this” “I don’t think they will hire me”. Guess what happened when i had those thoughts? I FAILED! I had to start training my mind to turn a negative back to positive , and i still work on this til this day now. 

 

#3 BE MORE WORRYLESS

We have to get out of that “worry” mode. Sometimes when you worry too much it actually triggers you to have anxiety attacks. We apply so much pressure on ourselves and we don’t have to. Live in the moment and be fearless. When you start to worry, find a good solution that can help prevent that. Remember it’s all in the head. Your mind will play tricks on you, especially for those who minds wander 24/7. So you have to play tricks back by winning over anything that’s stopping you from letting go of your worries. If you can’t make it to your close friend party on time? Hey! it’s not your fault. You still haven’t passed that test quite yet? Keep trying. Your close someone is treating you like crap and you don’t know why?! Who cares, let it go!. Stop worrying about situations or people who isn’t making your life no better good or bad.

 

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on getting better. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took there time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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13 steps to protect your vibe

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No matter what i go through i try my best to protect my vibe. I have gotten out of character so many times, and allowed so many people to get me that way as well. Spiritually & mentally, I have gotten far not reacting to certain things in a way i shouldn’t have. I still have my days i will be honest, but man i can tell you i’m way more undisturbed by things & people. For the most part, protecting my vibe and keeping positive when it comes to numerous situations has been at the top of my must do list. Here is 13 steps to protect your vibe i hope it helps :).

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  1. Don’t do anything that you don’t feel comfortable doing
  2. Try to avoid gossip at some point in life (It’s hard, but trying will not hurt)
  3. Speak kindly about yourself more often
  4. Compliment someone, even if it’s a random person
  5. Please yourself before pleasing anyone else
  6. Avoid taking advice from others who life isn’t fully on track
  7. Stay away from negative people
  8. Be more fearless & keep faith 
  9. Don’t be afraid of being alone
  10. Stay away from people who drain your energy
  11. Avoid comparing yourself to others
  12. Let go of things you can’t control
  13. Keep your goals & plans private

 

 

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