Focusing on you, and looking for different ways to change your mindset isn’t complicated. We make our own choices, and have our own way of thinking. But sometimes the hard part is figuring out different reasons on why we have the mindset we have today and what can we do to fix that. That was me. I literally thought changing the way i think was going to be super easy, but it wasn’t. But the reason why it wasn’t easy is because i allowed it to be hard. I didn’t try hard enough, I didn’t do my research, I didn’t try to work on the most important issue i have within myself neither. So, once i realized it wasn’t working i stopped moving so fast and took my time out to figure out what was the real issue. Here is steps i did myself to help change my negative mindset.
1. WHERE ARE MY FEELINGS COMING FROM?
This is the first thing you should be asking yourself; where are my feelings of negativity coming from?
Am I going through something?
Are there any changes going on in my life?
Am I keeping up with my health?
Am I taking care of myself?
It’s important to understand why you’re feeling the way you do. Sometimes, it does seem like these waves of negative emotions come out of nowhere, but there’s almost always a reason. It’s not always something that’s obvious; you might have to dig a little to find out what it really is.
More often than not, that uninvited negativity comes from a place of fear. Ask yourself: am I bringing my past fears into the present and future?
Fear can manifest itself in many different ways.
2. WHAT CAN I DO TO FIX THE WAY I AM FEELING
There is a lot of things you can do to change the way you are feeling. At times i really was confused, and didn’t really know why i had the feelings i was having. First thing first, you have to work on all the self-doubts. Having self-doubts is actually negative thinking. You have to have hope, you have to believe in yourself and know your worth. These are the things i do to fix all my feelings.
- Write out the way i’m currently feeling (Journaling)
- Meditate for 20 mins
- Take 20 min brief walks
- Practice mindfulness
- Focus on trusting in myself
Those are the things i do to fix the way i am feeling. It works for me, especially writing. Writing helps relieve my pain, and release all the thoughts i currently had.
3. MOVING FORWARD
Move forward. Don’t take steps backs. Don’t let nothing hold you back from changing your life around. Sometimes you have to leave everything behind you and just find your way from there. Remember everything isn’t always permanent, sometimes somethings are only temporarily.
4. STAY CONNECTED WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
Stay connected with positive people. I don’t about you, but i have no problem connecting with people that is uplifting, motivating, and inspiring. Sometimes when you are having a bad day, it’s good calling someone that will listen to you without no judging. Making an effort to stay connected to a few people or just to a couple, can give you the support you need to feel some temporary relief from negativity.
I just honestly feel when you are trying to change your life around, you have to be dedicated. Thinking negative and always focusing on the negative will not help you be positive at all.
You don’t want a negative mindset anymore? Change it! Just go for it. Life isn’t easy, and of course you can’t change over night, but sticking to your plan and knowing that you want to move forward, then do so. Can’t no one stop you from focusing on being a better & wiser you.