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Dig deep into learning tips on how to cope with anxiety, depression, and learning my history on dealing with it.

6 ways to overcome my fear

Fear is something that will hold you back from a lot. But all of us have experienced fear at some point in our lives, & sadly to say it’s people that still do today. Fear can you stop you from leveling up, growth, and being successful.

Do not let fear hold you back forever. Because there are several ways to overcome fear, here are my top 6:

1. Speak positivity to your inner-self: It takes little of nothing to speak positive things on a regular. Turn your cheerful moments into a normal thing for you. Remind yourself everyday that you are worthy.

2. Be confident: Confidence plays a big part in us conquering our fears. Confidence will get you that job! Confidence will get you that business! Make sure you read my other blog about confidence ⤵️:


3. Practice journaling your thoughts: I always encourage people to write in a journal, because journaling about your problems or whatever is bothering you really can help shift the mind into more on the positive side and can lead to you overcoming your fears. Also, writing relieve whatever you had bottled up inside. Now you’re feeling signs of relief.

4. Don’t try to be perfect: Most people try to perfect things or be in competition and that isn’t needed. Definitely doesn’t make anything better because in life we are going to make mistakes, I had to plant that in my head. Because at a point of time, this was my mentality. But after a while I had to understand that taking my time & paying attention will get me way further.

5. Stop living in the past & live in reality: I can admit I definitely was a victim of living in the past. It use to be so hard to let things go that you wouldn’t even agree to today. We have a slick way of using our past as an excuse for everything. And at this big age, we should know more than better. Don’t let what happened in the past out fear in you to not want to love forward and deal with reality.

6. Identify it: You have to be honest with yourself every time you’re afraid. If you don’t admit to your fears, look for the points in your life where you’re afraid, and see them as opportunities to learn to deal with fear. And see how things get more easier for you.

Please keep that in mind that these are just my experiences from the past. I’m not sure if these will help in any kind of way, which I hope it should. But this is a place to start. And here on & out don’t let fear hold you back from reaching your goals and your becoming you highest self this year!

Xoxoxo –SeqouiaB🤎

Signs someone is good for your mental health

It’s nothing like having like minded & positive people around you. Being surrounded by people with negative energy really can reflect on a lot of things in your life and not good for your mental health. Remember the saying watch the company that you keep? Well keep that in mind because you will be surprise on how many secretly evil people it is around you.

Here are some signs when you know someone is good for your mental health:

The understanding truth of artist Cy Twombly

I decided to write ✍️ a blog about Cy Twombly because i was working at an art gallery, and his paintings were present. Remind you, i absolutely love art. So, if you didn’t know Cy Twombly is known for his signature scribbles, spontaneous & bold canvases.

So when i first seen his paintings, of course i said probably what so many others said. My kid could’ve drew or painted that.

But it wasn’t no need to compare this man art to children. Cy Twombly paintings were like poetry to our eyes without writing. He has hidden messages of different emotions, giving light & dark energy. Cy Twombly is an master piece because his paintings are unique & definitely wasn’t common. He proved that you don’t have to perfect your paintings & to just be free. Looking at his paintings at https://gagosian.com Art Gallery, really was a eye opener to show me that being creative can be in so many different ways.

Thank you Cy Twombly for inspiring me to paint 🎨, & to put my imagination + creativity to work.

I’m going to leave this here, but if you want to learn more about this great artist please look him up. ➡️ Cy Tombly

Check out more of his art 😊⤵️:

When i was giving up, something stopped me……

Hey everyone one. Let me reintroduced myself. My name is Seqouia. I am a mother of 1 to a beautiful girl. I’ve been blogging for about 4 years, and still going to continue my journey doing what i love. Blogging has been such a peaceful & healing help for my aura. I first started this blog when i was going through a mental health crisis. I use to write in a diary because it use to help me cope with my problems. But one night i was up late, and i came across a young woman who started a blog specifically because of the same reasoning of why i did. It inspired me. So i did my research on blogging and seen that it’s so many other people who blogs about there lifestyle and share their stories all the time. I finally realize that i was never alone with my paranoia & anxiety that i was dealing with. I then started learning the concept of blogging, & what are the tools i needed to learn so i can become successful at it. I learned the tools, but didn’t really push myself like i should’ve. I watched so many videos, been up long nights listening to podcast, taking down notes etc. I began too lose patience. I began to lose hope in my creativity. I began to just give up on all the hard work i’ve done to even write a blog. I didn’t feel like i was going to ever get more then 20 likes, or comments, or any kind of attention too my blog. And it bothered me so much. So then i started to wonder that the things i’ve written may can bore people or just simply not be good enough. I just couldn’t pin 📌 point it because I knew in my heart, I was good at what i do. & The things i written bout was definitely motivating, knowledgeable, & lastly uplifting. I had to realize that putting myself down will not do anything to help me get my blog the attention it deserves.

So let’s fast forward. At first, I had made a decision to just give up on blogging. But something stopped me. I got this feeling that i shouldn’t give up, & that i should continue my journey because i have a chance on building my blog & finally getting the attention it deserves. So i kept it. And of course i haven’t been as consistent with my blog, but for someone who doesn’t really get the attention on here i still decided to keep pushing myself.

The moral of the story is, don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t lose yourself by putting your own self down because things aren’t going the way you want it to right then & there. We are all creative humans, that have so many chances & nothing but time in our life to shine. Keep patient. be positive. Believe in your positivity. Don’t lose hope. Because i’m not!

If your seeing this, I really would like if you would support me by liking this blog ❤️. It’s very much appreciated.


Never say you can’t, you can!

You can and you will. Never say you can’t, never give up on doing what you want. Manifest those thoughts & turn them into reality. Yes, with the world we live in today because of the negative environment we have around us or in our ear it can definitely be challenging. But your not suppose to see nobody but you. No matter how selfish it sounds, no matter how difficult things can get, you are in control. Find what makes you, you. Find that creative side that will balance out all the struggles you have encountered on your way to the top. You really can do this, you really can be whoever you want. Never forget that. Never lose hope. If no one has your side, look in the mirror and see who does….


Happy Saturday: Life can go from good to bad but we are the ones who are in control

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It’s completely insane how you can go from being so happy and everything you have in motion is going good, then boom! You lose it all. Once you lose it all you began to lose your train of thought, your strength, & your ability to continue your daily routine.

Life is very tricky but we are the ones who control our minds, bodies, finances, health etc. So these problems have to be figured out on our own. We put ourselves in situations because we are human and things happen.

But I always say if we don’t have any hiccups in our lives, how will we learn? How will be able to survive when we are under pressure?

To be brutally honest. A life lesson is always a good thing. No one is perfect. We fail, we have flaws, everyone not just you, not just me. Everyone…..

Mental health is very much real, and definitely overwhelming. When you feel like you are losing more than winning or just your life is going in complete shambles. Let’s normalize in taking a break or time off, even if it’s just a week. We feed our minds & bodies with good or bad energies, so if you do not want to overly stress or just even give up on whatever you worked hard for, DON’T! find peace and put that good energy back in your aura. Be thankful of how far you already came no matter your circumstances.

You will win when you believe in yourself to. No one can’t hold your hand but yourself. Trust yourself, trust your heart, trust your mind, body, & soul.

See you on the next blog!

XoXo SeqouiaB

#blogging #positivevibes

Mental health is real

Mental health is real. I really wish people would take it more serious and stop trying to brush it up under the rug. Instead of acknowledging mental health “awareness” one month out of the year, normalize acknowledging mental health all year long. It’s people out here who are suffering everyday without saying a word :(. And it’s always people out there who are crying for help. Don’t ignore them signs. Check on your people.

Mental health will have your mind playing tricks on you but when you surround yourself around people who put you at ease I promise it’s distracting. And if your not a people person find something that brings you joy, or that makes you feel safe.

I use to let mental health take a toll of me until I couldn’t take it anymore. Also being a mother plays a big part of my thinking process as well. I had to think for her, I had to focus on being a happy mother for her. Our kids feed off our energy especially if they are much younger. Kids don’t like seeing their parents hurt and it’s up to us as parents to never fail them 💯.

Anyways, you got this. Everything will fall into place and better days will come!

XoXo Seqouia


Protect your mental, protect your peace.

When you see yourself as the highest, most powerful version of yourself, you start to attract people that match that. Your standards has been applied, and now you are ready to flourish & glow naturally. It’s nothing like waking up with a positive mindset ready to put smiles on other people faces. It’s nothing going home to relax and feeling relieved and good before laying in bed. But the reason why you feeling so at eased and safe is because you don’t feed your soul off drama & bad energy. Because it’s a lot of times we have slipped on and let that one person interrupt our peace of mind.

Mental health is real, and we are really facing reality now. Like it’s no more games to play anymore. Everything is really happening in our world and sometimes a little too much can become so overwhelming. That’s why protecting peace & mental is very important now days.

I hope this blog open up someone eyes to turn a new leaf over and protect themselves at all cost!

XoXo SeqouiaB


It’s okay to do good things for people

Never give your all to someone who isn’t returning the same energy.

Now days, people with good hearts like myself never realize right then in there when people intentions are bad. And it really sucks because when you have a good heart your goal is to just make people genuinely happy. I know at least myself I love to see people smile & laugh, that’s my love language. But sometimes that’s just not good enough for a lot of people. Even when I try not to give in, and say I’m not doing certain things no more, unfortunately I still do it.. annoying right? 🙄..

But I had to finally come to a realization that having a good heart is a good thing. Never change your ways because someone doesn’t appreciate you or don’t show it at least. We will run into so many people who’s only around temporarily, and if blessing them with your passionate aura is something you want to do, it’s fine. Be okay with that. It’s always their bad, not yours. Because who wouldn’t want to have someone by there side who’s giving, who compliments you, who supports you, who has your back? And I can go on…

What I can say is that I did learn how to start opening my eyes and watching the company I keep so I can protect my energy. I check peoples temperature, I test them out, I don’t do much for them so willingly like I normally would just to see if their intentions are bad. Sometimes it’s all about vibes and energy pay attention to them!

XoXo Seqouia


3 Ways I calm my anxiety

If you personally know me, or have read my blogs in the past. Then you definitely know my history of having anxiety. First I was very discreet when it came to having anxiety. Why? I have no clue! But once I noticed that suffering from anxiety was basically the new “norm” because it’s so many others who suffer from it to. I became more comfortable with sharing my issues. I also had to realize that stress plays a big part of anxiety. Learning to identify what anxiety actually is, was very helpful for me.

Here are some things I love to do to help ease my mind or return to a sense of calm:

1. The most important thing to do when I am having a bad day or just feeling anxiety is to literally say in my mind or to silently to myself “This is totally normal. It is absolutely fine for me to be feeling this way or having these feelings. I just need to be light on myself today.” It is normal for emotions to flow naturally and embracing this makes you feel so good. Allowing yourself to feel it all and having empathy for yourself will get you through…

2. When I wake up and can tell right away that I am feeling anxious I will usually rearrange my day to be a tad bit more slow paced then usual. If I have anything important to do I try rescheduling for another day. Usually when I put everything on pause it instantly makes me feel more calm. And me being this way when it comes to not being able to make it somewhere due to personal issues makes me more understanding when someone has to cancel plans or reschedule on me, especially knowing it might make their day feel a lot easier.

3. Doing my hobbies before bed has been amazing and relaxing for my mind. I’m an big over thinker and at night my mind races with situations I’ve been through or wondering what others are thinking. Getting all cozy, making my kid’s snacks, reading a book, listening to a relaxing podcast, bullet journal, looking up business ideas, anything! It is so mindless and I have been able to have such fulfilling nights which leads to better sleep for me.

These are the three things that keeps me calm when my anxiety is kicking in…. What keeps you calm? Let me know I would love to hear yours!

See you soon on the next blog

XoXo The Fobem 🍃

Change your mindset, and you will win

All my life I have always been an over thinker. I also even jumped into the negative side as well at some point in my life. I didn’t really have faith or believe in myself like I should’ve. Which makes a lot of since why today I go hard for myself more than anyone. I never used my past on the reason why I can’t make changes, and for that particular reason, I believe that’s the whole point of why I am now so strong. Building confidence takes time when you never really had it, so I always paced myself and knew that some day I will get there and be just as confident and brave like others. Especially being a person whom always fed into negativity.

So my message to whoever that is reading this. I want you to know, no matter what you go through in life, you will get through it. Some people battles might be a little more challenging but you can still get through it. It all starts off with the mind first. Remember our minds control everything about us, we think about everything before we even do it.

Everyday you wake up, you should be thinking positive. When you go to sleep you should be thinking positive. Any company around you, should be positive. You should make sure your aura at all times is at peace. Peace plays a big part as well in our daily lives. As long as you know who you are, and what you need to work on as a person, a mom, a father, a friend, a lover, that’s what matters. You acknowledging your flaws and knowing that it’s things you will work on to become a better version of yourself.

You got this.. You will win… You will be happier.. You will be stronger… You will be dedicated…

Don’t be afraid of change, because change is definitely not afraid of you. As humans we are designed to go through things and to figure ourselves out. Sometimes we have to find ourselves the hard way and it’s totally ok. Be patient and protect your mind, body, & soul, while you are transitioning to a new person, with new goals, and new manifestations.

1. Restart

2. Refresh

3. Renew

Once again. YOU GOT THIS!!!

Thanks all, have a good day/night from my side of earth!




Sometimes relationships can take a toll on you. Trust me i know. It has with me, and when i say it has broke me down to the point where ill cry everyday of the week, every night before bed, and it drove me to numerous headaches. So i definitely can relate to a lot of women out there who is suffering or suffered from heart break. And of course there will be people telling you “It’s going to be okay, don’t cry” “Forget him” “You deserve better”. Sometimes we don’t take there advice right away because we don’t feel it’s enough.

I remember i use to always say i’m done, and will wake up feeling so different and relieved, but deep down it’s this little piece of me that some how kept me thinking of him. That’s when i knew i wasn’t officially over him. And it’s a feeling that was there for so long that i didn’t even know how to get rid of it. That’s the most fucked up feeling ever!

When i realized that nothing wasn’t enough, I knew right then and there that i had to figure out how to get out, like “literally” “GET THE HELL OUT!”….

I’m sure there is a lot of other women out there that has these same feelings as me or had them. But what’s so cold is that, women now days don’t uplift or support one another any more. So many women are in competition and always want to tease other women for getting played or hurt. WHY?!…. I can’t even answer that but if you have the answer to it please let me know!

Honestly i can admit, that a lot of women in my generation is becoming more and more weak. It sounds mean, but i am just being honest. Women are selling their body, talking down on themselves, not knowing their worth, giving up on their careers, cutting off there friends & families, and doing so much all for MEN!. Now i am not speaking for every woman, but it is a lot of women that are doing this. It breaks my heart because men take advantage of this and sometimes we don’t see it because we are blinded by love, and that’s not even really love. We think we are in love, but we are really just trapped at the moment and can’t find our way out because we can’t see ourselves without them or don’t want no one else to have them. The world is pretty fucked! and everyday it is becoming worse.

But something has to be done. Women need to fight for there strength. It’s time to strive more harder to be stronger and to never experience the feeling of pain again. Yea… it sounds typical, and definitely sounds too good to be true. But how much longer are we going to continue to let men put us through heart break? How much longer will we continue to let men take our woman hood away, and our pride?

Some women like myself always thought revenge was the best route, and hurting them back. I realize that’s not worth it. You can make them hurt more in so many other ways then being cruel & revengeful.

Here are 6 tips that may can help you with beating heartbreak:

#1 FIND THE PROBLEM (Write it down)

Figure out why exactly you can’t get over that person. What is holding you back? Why do you feel you can’t let go? Write down these questions down and answer them. That will kind of get you an outlook on everything.


Write the good, and the bad. If their are more cons, then you should know what needs to be done. Every time the bad outweigh the good then it’s NO GOOD! That’s already a red light that your relationship is pretty much done.


When you kill someone off with silence, that get to them more than anything. Sometimes you have to ignore your way out of the problem because once it’s already toxic, it is unrepairable. I’m not saying that some toxic relationships don’t change, but the ones that don’t change can not be FIXED! And a lot of people fail to realize that. You want to show someone better than you can tell them after all the months/years you been crying for there help, love, and sorrow? Go straight mute on that ass! 


Find what makes you happy. Sometimes you don’t realize what brings happiness to your life anymore because you focus more on making your significant other who isn’t making you happy at all. Experience new things, try things you have always wanted to do but haven’t. Stop holding back and see what’s out there besides an relationship that can fulfill your needs.


Therapy can possibly help. Sometimes you need someone to dig deep through the mind and can really tell you your problem. It’s a therapist job to heal your mind & soul, and help you look at life differently. I have tried therapy before, and i wish i never stopped. Definitely on my list to start back going again. I can tell you i am a lot more stronger now then i was in the past. So yes, it can help you.

#6 ONE LAST LETTER (Release all the pain)

This is another way i feel that is really helpful. You don’t want to physically talk to that person because if you do, either they will ignore you or cut you off? Well write they ass a letter! Sometimes writing can really ease the pain because you don’t have to worry about talking to that person and feel like your talking to casper. Men have away of making women feel (DUMB), and that get to us badly. What i mean is, men will ignore you, put on there earphones while you are talking to them, walk away, and so much other rude shit! So some way some how they have to see how you feel right? That’s why i said write it out, seal it up, and either mail it to them, or drop it off them. When your done writing your letter, go to a quiet place, and let it out! Cry, scream, shout, and just release all the negative & bad energy out your body/soul. Let that be your last!