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How i grew to accept my problems and moved on

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Growing up figuring yourself out is amazing. I always told people i may have grew up with a parent that made sure our house hold was good and i was well took care of, but that can never change how you deeply feel inside within yourself. You can grow up rich and still be depressed, suffer from anxiety, emotional, ungrateful, rude, and i can go on. It feels good to be able to just open up freely and live in my truth now. I have no problem admitting to my flaws and sharing my past feelings from then and now…

A lot of people are Furious. Furious is something a lot of people will not admit to. There extremely angry, intense, and once you make them made they will began to start raging and going on rants. I know. That was me before. But see a lot of people wont admit to it because the world we live in, some people feel like they have to prove a point or be something there not. Some people have self-love issues but they lie to themselves and say they don’t because they are in denial.

It have been a time in life when i use to hide my true self. I didn’t want anyone to know me or even know how i truly felt. I never showed no signs of insecurities, no signs of depression. I have always been laid back and kept everything bottled in. Although i have been all what i listed, I do know that showing it would have made me look weak. And honestly when you show your weak side that’s how people take advantage of you.

I take being strong or at least showing my strong side very lightly. My last name is BATTLE, so it’s in my nature. My last name represents me as well, I have always been the type of girl/woman that will put up a fight and not give up. My mindset has always been to win no matter how I felt within myself. There is way too many cruel people and bullies in our world so I would always stand tall, and stood my grounds with no hesitation.

Life isn’t easy at all, sometimes we have to experience certain situations in life and use it as a lesson learned, or a reason why you are strong today. I been through the worst, I been judged, talked about, treated badly, and I can add more to the list. But my message with this article is to let you all know that it’s okay to live in your truth and to find yourself. Focus on what you need to change & fix it. First you have to figure out how can you go about fixing your problem first. Then from there everything will fall through. You can do it if i can!

 

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Three ways how to rock your goals the rest of 2019

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Every year will brings changes, challenges, opportunities, growth. But sometimes, some of us get discouraged and lose out. It was a time in my life where i felt that i will never succeed, and although i might not have told no one how i felt, it use to stop me from achieving my goals. But, eventually you will grow out of that stage and not let that stop you from creating your future. That’s what i did. I got tired of always talking down on myself and not understanding “life”, because when you don’t have a understanding on what’s going on you will never move on.

1. WHAT IS IT THAT’S HOLDING YOU BACK?

No really, what is holding you back? Figure out what’s holding you back and what’s stopping you from moving forward. You can’t achieve anything still dwelling on the past or what’s currently bothering you. Figure out how to let anything negative or stressful in your life. The problem is that “we live in the past” and of course we refuse to move on. We hold on to the past constantly, and fail to take responsibility for our own lives. But, truth be told we are “all messed up in a way”. Everything can’t be picture perfect and everything can’t go how you want it to be, but how can we succeed without putting in no effort?

We should not let our past stop us from creating the future we always dreamed to have. There are many things you might find yourself feeling guilty about but that don’t mean you feel sorry for yourself, just keep going. The past is the past, and your future starts now.

 

 

2. NO MORE EXCUSES

One thing i can say is that everyone including myself have made excuses. We have to stop feeling sorry for ourselves and also stop trying to figure out why is certain things aren’t going the way we want it to. The only way you will deal with circumstances is if you allow your present to enter into your future, for an example you might not have enough (money, help, or no resources), but you can’t let that be the defining problem. Everything you believe yourself to be is a whole combo of what you’ve been through, things like the way you grew up in your home, or what your family taught you. The way people have treated you, or the things you experienced around you while growing up.

Truth be told, you are strong, because you made it here today. No matter how unfair you feel how your life has been, it was the past. Don’t let how far you have come today stop you from going to where you want to be now. Throw those excuses in the trash, let go of the negative thoughts and chase after what you want, even if you have to take baby steps. If you think about it that is how you are preparing for your future. Small changes can make a big difference. I always been taught to discipline myself. Why? Because discipline is strict. That means you are focused, and you aren’t letting nothing or no body get in the way. It’s all about making a change in your day to day habits & choices. The willingness in changing your old habits to new & better ones is by being consistent.

3. FORGIVING YOURSELF

One problem i had growing up was that i never forgave myself & certain people. I had it bad holding grudges, and not letting go. First off, you have to forgive yourself first. And i did so. You can’t live in the past, because if you do, then you will never accomplish anything. We have to start practicing on self-care, and loving ourselves more, because once you love yourself that means nothing in the past will never even exist in your future. We are unwilling to forgive ourselves, but why? Because we get or get put in certain situations and hate ourselves for it. Sometimes just being human we think everything suppose to be perfect, but everything can’t be picture perfect, and sometimes being a perfectionist will not allow us to understand how it feels to grow from certain situations. For an example, say if 4 years ago you never got lucky with a job because you were being picky so now you beat ourselves up about it, hit rock bottom, and lost all you had, then today you have a $20/hr job, got everything you always wanted, and live in a condo. That feeling of success feels amazing! You can’t keep putting yourself down because the choices you make or made, you have to move on from it, look past it, and keep going.

 

LET ME TELL YOU THIS: YOU WILL FAIL “At some point”

But, you will fail to get up and try again, and again until you make it to your destination in life. Sometimes we are wiser than we think, it’s just sometimes we just lose hope, but starting today DON’T. You have the ability to make your own choices, and to erase any thoughts you are having by forgiving yourself and not letting your past affect you in today’s life.

 

 

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7 HABITS THAT WILL THROW OFF YOUR PRODUCTIVITY

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So many distractions, so many plans… so many goals to complete… in not much time!

I’m sorry but doesn’t it seem like every time you try to focus on getting things done, you begin to feel less unproductive. Try creating a schedule or a to do list. I am more of a scheduler type of girl, and i swear to you that i spend more of my time writing it out then actually doing what i planned to do. Or i end up doing something else important that i instantly get distracted and next thing you know it i am on my phone doing something totally different like browsing the internet looking at shoes & clothes.

The main point is that productivity has always been something you have to level up in, and a work-in-progress, it’s an life experience we all go through. Things happen, things  change, but we have to work around all that stress to stay productive. #1 FACT: Trashing all habits that kill your productivity.

 

 

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1. TECHNOLOGY DISTRACTION

Of course you would think it’s meant to make our lives more productive and more simple, but for the most part, it is the total opposite. Consistently checking your email, checking your social media before & after a nap, every time your phone notification goes off you pick up your phone fast, or when someone is talking to you but your face in stuck in your phone and not the conversation. That is a distraction, a major one. Those are some things that will kill off your productivity and any digital advice is definitely the blame. Digital devices distractions breaks the flow of your productivity. Your brain has to focus on what is important, or else you will lose out on a lot more thank you think.

 

2. LACK OF SLEEP 

Do you have times when you feel like there isn’t enough hours in the day? Yup definitely. There always seems to be something else you planned on getting done before night time gets here. Some days we even stay up almost until the next day or just go to sleep extremely late just to do something else. Other times we have a hard time shutting our eyes the first couple hours because now our mind just want let us with all the anxious thoughts we are having. Thinking about all the task we didn’t do but we could have did. So we tell our selves, “Okay we will do it tomorrow”, but then we think about how tired we will be because we are still up in the middle of the night now.

Not getting enough sleep can affect your memory, performance, health, and your ability to concentrate. Also lack of sleep makes it hard to make decisions. If this is something you struggle with, work on developing better habits for bedtime. I definitely had to. Try making a schedule for bed time, and find out what can actually help you sleep better (Naturally).

 

 

3. LACK OF ROUTINE

Planning productive habits and actually sticking to a routine helped me out in improving my productivity. Now that i am back in fitness. I get up 7:30, take my daughter to school. Come home, make breakfast + pot of coffee. Go work out from 11:30 am – 12:15 pm. Then after all that i come home, clean, and figure out what i am going to cook for the day. After all that, I spend the rest of my day working on my blog. I fell off when it comes to productivity and having a routine. I also began to stress a lot, so now that i am back at it with my routine i have listed above, I haven’t let my stress stop me from taking care of myself.

 

 

My productivity depended on those daily habits. This routine is what kept me on the right path, and motivates me to keep moving forward no matter what is going on in my life. Now that i took a big jump back & created a new routine for myself, my productivity has improved so much. Having a customized routine added to your schedule keeps you focused on the way you move daily. Your life doesn’t have be boring, or difficult just stay more organized.

 

 

4. TECHNOLOGY DISTRACTION

Of course you would think it’s meant to make our lives more productive and more simple, but for the most part, it is the total opposite. Consistently checking your email, checking your social media before & after a nap, every time your phone notification goes off you pick up your phone fast, or when someone is talking to you but your face in stuck in your phone and not the conversation. That is a distraction, a major one. Those are some things that will kill off your productivity and any digital advice is definitely the blame. Digital devices distractions breaks the flow of your productivity. Your brain has to focus on what is important, or else you will lose out on a lot more thank you think.

 

 

5. PERFECTIONIST

If you struggle with being a perfectionist chances are that you also have that “I don’t care ” attitude. It’s when you’re never happy with pretty much anything that comes your way, everything you do has to be done absolutely perfectly or else you will have a fit. There’s also a lot of fear of failure and anxiety involved, but a perfectionist hides it due to caring about what others think. All of this combined can affect your productivity in a big way, no in a EXTREME WAY. The major key is to really focus on your goals and tasks, rather than that fear of making a mistake, because mistakes are going to happen in and out your life. I feel that being a perfectionist is hard to come by, or just a mind thing. but you can start by changing your perspective, the way you think, and realizing just how often you use it as an excuse to not complete your daily goals & task.

 

 

6. LACK OF STRESS MANAGEMENT

Stressful situations can throw you off track. When your mind is clogged up with anxiety, worry, and fear, your productivity falls off. It’s important to know how to manage your stress, and deal with it in a much healthier way. Meditation, yoga, writing/journaling, and just taking care of yourself like you should. Figure out how to cope with repeatedly stress issues.

 

 

7. LACK OF DISCIPLINE + FAILURE TO ARRANGE

When it comes down to it, lack of discipline is one of the main habits that throw your productivity off. There will be plenty of days when you won’t feel like getting things done, days when working on something that’s important to you is the last thing you feel like doing. Motivation comes and goes in and out our lives, and you can’t rely on it to always be there, because trust me it’s not. When you lose motivation you sometimes also lose your willing power to be productive. Focus on building habits that will help you become more self-disciplined and learning to arrange your tasks is one of them. Use your willing power to create more habits that will improve your productivity, rather than depending on motivation all the time.

 

 

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XoXo -Seqouiab

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Mental health counseling works to!

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Hey everyone, hope you all are having a productive and stress free week so far, if not then i also hope this post might can help someone out there.

So some of us usually think that going to therapy can always solve our problems with mental health. Well, yes therapy is good, but if you don’t want to do therapy because it might make you feel uncomfortable or for any other reasons, then counseling is definitely the right choice. Therapy and counseling are two different kind of help. Here is the meaning below of counseling.

Counseling meaning: advice; opinion or instruction given in directing the judgment or conduct of another

          COUNSELING IS MORE CONVENIENT

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Most of us is always busy, either with a 9-5, starting your own business, in college, or whatever you are currently building for your future. For some reason, it’s just always something going on. but…. we can’t complain, because this is the life we live in, right? Well on the other hand that is why most people ignore the fact that they are stressed, depressed, and neglecting the simple fact that they need help and on top of that it’s kind of hard seeking therapy when you are forever busy, that is why i definitely feel that it’s more alternative to consider counseling.

You can go to a counseling group class, or to a direct counselor in person or even online for a two week or three week session, possibly a little more, just to get yourself prepared and better. Counseling is basically the first step, but if your counseling don’t get you better, then that’s when they will refer you to a therapist.

The main serious thing is that you are doing something about it and you aren’t giving up on yourself. You are making a way to get the help you need. What i have realized over the years is that mental health is a struggle, and it is also a battle you have to continue to overcome. Don’t let it grow it to something else.

Ask yourself questions. How are you feeling? What is bothering you the most? What is the next step to get through this? 

Whenever you see a sign of any kind of mental health issues then talk to someone asap. You aren’t alone at all, it’s over millions of people just like you, me, and whoever else that is suffering from mental health issues. It’s nothing to be ashamed about. You can look up different online counseling programs for those who can’t meet up with an counselor.

Your mental health is important. There is so many beautiful people out there that have got so overwhelmed they bodies are still here but mentally they aren’t, and it sucks. You can tell the difference, you can see that happiness isn’t there, you can see that some people have gave up and didn’t fight. Don’t let that be you. We have to encourage one another to keep going and to keep fighting. Everyone needs that helping hand. If counseling doesn’t help then try another method that is close to counseling or look online for others, I am sure that it is someone out there that can really give you good advice, and give you strong words that might just help you push through.

             “Don’t give up on hope, don’t give up on your power, don’t give up on fighting, and don’t give up on helping to move forward in life. There is help out there you just have to have it in your heart.” -SEQOUIAB♠

What are your thoughts on online counseling? I would love to hear your stories. Email me, dm me on my social media, or comment below.

                         Hope you enjoyed this blog, share if you would like :).

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Why should you start a blog?

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So, have it came across your mind on why should you start a blog? 

There are many different reasons why you may want to start a blog. I started my blog basically as a hobby, and it all started from there! There are others who start their blog as a way to make money right from the very beginning, but that’s not a good idea. When you first start blogging, it should be because you enjoy it.

Many people start blogs for all kinds of reasons. Honestly, there is no right or wrong answer why you should start being a blogger.

Below are reasons/ideas you may want to think about while starting a blog.

 1. Be apart of an community: I have met a lot of people through my blog. And, I also enjoy all the feedback from readers and blog friends that I’ve made over time. Being able to connect, meet, and learn from others is one of the biggest positives of blogging.

    2. Grow: Being a blogger can help you grow in so many ways. You will become even more determined in the topics that you enjoy. You will constantly learn, meet new people, and experience new things.

3. Have Fun: If you are into blogging like myself, it will definitely be fun and satisfying for you. I like reading other blog post, finding new people to chat with, and learning new things. Blogging is a fun business to have, regardless of the subject that you are writing about. Who wouldn’t want to travel across the world with out worrying if you going to lose your job? Blogging is a hobby you can turn into your daily job.

4. Blog for others: No matter what type of blog you have, you are helping other people. Someone may be inspired by your posts, they may learn something new and different, they also may find enjoyment from reading your writing.

I like to talk about the benefits of blogging and also like giving out motivation. For me, I have learned a lot and I’m still learning until this day now. I am still educating myself about blogging, and learning how to make extra income, all just by reading other bloggers post. 

Hopefully, my blog posts help and motivate others to be great and to continue there blogging career. For example, I hope that all of my “how to” posts help motivate others to learn how to generate income, and to come up with good ideas and topics to talk about. I also hope that other bloggers purpose of being a blogger is to build a business, help others build, and catch flights more than a ride.

5. Build a business: Blogging can be a great way to improve the business you already have, or to create a business all on its own. I know plenty of successful bloggers and they all say that blogging is the best thing that has ever happened to them. I agree 💯%! While you are blogging weekly/daily it can give you different business ideas, and also help you learn so you can expand and continue to succeed. You have to brand yourself while building, like posting on all social media and mobile professional networks like https://www.linkedin.com.

Hope you got an idea what this post is about. Learn some good tips, and able to figure out why you should start a blog.

XOXO -SEQOUIAB 💕

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