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5 TIPS ON HOW TO BECOME A RELEVANT BLOGGER, Lifestyle Blog

5 TIPS ON HOW TO BECOME A RELEVANT BLOGGER

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There is a lot of people who want to start a blog, But not really posting relevant content that catches the audience attention. Sometimes, people feel as if they post a blog it’s automatically going to get someone’s attention and it doesn’t work that way. Why waste your time posting up blogs Day by day but not doing anything to get attention you need or want. Make your blog relevant, and today I want to show you a few tips on how you can do that.

1. FIND A BAD ASS NICHE

A niche is a specific topic you will be posting about. You know when you go on google and you search (How to be more mindful) and hundreds of blogs pop up, and your clicking on about four different ones so you can get the correct information you need. Well clearly, you can see that topic is popular because a lot of blogs are popping up, so make sure you post something that people actually want to read.

2. CUT THE LAZY CRAP AND GET TO WORK

Yes! Stop being lazy. If you want to become relevant, you have to make yourself relevant. Sometimes we give up when we only get 10 likes on our pictures, 5 views on our articles, and not getting any comments. But what we all fail to realize, everyone started from somewhere. You can’t just wake up and want to start something new and think right then in there you are going to rise up. You will grow over time. Some people have there own time limit when they will get noticed, but you can’t focus on other people and how they are ahead of you. Just do what needs to be done and you will slowly but shortly see how far you have succeeded.

3. CONSISTENCY IS THE KEY

Be consistent with anything you do. Make sure you post daily and share links directed to your blog on every social media platforms. Support yourself first, then eventually people will support you. If you post good topics you will receive good feedback.

4. BE AUTHENTIC

Be real. No one wants nobody to feed them with lies and bs, that’s not a good look. Like when you see other bloggers post “I made $300,000 in a week click here to see how!” Then when you click it, it feeds you with a bunch of bullshit, then tells you “if you want to find out more information save your spot now for the webinar for $250!” Lol! Total scam! Rather if they do have the information, how did they learn the information they are teaching you? I’m sure they figured it out just like how you can. You just have to plan, brainstorm, and not find the easy way in to everything. Honesty is the key to having loyal readers. I don’t know about you but i cling on to people I can trust!

5. CREATE VIDEOS

Videos some how bring a lot of attention. People would like to see you, be visible, chat with your followers or readers. Sometimes physically being visible makes your blogs so much better. Your readers can actually see, hear, and understand you so much better. Sometimes it’s good to just level up and do things a little different.

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/

Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

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27 Self Care Ideas for Emotional and Mental Health

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For those like myself that currently or use to go through mental health definitely can use this blog for some coping ideas. Self care and your emotions play a big part in your life. It’s all about taking care of yourself and doing things that improve your moody ways and working on reducing anxiety while still working on improvement and keeping your life in tact. Go through the list and see what can help you fix the problem.

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Mental Self-Care Ideas

  1. Learn to say ‘no!”
  2. Listen to an encouraging podcast
  3. Treat yourself
  4. Avoid toxic people and toxic energy
  5.  Declutter and clean up
  6. Take a mental health week
  7. Drink some wine, light up some candles, and unwind while having some adult time and relieving some of that tense
  8. Find a comedy movie or t.v. series to watch so you can laugh
  9. Create a cozy space
  10. Talk to a friend
  11. Travel to a beautiful place that gives you peace
  12. Create positive affirmations
  13. Have your own paint & sip at home, or go to one
  14. Meditate
  15. Try journaling on a daily

 

Emotional Self-Care Ideas

16. Practice gratefulness 

17. Write a positive list

18. Practice mindfulness

19. Practice self-compassion daily

20. Be true to yourself without worrying about being accepted by anyone else

21. Let go of your fears

22. Dive into your creativity (Try something different, that will make you feel happy afterwards)

23. Stop over-explaining yourself to others

24. Accept compliments without being combative 

25. Give yourself motivation when moments don’t go as planned

26. Take deep breaths often

 

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43 Journal Prompts for personal growth

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Wow i can’t believe that it’s fall and we almost in October! October is definitely my favorite month!. These are journal prompts to help with personal growth! Hopefully after reading this and taking it to use, you will have more confidence to create a life you love! I also hope these journal prompts will help you change any negative mindsets and help you in every aspect as possible.

 

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  1. Where will I be in 2 years?
  2. What does my ideal day look like?
  3. What unhealthy habits do I need to cut out?
  4. What do I love most about myself? (3 things)
  5. What is something I’ve been wanting to do but have been too afraid to try? 
  6. What are my top 2 goals for this year and how can I achieve them?
  7. What do I struggle with the most? And why?
  8. What are 5 words that describe me best and why?
  9. How can I add happiness to my daily life?
  10. What animal describes me as a person and why?
  11. Why is personal growth so important?
  12. Is it possible to help someone else with his or her own personal growth, or can people only grow on their own?  Why or why not?
  13. What is your best habit?  Why?

  14. What would you say is your biggest strength?

  15. What do you consider to be your most challenging flaw?

  16. What is one aspect of your life you’d like to improve over the next year? What would that improvement look like?

  17. What three to five qualities feel the most important for you to embody?

  18. What is the number one thing that feels like it’s missing from your life right now?
  19. I feel amazing when …
  20. When you are feeling down, what picks you up?
  21. How do you manage stress? Explore what has worked for you and what hasn’t
  22. What are your top life hacks?
  23. List 5 things you love about your home
  24. What are you good at?
  25. What do you often get compliments about?
  26. What do you enjoy doing?
  27. 10 things you love about your life.
  28. When you think about your future what do you hope/wish for the most?
  29. Do you believe everything happens for a reason? If so, reflect and name 1 thing that.
  30. What’s surprised you the most about your life or life in general?
  31. What can you learn from your biggest mistakes?
  32. Write the words you need to hear.
  33. Name a compassionate way you’ve supported a friend recently. Then write down how you can do the same for yourself.
  34. If my body could talk, it would say
  35. Name what is enough for you.
  36. What do you need more in life?
  37. I couldn’t imagine living without…
  38. If I could talk to my teenage self, the one thing I would say is…
  39. Make a list of 20 things that make you smile.
  40.  What is my third most unique strength?
  41. What is something I would miss if I no longer had it?
  42.  What is your biggest win in the last seven days?
  43. What’s the top lesson your mother taught you?

 

 

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Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

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Turn your blog to a million dollar making blog (Small quick valuable tips)

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So of course you’re building your blog, hoping to one day turn it to a full time income and quit your 9-5, but you have no guarantees it will ever pay off because now it’s seeming like these bloggers & vloggers are just making it all up just to take your money.

So many questions will run through your head. What if this blog fails? What if I get no audience? What if I’m wasting my time and meant to do something different? What if I’m really fooling myself thinking I will be able to become rich of being a blogger?

Let’s be real though, building a profitable blog can be tough work. And it takes time before it actually start taking lead towards success. So you have to be patient and learn as you go. But in the process of being patient make sure take these tips into consideration.

1. Research

2. Brainstorm

3. Watch videos

4. Take notes

5. Practice creating your future (ahead) just to see if you see any kind of potential

Find what your creative at. Anyone can be creative. Figure it out, and give it a shot. That creativity might lead you to some real life “moolah”🤑!

Here are a few things I know that help bloggers become millionaires.

•Selling a informative E-book

•Selling digital products

•Starting a YouTube channel with really good content

•Finance blogs (who wouldn’t want to learn how to make money)

•Courses (Teach courses & teach others how to teach courses)

•Start an e-commerce business

•Affiliate marketing

•Subscription programs

•Online and in person coaching

All & all you have to give people value, trust, authenticity, and not just someone who just want’s there money. Make sure you always are genuine and have genuine expertise, because your client is some one you do not want to lose out on. So don’t utilize your own experiences.

I hope these small tips were somewhat helpful at least just giving you a few tips on how you can turn something so small to something so big which means your revenue.

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Hitting your late 20’s? Make the rest of your 20’s a year of self-discovery.

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Now that I’m 28 going on 29 in December, I just realized that I started late when entering in to the entrepreneur world. At age of 27 is when I started to think like wow I’m ready to be wealthy. And truthfully I’m sure other mid & late 20 year olds know that this is the most hardest time in our lives. Why? Because we are finally in adult hood and we are experiencing so much responsibilities. Bills, rent, gas, children, school, work, all of those things put pressure on us.

I was stressing more than actually finding myself and really trying to figure out my next step in life. One day I just woke up feeling different, feeling like I need & want more, feeling like this isn’t for me. It’s a honor to be comfortable with who you are, but at times it wasn’t because I was thinking that people will judge me for just figuring out what I actually want to do in life. So now I know I need to fight off any bad spirits that’s trying to bring me down and stop me from moving forward in life.

Our 20’s should be a year of self-discovery. Try different things until you find what you really like and want. No matter if it’s with someone, or by yourself. There’s nothing wrong going on a journey by your lonesome. Sometimes even relationships can be a distraction, and I wish i knew this then instead of now, but hey life is set up to learn and discover.

When I look back I realized how irresponsible I was, I couldn’t save money for shit, and I was so quick to spend. It’s a time in life where you have to stop buying all that expensive shit when you can save that money for your future success. Now that I’m on a journey for financial freedom and independency Starting now, I been brainstorming and figuring out a plan to build & become wealthy. My mind is already set to become a millionaire 1 day, and I’ll never change that or settle.

I decided late in life that I want to become a blogger. So, I started a blog Sixteen Pages. It has been two years, this is my anniversary blogging month. I always enjoyed writing, being expressive, sharing good advice, and discussing important topics, so I knew blogging was going to be something I’ll enjoy. And It was.

So now I listen to entrepreneurial, money making, and uplifting podcast on Anchor, another one called “podcasts” that came with my iPhone, and a couple more other podcast platforms. Listening to podcast has motivated me in so many ways. I’ve changed my thoughts about sex, relationships, and money. I now have a better sense that anything is possible with faith.

At first I was more afraid then happy to pursue my dreams, now I’m ready. I am not afraid to travel now, I am not afraid to take my brand to the next level, I am not afraid to quit my 9-5 so I can start my adventurous lifestyle while blogging. I am ready to travel out the country to learn, explore, meet new people, promote my brand, and to build my happiness.

In the path of transitioning into the new you, you might lose people on your way. But sometimes I honestly feel “if I lose you, that means you were never meant to be in my life.” You will lose & meet new people, it’s possible.

Make sure you focus on self care. Self care has been very momentum in the past few years. Back then I didn’t understand the concept of self care. Self care involves your health, mental health, appearance, etc. Just taking care of you and making sure you are good first is self care. That’s my motto now and my motto walking into 2020.

Be responsible. Sometimes when we get to a certain age, we start to be unorganized, and that is definitely not good especially if you are stepping into the entrepreneurial life. I admit myself that I am not responsible at times and I slip up. And I learned my lesson, like a big lesson. I remember I didn’t plan out my week for paying off bills, and end up doing something totally different and was broke by the end of the week. I went without gas, small meals, and barely no gas to get work. “Can I say the struggle was real?” I definitely don’t want to go through that again. Be responsible. Sometimes when we get to a certain age, we start to be unorganized, and that is definitely not good especially if you are stepping into the entrepreneurial life. I admit myself that I am not responsible at times and I slip up. And I learned my lesson, like a big lesson. I remember I didn’t plan out my week for paying off bills, and end up doing something totally different and was broke by the end of the week. I went without gas, small meals, and barely gas to get work. “Can I say the struggle was real?” I definitely don’t want to go through that again. That’s why now I created me a planner on Canva. There is an app to by the way. Using a planner has really helped me be more responsible, on time, and way more organized.

If I knew what I know now I’ll tell my younger self to be confident, independent, don’t give up, and focus on what you want and go for it!

“Believe in yourself, know your worth, and focus on positivity & less negativity.”

–Seqouiab

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If you knew what you know now, what would you tell your younger self? Drop down in the comments I’ll love to hear all of you responses 😊

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/ Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/ Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/ Interested into beauty & glowing skin products? I sell lip gloss, glowing skin products just go here: https://sixteenkisses.com

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8 SELF-CARE HABITS FOR THE MIND

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As humans we have to cure our minds & focus on self-care first. We tend to focus more on what’s not important then what’s actually important.

Self-care is doing what needs to be done, and balancing all goals you want to achieve in life. Self-care also nourishes your spirit and pushes you to strive hard everyday.

If you don’t take care of yourself or to harsh on your body you will become overwhelmed. That’s why I’ve pulled together 8 SELF-CARE HABITS FOR THE MIND for you!!

1. Take time off. Striving hard everyday is really important because the whole point is to achieve your goals, but sometimes it becomes tiring & a issue.

 

2. Find some quiet time.  Sometimes our lives are so busy we don’t never have time for peace and quiet.

 

3. Positive self-talk. Often times, you are your own worst critic.  That little voice at the back of your head can get real disgusting.

4. Get Bodywork. Our bodies store emotional tension in ways that we don’t even realize or notice, and bodywork allows us to release that built up tension.

5. Spend Time in Nature. Spending time in nature can actually be healthy for you, such as lowering your stress hormone levels. Get outside. Go explore, hit the beach, go hiking. Enjoy hearing the birds and the sound of waterfalls, enjoy our beautiful nature.

6. Eliminate Toxicity. Eliminate your amount of time you spend in negative situations or people that drain or leave you feeling stressed & over the top.

Always surround yourself around care, love, & positive energy.

7. Feed Your Mind. As a human, of course we are here to grow, learn, and elevate. Learning something new becomes interesting for us humans because it keeps our lives going and more interesting.

Try reading a new book, listening to a podcast, or even go to a museum.

8. Get Creative. Use your creative skills and put them to use. We all have a creative side, sometimes some of us just don’t know exactly what it is. When I say creative I don’t necessarily mean you have to be artistically creative. For an example, I like to take pictures, also I like to dress up, so I will dress up and take multiple photos and edit them, that’s part of my creativity gift. I was always told I take nice photos of myself.

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/

Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/

Interested into beauty & glowing skin products? I sell lip gloss, glowing skin products, and more, and I’ll also be launching more products Tuesday 9/24. Just go here: https://sixteenkisses.com

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25 Journal Prompts For Deeper Self-Discovery & Self-Knowledge

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Journaling has plenty of benefits that can help with your daily lifestyle.

It clears your mind, by de-cluttering it, help you reach goals, increase creativity, help achieve goals, and improves your communication skills.

To deepen your self-discovery, this is definitely a great tool to help with that.

Pick a prompt that speaks to you and answer them with truthful & authentic answers. You might just be shocked at what you might reveal!

Let’s get to it…

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  1. Over the past 2 years i grown to be…
  2. Something I’d like to achieve one day is…
  3. What people mostly say about me, is that…

  4. What I’m most thankful for is…

  5. My #1 goal for the new year is…
  6. The quality i admire the most is…
  7. One thing i always wished for…
  8. The way i gained self-love…
  9. One thing i’ll never forget _________, because…
  10. My all time favorite book that i will reread is _________, because…
  11. The three things i love about myself is…
  12. If I could be a go-to person for anything, it would be…
  13. What is your greatest strength? Describe a time this strength served you well.
  14. What physical characteristics are you most self-conscious about? How could you make peace with those?
  15. Name a movie that spoke to you on a personal level. Why?
  16. You just spent one day home alone. How are you feeling?
  17. To show someone you love them, are you likely to use actions, send a text, are you likely to use words, or another method?
  18. What does a successful look like to you?
  19. What is the best piece of advice you given to someone?
  20. Where do you picture yourself at in the next year or so. Why?
  21. What would you say is your biggest strength?
  22. What are you most fear of?. Why?
  23. What do you consider to be your most challenging flaw of all time?
  24. If you have a problem, who are you likely to go to?
  25. Your to-do list this week is overwhelming. Do you ask for help or give up sleep?

Check out my other journal prompts:

https://sixteenpages.com/2019/08/06/50-journal-prompts-for-self-discovery-and-self-reflection/

https://sixteenpages.com/2019/07/27/self-love-writing-prompts/

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/

Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/

Interested into beauty & glowing skin products? I sell lip gloss, glowing skin products, and more, and I’ll also be launching more products Tuesday 9/24. Just go here: https://sixteenkisses.com

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Have you had a point in time in your life when you felt that you didn’t have no one?: Expressions Part 1

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This Blog is me opening up, and expressing myself about my life. I am focusing on opening about me more and giving out 💯 my authentic self, pure love & honesty.

Have you had a point in time in your life when you felt that you didn’t have no one? You felt stuck, lost, and just wanted to give up. You just feel a strong pain in your stomach that want leave, and you feel useless and full of worry…

Life can really suck at times, because once you become an adult and your life didn’t turn out how you visioned it when you were 16 or even 18, so you just completely feel like all the dreams, visions, and plans you had was a big waste.

You have all these people thinking your so spoiled, or you just live such a happy life, and your perfectly fine….

Well this is me, I am HER. I have been through so much. Sometimes as much as i try to hide it, it still affects me until this day now. But, I can say i am a lot stronger.

Life can just be a hassle at times. It’s like your fighting yourself to be better and not give up on YOU. But, sometimes it’s something that is trying to pull you back from happiness. It can be for multiple reasons. The energy around you, the way you think on a daily, or just the lifestyle you still live that you know that you need to change it. I honestly feel that has always been my problem, “STICKING TO THE SAME LIFESTYLE.”

Sometimes partying, drinking a lot, dealing with toxic people, can make it hard for better life changes. I didn’t take that into consideration, and i still kind of don’t until this day now. Why?… Because it’s hard to just let people go and i know it can turn into a big mess. But of course my confused self ask myself all the time “Seqouia, why do you even care?”

And of course, I really don’t even have an accurate answer for myself. I feel like my life is based on bunch of confusion. I’m tired of waking up angry, I want to wake up with full of happiness. Although i don’t just wake up mad everyday, but it does happens often.

I had to really sit in have self-talks to figure out what can i do to stop feeling the way i feel. How can i change things without making it my problem to stress about it, and not let it bother me from becoming a better version of me? What can i do to make myself, “SEQOUIA” smile more instead of everyone else?

Sometimes i know feelings within yourself can be temporary just because things aren’t really going right at the time. But honestly, who really wants to even be sometimes “depressed.” 

NOT ME!… AT ALL!!

But anyways, these feelings can’t change on its own right? I would have to be the one to fix these issues. As a human of course we don’t feel it’s that easy. We feel that money can change a lot of stress. And sad to say, it’s true for most people! I am one of those people by the way. I will not sugar coat anything i never do. Once i have money in my presence i am totally fine. I make sure i take pre-cautions when it comes to money though, and i am glad i do. One thing about me, although i love money and i may think of other quick ways to make money i never act on my actions, I continue to keep working my damn ass off and do what i have to do.

Over time which is recently, I say about a total of 5 months ago. A little have changed but a lot more needs to still be fixed. Which i am kind of excited about. I mean can’t no one change over night right? It takes time to become a strong WOMAN/MAN, when you have always been weak 1/2 of your life. I always tell myself it’s okay to cry because soon all these sad tears will be tears of joy. Soon all my worries will be complete. That’s the mindset you have to have. You have to know that no matter how you are feeling today, tomorrow, or even next week, those feelings will go away.

I learned over the last few months to be passionate to myself, and to go with the flow. Over time things will be different. Whoever you second thought about being in your life eventually will drift away, all the finance issues you been having will do a full 360, the way you been living will change, and your struggles will no longer be a struggle any more. Sometimes we have to talk things into existence, and keep a positive mindset. I had to learn the hard way, and i mean the HARD WAY. I had to work on being more positive and grateful that i am living pretty okay, because it’s people out there that don’t have a roof over there head and actually need help.

I know i have a lot of goals i would love to achieve but my main goal is “HAPPINESS.” Being happy is more important to me then anything. Because without happiness your life will never feel complete.

I am glad that lately i have been opening up more about myself so my readers can actually get to know me more. I really post blogs to uplift and motivate others, but now I feel the need to just open more to the world, so people can actually feel they know me through words. I look at anyone who is reading my blogs as a friend. Not a “fan or supporter.” You never know who can relate to your lifestyle, and you never know how many people might actually would love to get to know you and learn you.

Opening up and being your authentic self is always a good look and build trust with others. I can write a book about my life and the things I been & go through. That’s why I am sharing to the world and so thankful for god steering me in the direction of becoming a blogger. Blogging is my reliever, my medicine, my go to, and my happiness.

Anyways if you can relate to this blog drop a comment telling a little about yourself that you would like to fix or you can just email it to me 😊.

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How I kept Losing myself to finally gaining myself back and keeping it that way

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I’m sure a lot of people can relate…

In out through my life, I have lost myself, and gained myself back again. Meaning, I have gave up so many times, then i started to be myself again but better.

I definitely didn’t know why, but i do know a lot of millennials, mid 20’s, and late 20’s, go through different changes. Which i can say that can be part of my transition because i am 28.

A lot of women go through a lot of ” Hormonal imbalances”. Which can affect us mentally, and we begin to have mood swings, and so much more. don’t want to get to personal about it. but my point is that, as a woman we go through so many changes, have to deal with so many personal things, and it’s stressful. BEYOND IT.

Dealing with mental health growing up, really had me losing myself. Not loving myself, not caring for myself, and just putting others before me. People use to ask me, “Why are you looking so angry?” and, i was definitely was intrigued by that question, because i didn’t know why people always ask that and i was always curious why. But i figured it out, I had an automatic mean mug smh….

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People said i never had a smile on myself, I always looked angry. And that isn’t good at all. I really started to realize that all around i am wasn’t happy, because people are actually seeing it in my facial expressions. But, truth be told, I didn’t mind it after a while. I was still angry.

I was disappointed within myself. One of the reasons why is because I didn’t graduate on time, not because i didn’t know the work, I just was so stuck into my feelings that i didn’t even knock out 15 credits. Don’t judge me, yes only 15 CREDITS!. That’s all i needed, and I let my pride get the best of me. So, I went to go finish, and I thought i was happy about it and i still wasn’t. I had a kid, and felt that i was to old, and I waited to long to go back. It’s sad that i was ungrateful instead of blessed. Close people around whispered, judged me, and talked about me behind my back because i didn’t graduate on time. And it’s the truth. I knew it, and yes it hurts badly. But, people knew deep down i had an gift, and that behind that angry face it’s a Smart Black Woman. I think people were intimidated by my strong attitude, and no matter how i feel about myself, I was always independent and knew what i was talking about. But i believe people mistaken me to be dumb, because of the “missing 15 credits.” People used that as a weapon against me. So when i decided to go back in finish i did it silently for my own happiness. I knew that this school issue was really one of my weaknesses and one of the reasons why i am not happy.

Dealing with the TOXIC. Toxic played a big part in my life. Arguing with family members, arguing & fighting with my significant other, down talking myself. All that is consider toxic. Not only that it’s toxic, It’s stressful. On top of that, I still was not happy. My level of happiness was up and down.

As I got older, I have realized that i was surrounded around people i shouldn’t surround myself with. I was dealing with people i had no business dealing with. People who do not support you, or want to see you win, is a red flag to NO GOOD! No i am not innocent but growing up remember when your parents always say “Two wrongs don’t make it right!” It’s the truth!

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It takes time to be the best version of yourself, so don’t give up fighting for your confidence. You are beautiful…..”

 

It’s hard to change being around a lot of people who is just like you but worst. And every time you want to change you are dealing with other people negativity, or it’s rubbing off on you. Sometimes you have to stop prolonging these relationships with friends & families or even with your partner, if it’s not bringing any happiness to your life.

I had to realize that life isn’t always suppose to be peaches & cream. At any moment in life you can lose everything, but how will you react to it? Continuously act out on everyone or be strong and move forward. Failure is not an option because it will happen, but you have to understand that.

I started to have insecurities. But that is something i kept to myself for a while. I never showed it, and felt no reason to. It wasn’t that I was insecure in my looks necessarily, but everything else about me I was disappointed in. Instead of complimenting myself I rather compliment others and make them feel good, I really don’t know why, but seeing other people happy always made me feel better. And I been that way for a while until I came to a realization that I need to focus on self-care & self-love. I had to stop loving others more then I loved myself.

When I finally found myself, and figured out who I am and what I want in life I went for it. I decided I wanted to become a blogger & entrepreneur and guess what? I made it happen. I might have ups & downs and things might not made it to where I want it to you, but it’s the principle that I am striving to be the best that I can be and reach my top goal.

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Even though I admit all the time, I LOST MYSELF. But, it’s always time to gain your self again. It’s okay if you fell off a little, but pick up where you left and keep going. Can’t no one interfere what you got going on, only if you let them, SO DON’T!

Moral of the story is, I made this blog to uplift and motivate others that you can go through the hardest time in your life and it’s okay. But, don’t let that become an habit. Just get up and work on you, better you, love you, support you, and keep being determined to achieve your goals. Use your past as a way out the hold on on your way to success.

YOU GOT THIS!!!!

 

 

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How to Manage Anxiety, Lifestyle Blog, Mental health

How to Manage your Anxiety

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    Having anxiety is the most terrifying thing to go through, especially when you are alone. A lot of people don’t know how to cope or manage with the symptoms that comes with this mental health issue. Everyone either reacts the same or a little different with there anxiety but at the end of the day it’s still a disorder that anyone can get at any given time. There are so many ways to manage your anxiety. Here i listed a few tips that might can just help.

      Mindfulness:

       Figure out things that will keep your mind occupied. Be the things that keep you at ease. Focus on self-care and taking care of  YOU in all ways you can. Learn to take and do things more slowly, and try not to be such in a rush through your life too much. 

 

       Routine:

           Create a satisfying routine. Anxiety thrives a persistent worry and fear about your everyday lifestyle. I figured out that coming up with a helpful routine helps eliminate a lot of worry & thoughts. 

 

       Communicate:

  Do not be afraid to discuss your issues dealing with anxiety. A lot of people experience it more than what others think, and suffer from it on different levels. Find some one that will be able to help you justify this issue. Help break the problem so you can be able to help others.

 

        Practice Coping Skills:

Figure out ways you can cope with this mental health issues. What helps you from having episodes? Breathing techniques. Taking a walk. Meditation. Yoga. It’s so many things you can do. Figure it out, and stick to it because once you are able to cope with anxiety, then it will be easier for you to start living a more normal lifestyle, without being in fear on what’s going to happen.

 

        Weekly Schedule:

Try scheduling your week ahead of time. But, make sure you stick to it. Switching up will only makes things worse. When something is triggering you to have anxiety sometimes it can be because your nervous, anxious, worried, tired, and you are just confused and furious on what your week look like. So, on that note creating a schedule will help plan things out better for you.

20 ways to comfort yourself when you don't know what's wrong, Lifestyle Blog, Self Care

20 ways to comfort yourself when you don’t know what’s wrong

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20 ways to comfort yourself when you don’t know what’s wrong

It’s one of those days, and i don’t know maybe things wasn’t suppose to be this way. You had good plans, schedules are been pre-made a head of time, and exciting ideas. But for some odd reason, you just don’t feel right.

Your agitated.

People are being negative and annoying.

You have your favorite baked cookies that just fills you up with joy. No seriously.

And for some weird reason you still feel down.

But I’m here to provide you with some ways to help and some reasons why days like this can slowly grow into a big F*CKING MESS, if you let it :(.

 

 

 

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1. Make a list of any of the following things to give yourself a healthy distraction:

  • Things that make you happy

  • Your favorite tv series 

  • Places you like to go that you don’t really go as much

  • What you’re thankful for

  • Nice things that people always say to you

  • Memories that warm your heart

 

2. Spend some time painting (Even if you aren’t the best) lol

3. Light candles around the house and put on soothing music

4. Give yourself permission to take care of yourself today. It’s okay to put things aside. Taking time to invest in you is important

5. Flush out the negativity and energy out by drinking a large glass of water (Visualize it) +Water gives energy

6. Make some chamomile tea. (Relieves anxiety)

7. Close your eyes and think of your dream vacation

8. Settle in with a good book

9. Let go of guilt. Move on and leave it in the past.

10. Go for a walk in nature without your phone and sink in the atmosphere and inhale+exhale fresh air.

11. Bake your favorite dish.

12. Drink a good ole bottle of wine. 

13. Invite friends over and have game night/movie night. (You need good energy at the moment)

14. Look in the mirror and tell yourself 5 good things about yourself. This is what i tell myself.

  • I’m intelligent
  • I’m beautiful/handsome
  • I’m determined
  • I am thankful for life
  • I am blessed to be myself
  • I love who i becoming
  • I am strong and dominant
  • MY PAST DOES NOT DEFINE ME

15. Take some time for self-care. Paint your nails, take a long bath, do what makes you feel pampered and beautiful.

16. If you have build up bad energy, take yourself to the gym or go for a run

17. Surprise some one special with a gift or take them out. (Making someone smile is the best feeling)

18. Read a good book, but settle in first in get comfy.

19. Don’t stress yourself out figuring out “Why” and just let it go.

20. Give yourself permission to find a funny show on Netflix or Hulu that’s going to make you laugh.

Negative mindset, Tips

4 STEPS TO CHANGING YOUR NEGATIVE MINDSET

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Focusing on you, and looking for different ways to change your mindset isn’t complicated. We make our own choices, and have our own way of thinking. But sometimes the hard part is figuring out different reasons on why we have the mindset we have today and what can we do to fix that. That was me. I literally thought changing the way i think was going to be super easy, but it wasn’t. But the reason why it wasn’t easy is because i allowed it to be hard. I didn’t try hard enough, I didn’t do my research, I didn’t try to work on the most important issue i have within myself neither. So, once i realized it wasn’t working i stopped moving so fast and took my time out to figure out what was the real issue. Here is steps i did myself to help change my negative mindset.

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1. WHERE ARE MY FEELINGS COMING FROM?

This is the first thing you should be asking yourself; where are my feelings of negativity coming from?

Am I going through something?

Are there any changes going on in my life?

Am I keeping up with my health?

Am I taking care of myself?

It’s important to understand why you’re feeling the way you do. Sometimes, it does seem like these waves of negative emotions come out of nowhere, but there’s almost always a reason. It’s not always something that’s obvious; you might have to dig a little to find out what it really is.

More often than not, that uninvited negativity comes from a place of fear. Ask yourself: am I bringing my past fears into the present and future?

Fear can manifest itself in many different ways.

 

2. WHAT CAN I DO TO FIX THE WAY I AM FEELING

There is a lot of things you can do to change the way you are feeling. At times i really was confused, and didn’t really know why i had the feelings i was having. First thing first, you have to work on all the self-doubts. Having self-doubts is actually negative thinking. You have to have hope, you have to believe in yourself and know your worth. These are the things i do to fix all my feelings.

  • Write out the way i’m currently feeling (Journaling)
  • Meditate for 20 mins
  • Take 20 min brief walks
  • Practice mindfulness
  • Focus on trusting in myself

Those are the things i do to fix the way i am feeling. It works for me, especially writing. Writing helps relieve my pain, and release all the thoughts i currently had.

 

3. MOVING FORWARD

Move forward. Don’t take steps backs. Don’t let nothing hold you back from changing your life around. Sometimes you have to leave everything behind you and just find your way from there. Remember everything isn’t always permanent, sometimes somethings are only temporarily.

 

4. STAY CONNECTED WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE

Stay connected with positive people. I don’t about you, but i have no problem connecting with people that is uplifting, motivating, and inspiring. Sometimes when you are having a bad day, it’s good calling someone that will listen to you without no judging. Making an effort to stay connected to a few people or just to a couple, can give you the support you need to feel some temporary relief from negativity.

 

I just honestly feel when you are trying to change your life around, you have to be dedicated. Thinking negative and always focusing on the negative will not help you be positive at all.

You don’t want a negative mindset anymore? Change it! Just go for it. Life isn’t easy, and of course you can’t change over night, but sticking to your plan and knowing that you want to move forward, then do so. Can’t no one stop you from focusing on being a better & wiser you.