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Forgive yourself then Free yourself

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Extremely thrilled to write about this topic. I know a lot of people including myself has or had a dark cloud over their shoulder because of something they fault themselves about. Especially when it’s something we have control of. What we don’t realize is that, it’s just a feeling though. A feeling that’s only temporary. Feelings can’t kill you, but running from them can.

We as humans visualize how things can be so much better then what we are currently going through, but not realizing how much power we have to make our visions come true. But when we doubt ourselves, we are lacking and not pushing towards prosperity. Anybody can prosper, it’s simple. But the mind is powerful and you have to compete with yourself, challenge yourself, and to become a better version of you. Our life is a balance and you just have to learn how to maintain it. Holding on to pain just makes you suffer.

Three words:

  • Free
  • Open
  • Balance

Once you forgive yourself. It’s time to free yourself. You can free yourself from anything that can hold you back. Like for me, I am freeing myself from negative energy, negative people, negative thoughts, disappointments, toxic locations, toxic people, lack of growth, and the list goes on. But what most people don’t realize is that we have more freedom then we think. You have to just open up your mind to new things, it’s always good to venture out.

Try writing down what bothers you, and writing down ways you fixed or ways you can fix those problems. Write down why you haven’t forgiven yourself, then write down how you forgiven yourself. This will give you clarity an will help you open up your mind to finding new ways to cope with what’s bothering you.

I always make sure I encourage people to write ✍️ whom reads my articles because writing definitely does help a lot. Especially if you don’t want to go to a psychiatrist or vent to anyone. Writing is a peace of mind. You can come to a conclusion with a lot of situations in your life.

I really hope this blog helps someone out there with clarity or at least given someone a different outlook on how to move forward in life. Remember forgive yourself, and free yourself!

PSA:

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on moving forward. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took their time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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Decluttering tips: 30 Items to Get Rid Of Today

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Hey friends,

Are you trying to figure out “How do I start decluttering?” or “How do you get rid of clutter at home?”. Don’t worry, I have written 30 things you can throw away today so you can start to declutter right away or when you have time!

If the items you are throwing away are still in good condition where it can be reused, you can actually sell them to make some extra money, or donate them. I use an app called Depop to sell my clothing, shoes, & cosmetics, and I use offer up to sell any reusable devices and other little things!

1. Expired food

2. Expired spices

3. Old chipped up coffee mugs

4. Stained & ripped up towels/wash clothes

5. Old & used up pots and pans

6. Old coupons

7. Old receipts

8. Old cosmetics

9. Old tooth brushes/tooth paste

10. Mitch match socks

11. Old and too small underwear

12. Stained and worn out clothes

13. Used/old gift cards

14. Used candles

15. Unfinished projects

16. Writing utensils that don’t work

17. Dead batteries

18. Damaged items that aren’t fixable

19. Broken phone charges

20. Old phones that aren’t fixable

21. Any empty containers in your fridge

22. CDs that no longer work

23. Books you are more than likely never reading again

24. Old brooms and old mops

25. Stained and worn out sheets + covers

26. Expired medicines

27. Clothes you no longer can fit anymore

28. Irrelevant mail you don’t need anymore

29. Old remotes to tv’s you no longer even have

30. Old house phones you no longer use

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Coronavirus crisis meets Anxiety: How to cope?

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I am most definitely not going to lie, the Coronavirus has been raising my anxiety levels the last few days.

But hey, theirs nothing we can do to control it, but we can definitely help from spreading it.

I won’t all my readers and everyone else out there to be safe and please take all of the advises precautions. Take extremely care of yourself during this worldwide crisis.

I truly know that like myself, and others that struggle with anxiety, the news got me feeling even more ANXIOUS day by day. The reason why I say this is because this virus is spreading and it isn’t really any progress.

Of course I know this article might not help 100%, but in the meantime here are some affirmations to help your anxiety and also help with coping!

•I am capable of solving any problems that face me.

•Stress might make me feel weary, but I am in charge of my mind and body.

•I will be OK.

•At this moment, I choose to feel calm and peaceful.

•I choose to fill my mind with positive and healing thoughts.

•Worry doesn’t do me any justice, I just choose to leave it behind.

•If I can’t control it, I let it go.

•I am attracting positive energy into my body.

•I am safe and in control.

•I am capable of solving any problems that face me.

•I am strong I am alive.

•Anything that weighs me down, I am free of it.

•I am safe, I am in control, I am dominant.

•My body is capable.

•Their is nothing to be fear about, because faith will always rely in my soul.

Please stay safe and follow all of the advisories, watch the news, check on friends & family by phone, and I hope you are able to find some relief from worry, fear, stress, & anxiety soon.

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on getting better. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took there time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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Three techniques to slay your Anxiety

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I suffered from anxiety for years, starting at the age of 18. The Panic attacks and anxiety started at the age of 22, and it definitely took over my life and I found myself avoiding any situation I thought could induce my anxiety. 

The thing with anxiety the more you ignore it, the more it will come hunt you. Sucks right?…  But wait, the more it hunts you, the more difficult it gets.

Sometimes just getting yourself together, like your appearance can change so much in your daily life. Don’t be a debby downer so much and find love within yourself. When we are stressed we get to the point where we just let ourselves go, and all that do is add more to the plate. You definitely want that plate to be empty with no worries. 

In otherwise, SLAY THAT ANXIETY!…

#1 GET IN TUNED WITH YOURSELF

Think about all the good things you notice about yourself. Write it on a sticky note, journal, notes, hell wherever! Find yourself and figure out your happiness. The point where i’m getting to is that in order to be happy you have to make yourself happy. When you make yourself happy then what? you are in tuned with yourself. Can’t nobody tell you nothing different. AT ALL!….

 

#2 REDIRECT YOUR THOUGHTS

\When you notice you are starting to have negative thoughts then redirect your thoughts to something positive. Before i have an upcoming test, or job interview, I would always be negative. “I doubt i’ll pass” “I can’t do this” “I don’t think they will hire me”. Guess what happened when i had those thoughts? I FAILED! I had to start training my mind to turn a negative back to positive , and i still work on this til this day now. 

 

#3 BE MORE WORRYLESS

We have to get out of that “worry” mode. Sometimes when you worry too much it actually triggers you to have anxiety attacks. We apply so much pressure on ourselves and we don’t have to. Live in the moment and be fearless. When you start to worry, find a good solution that can help prevent that. Remember it’s all in the head. Your mind will play tricks on you, especially for those who minds wander 24/7. So you have to play tricks back by winning over anything that’s stopping you from letting go of your worries. If you can’t make it to your close friend party on time? Hey! it’s not your fault. You still haven’t passed that test quite yet? Keep trying. Your close someone is treating you like crap and you don’t know why?! Who cares, let it go!. Stop worrying about situations or people who isn’t making your life no better good or bad.

 

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on getting better. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took there time out to read & observe. Thanks!

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5 TIPS ON HOW TO BECOME A RELEVANT BLOGGER

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There is a lot of people who want to start a blog, But not really posting relevant content that catches the audience attention. Sometimes, people feel as if they post a blog it’s automatically going to get someone’s attention and it doesn’t work that way. Why waste your time posting up blogs Day by day but not doing anything to get attention you need or want. Make your blog relevant, and today I want to show you a few tips on how you can do that.

1. FIND A BAD ASS NICHE

A niche is a specific topic you will be posting about. You know when you go on google and you search (How to be more mindful) and hundreds of blogs pop up, and your clicking on about four different ones so you can get the correct information you need. Well clearly, you can see that topic is popular because a lot of blogs are popping up, so make sure you post something that people actually want to read.

2. CUT THE LAZY CRAP AND GET TO WORK

Yes! Stop being lazy. If you want to become relevant, you have to make yourself relevant. Sometimes we give up when we only get 10 likes on our pictures, 5 views on our articles, and not getting any comments. But what we all fail to realize, everyone started from somewhere. You can’t just wake up and want to start something new and think right then in there you are going to rise up. You will grow over time. Some people have there own time limit when they will get noticed, but you can’t focus on other people and how they are ahead of you. Just do what needs to be done and you will slowly but shortly see how far you have succeeded.

3. CONSISTENCY IS THE KEY

Be consistent with anything you do. Make sure you post daily and share links directed to your blog on every social media platforms. Support yourself first, then eventually people will support you. If you post good topics you will receive good feedback.

4. BE AUTHENTIC

Be real. No one wants nobody to feed them with lies and bs, that’s not a good look. Like when you see other bloggers post “I made $300,000 in a week click here to see how!” Then when you click it, it feeds you with a bunch of bullshit, then tells you “if you want to find out more information save your spot now for the webinar for $250!” Lol! Total scam! Rather if they do have the information, how did they learn the information they are teaching you? I’m sure they figured it out just like how you can. You just have to plan, brainstorm, and not find the easy way in to everything. Honesty is the key to having loyal readers. I don’t know about you but i cling on to people I can trust!

5. CREATE VIDEOS

Videos some how bring a lot of attention. People would like to see you, be visible, chat with your followers or readers. Sometimes physically being visible makes your blogs so much better. Your readers can actually see, hear, and understand you so much better. Sometimes it’s good to just level up and do things a little different.

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/

Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/

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Turn your blog to a million dollar making blog (Small quick valuable tips)

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So of course you’re building your blog, hoping to one day turn it to a full time income and quit your 9-5, but you have no guarantees it will ever pay off because now it’s seeming like these bloggers & vloggers are just making it all up just to take your money.

So many questions will run through your head. What if this blog fails? What if I get no audience? What if I’m wasting my time and meant to do something different? What if I’m really fooling myself thinking I will be able to become rich of being a blogger?

Let’s be real though, building a profitable blog can be tough work. And it takes time before it actually start taking lead towards success. So you have to be patient and learn as you go. But in the process of being patient make sure take these tips into consideration.

1. Research

2. Brainstorm

3. Watch videos

4. Take notes

5. Practice creating your future (ahead) just to see if you see any kind of potential

Find what your creative at. Anyone can be creative. Figure it out, and give it a shot. That creativity might lead you to some real life “moolah”🤑!

Here are a few things I know that help bloggers become millionaires.

•Selling a informative E-book

•Selling digital products

•Starting a YouTube channel with really good content

•Finance blogs (who wouldn’t want to learn how to make money)

•Courses (Teach courses & teach others how to teach courses)

•Start an e-commerce business

•Affiliate marketing

•Subscription programs

•Online and in person coaching

All & all you have to give people value, trust, authenticity, and not just someone who just want’s there money. Make sure you always are genuine and have genuine expertise, because your client is some one you do not want to lose out on. So don’t utilize your own experiences.

I hope these small tips were somewhat helpful at least just giving you a few tips on how you can turn something so small to something so big which means your revenue.

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/ Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/ Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/ Interested into beauty & glowing skin products? I sell lip gloss, glowing skin products just go here: https://sixteenkisses.com

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Hitting your late 20’s? Make the rest of your 20’s a year of self-discovery.

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Now that I’m 28 going on 29 in December, I just realized that I started late when entering in to the entrepreneur world. At age of 27 is when I started to think like wow I’m ready to be wealthy. And truthfully I’m sure other mid & late 20 year olds know that this is the most hardest time in our lives. Why? Because we are finally in adult hood and we are experiencing so much responsibilities. Bills, rent, gas, children, school, work, all of those things put pressure on us.

I was stressing more than actually finding myself and really trying to figure out my next step in life. One day I just woke up feeling different, feeling like I need & want more, feeling like this isn’t for me. It’s a honor to be comfortable with who you are, but at times it wasn’t because I was thinking that people will judge me for just figuring out what I actually want to do in life. So now I know I need to fight off any bad spirits that’s trying to bring me down and stop me from moving forward in life.

Our 20’s should be a year of self-discovery. Try different things until you find what you really like and want. No matter if it’s with someone, or by yourself. There’s nothing wrong going on a journey by your lonesome. Sometimes even relationships can be a distraction, and I wish i knew this then instead of now, but hey life is set up to learn and discover.

When I look back I realized how irresponsible I was, I couldn’t save money for shit, and I was so quick to spend. It’s a time in life where you have to stop buying all that expensive shit when you can save that money for your future success. Now that I’m on a journey for financial freedom and independency Starting now, I been brainstorming and figuring out a plan to build & become wealthy. My mind is already set to become a millionaire 1 day, and I’ll never change that or settle.

I decided late in life that I want to become a blogger. So, I started a blog Sixteen Pages. It has been two years, this is my anniversary blogging month. I always enjoyed writing, being expressive, sharing good advice, and discussing important topics, so I knew blogging was going to be something I’ll enjoy. And It was.

So now I listen to entrepreneurial, money making, and uplifting podcast on Anchor, another one called “podcasts” that came with my iPhone, and a couple more other podcast platforms. Listening to podcast has motivated me in so many ways. I’ve changed my thoughts about sex, relationships, and money. I now have a better sense that anything is possible with faith.

At first I was more afraid then happy to pursue my dreams, now I’m ready. I am not afraid to travel now, I am not afraid to take my brand to the next level, I am not afraid to quit my 9-5 so I can start my adventurous lifestyle while blogging. I am ready to travel out the country to learn, explore, meet new people, promote my brand, and to build my happiness.

In the path of transitioning into the new you, you might lose people on your way. But sometimes I honestly feel “if I lose you, that means you were never meant to be in my life.” You will lose & meet new people, it’s possible.

Make sure you focus on self care. Self care has been very momentum in the past few years. Back then I didn’t understand the concept of self care. Self care involves your health, mental health, appearance, etc. Just taking care of you and making sure you are good first is self care. That’s my motto now and my motto walking into 2020.

Be responsible. Sometimes when we get to a certain age, we start to be unorganized, and that is definitely not good especially if you are stepping into the entrepreneurial life. I admit myself that I am not responsible at times and I slip up. And I learned my lesson, like a big lesson. I remember I didn’t plan out my week for paying off bills, and end up doing something totally different and was broke by the end of the week. I went without gas, small meals, and barely no gas to get work. “Can I say the struggle was real?” I definitely don’t want to go through that again. Be responsible. Sometimes when we get to a certain age, we start to be unorganized, and that is definitely not good especially if you are stepping into the entrepreneurial life. I admit myself that I am not responsible at times and I slip up. And I learned my lesson, like a big lesson. I remember I didn’t plan out my week for paying off bills, and end up doing something totally different and was broke by the end of the week. I went without gas, small meals, and barely gas to get work. “Can I say the struggle was real?” I definitely don’t want to go through that again. That’s why now I created me a planner on Canva. There is an app to by the way. Using a planner has really helped me be more responsible, on time, and way more organized.

If I knew what I know now I’ll tell my younger self to be confident, independent, don’t give up, and focus on what you want and go for it!

“Believe in yourself, know your worth, and focus on positivity & less negativity.”

–Seqouiab

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If you knew what you know now, what would you tell your younger self? Drop down in the comments I’ll love to hear all of you responses 😊

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/ Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/ Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/ Interested into beauty & glowing skin products? I sell lip gloss, glowing skin products just go here: https://sixteenkisses.com

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8 SELF-CARE HABITS FOR THE MIND

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As humans we have to cure our minds & focus on self-care first. We tend to focus more on what’s not important then what’s actually important.

Self-care is doing what needs to be done, and balancing all goals you want to achieve in life. Self-care also nourishes your spirit and pushes you to strive hard everyday.

If you don’t take care of yourself or to harsh on your body you will become overwhelmed. That’s why I’ve pulled together 8 SELF-CARE HABITS FOR THE MIND for you!!

1. Take time off. Striving hard everyday is really important because the whole point is to achieve your goals, but sometimes it becomes tiring & a issue.

 

2. Find some quiet time.  Sometimes our lives are so busy we don’t never have time for peace and quiet.

 

3. Positive self-talk. Often times, you are your own worst critic.  That little voice at the back of your head can get real disgusting.

4. Get Bodywork. Our bodies store emotional tension in ways that we don’t even realize or notice, and bodywork allows us to release that built up tension.

5. Spend Time in Nature. Spending time in nature can actually be healthy for you, such as lowering your stress hormone levels. Get outside. Go explore, hit the beach, go hiking. Enjoy hearing the birds and the sound of waterfalls, enjoy our beautiful nature.

6. Eliminate Toxicity. Eliminate your amount of time you spend in negative situations or people that drain or leave you feeling stressed & over the top.

Always surround yourself around care, love, & positive energy.

7. Feed Your Mind. As a human, of course we are here to grow, learn, and elevate. Learning something new becomes interesting for us humans because it keeps our lives going and more interesting.

Try reading a new book, listening to a podcast, or even go to a museum.

8. Get Creative. Use your creative skills and put them to use. We all have a creative side, sometimes some of us just don’t know exactly what it is. When I say creative I don’t necessarily mean you have to be artistically creative. For an example, I like to take pictures, also I like to dress up, so I will dress up and take multiple photos and edit them, that’s part of my creativity gift. I was always told I take nice photos of myself.

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/

Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/

Interested into beauty & glowing skin products? I sell lip gloss, glowing skin products, and more, and I’ll also be launching more products Tuesday 9/24. Just go here: https://sixteenkisses.com

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25 Journal Prompts For Deeper Self-Discovery & Self-Knowledge

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Journaling has plenty of benefits that can help with your daily lifestyle.

It clears your mind, by de-cluttering it, help you reach goals, increase creativity, help achieve goals, and improves your communication skills.

To deepen your self-discovery, this is definitely a great tool to help with that.

Pick a prompt that speaks to you and answer them with truthful & authentic answers. You might just be shocked at what you might reveal!

Let’s get to it…

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  1. Over the past 2 years i grown to be…
  2. Something I’d like to achieve one day is…
  3. What people mostly say about me, is that…

  4. What I’m most thankful for is…

  5. My #1 goal for the new year is…
  6. The quality i admire the most is…
  7. One thing i always wished for…
  8. The way i gained self-love…
  9. One thing i’ll never forget _________, because…
  10. My all time favorite book that i will reread is _________, because…
  11. The three things i love about myself is…
  12. If I could be a go-to person for anything, it would be…
  13. What is your greatest strength? Describe a time this strength served you well.
  14. What physical characteristics are you most self-conscious about? How could you make peace with those?
  15. Name a movie that spoke to you on a personal level. Why?
  16. You just spent one day home alone. How are you feeling?
  17. To show someone you love them, are you likely to use actions, send a text, are you likely to use words, or another method?
  18. What does a successful look like to you?
  19. What is the best piece of advice you given to someone?
  20. Where do you picture yourself at in the next year or so. Why?
  21. What would you say is your biggest strength?
  22. What are you most fear of?. Why?
  23. What do you consider to be your most challenging flaw of all time?
  24. If you have a problem, who are you likely to go to?
  25. Your to-do list this week is overwhelming. Do you ask for help or give up sleep?

Check out my other journal prompts:

https://sixteenpages.com/2019/08/06/50-journal-prompts-for-self-discovery-and-self-reflection/

https://sixteenpages.com/2019/07/27/self-love-writing-prompts/

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/

Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/

Interested into beauty & glowing skin products? I sell lip gloss, glowing skin products, and more, and I’ll also be launching more products Tuesday 9/24. Just go here: https://sixteenkisses.com

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Have you had a point in time in your life when you felt that you didn’t have no one?: Expressions Part 1

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This Blog is me opening up, and expressing myself about my life. I am focusing on opening about me more and giving out 💯 my authentic self, pure love & honesty.

Have you had a point in time in your life when you felt that you didn’t have no one? You felt stuck, lost, and just wanted to give up. You just feel a strong pain in your stomach that want leave, and you feel useless and full of worry…

Life can really suck at times, because once you become an adult and your life didn’t turn out how you visioned it when you were 16 or even 18, so you just completely feel like all the dreams, visions, and plans you had was a big waste.

You have all these people thinking your so spoiled, or you just live such a happy life, and your perfectly fine….

Well this is me, I am HER. I have been through so much. Sometimes as much as i try to hide it, it still affects me until this day now. But, I can say i am a lot stronger.

Life can just be a hassle at times. It’s like your fighting yourself to be better and not give up on YOU. But, sometimes it’s something that is trying to pull you back from happiness. It can be for multiple reasons. The energy around you, the way you think on a daily, or just the lifestyle you still live that you know that you need to change it. I honestly feel that has always been my problem, “STICKING TO THE SAME LIFESTYLE.”

Sometimes partying, drinking a lot, dealing with toxic people, can make it hard for better life changes. I didn’t take that into consideration, and i still kind of don’t until this day now. Why?… Because it’s hard to just let people go and i know it can turn into a big mess. But of course my confused self ask myself all the time “Seqouia, why do you even care?”

And of course, I really don’t even have an accurate answer for myself. I feel like my life is based on bunch of confusion. I’m tired of waking up angry, I want to wake up with full of happiness. Although i don’t just wake up mad everyday, but it does happens often.

I had to really sit in have self-talks to figure out what can i do to stop feeling the way i feel. How can i change things without making it my problem to stress about it, and not let it bother me from becoming a better version of me? What can i do to make myself, “SEQOUIA” smile more instead of everyone else?

Sometimes i know feelings within yourself can be temporary just because things aren’t really going right at the time. But honestly, who really wants to even be sometimes “depressed.” 

NOT ME!… AT ALL!!

But anyways, these feelings can’t change on its own right? I would have to be the one to fix these issues. As a human of course we don’t feel it’s that easy. We feel that money can change a lot of stress. And sad to say, it’s true for most people! I am one of those people by the way. I will not sugar coat anything i never do. Once i have money in my presence i am totally fine. I make sure i take pre-cautions when it comes to money though, and i am glad i do. One thing about me, although i love money and i may think of other quick ways to make money i never act on my actions, I continue to keep working my damn ass off and do what i have to do.

Over time which is recently, I say about a total of 5 months ago. A little have changed but a lot more needs to still be fixed. Which i am kind of excited about. I mean can’t no one change over night right? It takes time to become a strong WOMAN/MAN, when you have always been weak 1/2 of your life. I always tell myself it’s okay to cry because soon all these sad tears will be tears of joy. Soon all my worries will be complete. That’s the mindset you have to have. You have to know that no matter how you are feeling today, tomorrow, or even next week, those feelings will go away.

I learned over the last few months to be passionate to myself, and to go with the flow. Over time things will be different. Whoever you second thought about being in your life eventually will drift away, all the finance issues you been having will do a full 360, the way you been living will change, and your struggles will no longer be a struggle any more. Sometimes we have to talk things into existence, and keep a positive mindset. I had to learn the hard way, and i mean the HARD WAY. I had to work on being more positive and grateful that i am living pretty okay, because it’s people out there that don’t have a roof over there head and actually need help.

I know i have a lot of goals i would love to achieve but my main goal is “HAPPINESS.” Being happy is more important to me then anything. Because without happiness your life will never feel complete.

I am glad that lately i have been opening up more about myself so my readers can actually get to know me more. I really post blogs to uplift and motivate others, but now I feel the need to just open more to the world, so people can actually feel they know me through words. I look at anyone who is reading my blogs as a friend. Not a “fan or supporter.” You never know who can relate to your lifestyle, and you never know how many people might actually would love to get to know you and learn you.

Opening up and being your authentic self is always a good look and build trust with others. I can write a book about my life and the things I been & go through. That’s why I am sharing to the world and so thankful for god steering me in the direction of becoming a blogger. Blogging is my reliever, my medicine, my go to, and my happiness.

Anyways if you can relate to this blog drop a comment telling a little about yourself that you would like to fix or you can just email it to me 😊.

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How I kept Losing myself to finally gaining myself back and keeping it that way

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I’m sure a lot of people can relate…

In out through my life, I have lost myself, and gained myself back again. Meaning, I have gave up so many times, then i started to be myself again but better.

I definitely didn’t know why, but i do know a lot of millennials, mid 20’s, and late 20’s, go through different changes. Which i can say that can be part of my transition because i am 28.

A lot of women go through a lot of ” Hormonal imbalances”. Which can affect us mentally, and we begin to have mood swings, and so much more. don’t want to get to personal about it. but my point is that, as a woman we go through so many changes, have to deal with so many personal things, and it’s stressful. BEYOND IT.

Dealing with mental health growing up, really had me losing myself. Not loving myself, not caring for myself, and just putting others before me. People use to ask me, “Why are you looking so angry?” and, i was definitely was intrigued by that question, because i didn’t know why people always ask that and i was always curious why. But i figured it out, I had an automatic mean mug smh….

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People said i never had a smile on myself, I always looked angry. And that isn’t good at all. I really started to realize that all around i am wasn’t happy, because people are actually seeing it in my facial expressions. But, truth be told, I didn’t mind it after a while. I was still angry.

I was disappointed within myself. One of the reasons why is because I didn’t graduate on time, not because i didn’t know the work, I just was so stuck into my feelings that i didn’t even knock out 15 credits. Don’t judge me, yes only 15 CREDITS!. That’s all i needed, and I let my pride get the best of me. So, I went to go finish, and I thought i was happy about it and i still wasn’t. I had a kid, and felt that i was to old, and I waited to long to go back. It’s sad that i was ungrateful instead of blessed. Close people around whispered, judged me, and talked about me behind my back because i didn’t graduate on time. And it’s the truth. I knew it, and yes it hurts badly. But, people knew deep down i had an gift, and that behind that angry face it’s a Smart Black Woman. I think people were intimidated by my strong attitude, and no matter how i feel about myself, I was always independent and knew what i was talking about. But i believe people mistaken me to be dumb, because of the “missing 15 credits.” People used that as a weapon against me. So when i decided to go back in finish i did it silently for my own happiness. I knew that this school issue was really one of my weaknesses and one of the reasons why i am not happy.

Dealing with the TOXIC. Toxic played a big part in my life. Arguing with family members, arguing & fighting with my significant other, down talking myself. All that is consider toxic. Not only that it’s toxic, It’s stressful. On top of that, I still was not happy. My level of happiness was up and down.

As I got older, I have realized that i was surrounded around people i shouldn’t surround myself with. I was dealing with people i had no business dealing with. People who do not support you, or want to see you win, is a red flag to NO GOOD! No i am not innocent but growing up remember when your parents always say “Two wrongs don’t make it right!” It’s the truth!

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It takes time to be the best version of yourself, so don’t give up fighting for your confidence. You are beautiful…..”

 

It’s hard to change being around a lot of people who is just like you but worst. And every time you want to change you are dealing with other people negativity, or it’s rubbing off on you. Sometimes you have to stop prolonging these relationships with friends & families or even with your partner, if it’s not bringing any happiness to your life.

I had to realize that life isn’t always suppose to be peaches & cream. At any moment in life you can lose everything, but how will you react to it? Continuously act out on everyone or be strong and move forward. Failure is not an option because it will happen, but you have to understand that.

I started to have insecurities. But that is something i kept to myself for a while. I never showed it, and felt no reason to. It wasn’t that I was insecure in my looks necessarily, but everything else about me I was disappointed in. Instead of complimenting myself I rather compliment others and make them feel good, I really don’t know why, but seeing other people happy always made me feel better. And I been that way for a while until I came to a realization that I need to focus on self-care & self-love. I had to stop loving others more then I loved myself.

When I finally found myself, and figured out who I am and what I want in life I went for it. I decided I wanted to become a blogger & entrepreneur and guess what? I made it happen. I might have ups & downs and things might not made it to where I want it to you, but it’s the principle that I am striving to be the best that I can be and reach my top goal.

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Even though I admit all the time, I LOST MYSELF. But, it’s always time to gain your self again. It’s okay if you fell off a little, but pick up where you left and keep going. Can’t no one interfere what you got going on, only if you let them, SO DON’T!

Moral of the story is, I made this blog to uplift and motivate others that you can go through the hardest time in your life and it’s okay. But, don’t let that become an habit. Just get up and work on you, better you, love you, support you, and keep being determined to achieve your goals. Use your past as a way out the hold on on your way to success.

YOU GOT THIS!!!!

 

 

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7 ways of changes to improve your life, Lifestyle, Motivation and Growth

7 ways of changes to improve your life

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1. BE MORE MINDFULNESS

Learn to take and do things more slowly, and try not to be such in a rush through your life too much. Enjoy your favorite t.v shows, book, or food. Just relax and enjoy your surroundings. Pay more attention to people around you. Live a little, stop being so hard on yourself.

 

2. ORGANIZE +DE-CLUTTER

So when you aren’t organized, and you have things everywhere and not where it suppose to be it can be very overwhelming. Especially if it been a while. Make a plan and pick a perfect day for you to just do a full 360 on your home. Make a list of things that need to be done, and list the rooms in order you gone do first to last. Throw out things that you are holding on to but you don’t have to hold on it, let it go throw it away! Make an effort to do a good clean up more often so you don’t have to go through this as often.

 

 

 

3. BRING OUT YOUR CREATIVE SIDE

We are all creative humans. Being creative doesn’t require knowing how to just paint or draw. You can be creative in having your own style, cooking recipes, make up, or even creating your own product from home. You can find different ways of being creative by simply doing research or surprising yourself with hidden talent you didn’t even know you had until you try something different.

 

 

 4. PLAN OUT YOUR MEALS

Planning out and prepping our meals every Sunday for the week ahead makes life SO much easier. I no longer have to wonder what I’m making for dinner while on my way home from work. Also, when you prep and pack your own lunch you’re less likely to reach for junk food (Which we don’t need), not to mention that it also saves you money. I’m sure it’s someone out there like me need to stop wasting money on eating out and changing up there health. Since i have done that, i spend way less money on food now, which is a blessing. Don’t get me wrong i slip up sometimes, but for most part i am better.

 

 

 

5. MEDITATION

If you are a busy body like me with a packed schedule or suffer from anxiety+depression, a once a day meditation will help you be more calmer, and hopefully may stay that way. I know for me it did. Meditation reduce stress, and give you the ability to not feel so much pressure in your daily lifestyle. I have an app that i been using called head space, here is the link  ⇒⇒⇒ Head Space Sign up Click Here.  Head space is guided meditation, when i tell you that it makes my life easier it does! I recommend this 100%!.

 

 

 

6. FIND A HOBBY

This is absolutely my favorite topic. Finding a hobby is well worth it i promise. When you figure out something you can do in your spare time, like learning a new skill, sewing some things on your sew machine, or writing a book, you don’t have to focus on the stress in your life. This is how i started blogging, one day i was just surfing the internet and i came across a blog. Then i started doing my research. So then i decided maybe i should give it a try, and BOOM! i did. Now i love it. I love blogging so much i decided to take blogging to the next level and making it more of a business instead of an hobby.

 

 

7. 30 MIN DAILY WALKS

Oh yes! I find myself more productive when i do daily walks, mostly better in the am, but anytime is okay. Even if you don’t do other extra work outs, taking a walk is fine, Get your head phones, and just walk around your neighborhood for some fresh air. A little work out won’t hurt. If you do it everyday you will feel a difference mind/body wise. Even if you grab a friend to come with. Time yourself and make a check list so you can see your progress.

 

 

          Honestly you can’t expect things in your life to change over night, especially if you aren’t pushing for change, You have to be determined to move things forward in life. Don’t never give up on learning and growing, everyday there is something new discovered and it can be relevant knowledge for yourself. Try to start off with the simple first, then from there you go forward. Feel to check out a similar blog Click this.

 

                         Hope you all enjoyed this blog, and hope it was helpful :).

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